How did you know your marriage was over... Describe in three words...

[LondonGrimmer]

Or maybe a short sentence. I have massive doubts. Just wondering how others knew...

That should say ‘she was pregnant’
There are now 2 children.

He (50) had a girlfriend (24) he got pregnant. And he left me.
Yep. Only good thing is that I did not live in limbo.

They lost interest.

It was a long term, long distance relationship. I turned up and found every trace of me had been stripped from our flat.

Similar. I’m glad I’m not with him now though. I also glad I’m not the one who looks totally knackered 😂

So very familiar

Same here. A thought I’d had too which does highlight it had ended !
The lack of communication, empathy , the belittling, criticism, his anxiety, and eventually lack of respect, it came to a head in August, losing his temper and hitting the wall in front of my face, I reached the point that “It is over”
He finally moved out early December. So 2022 is a fresh new beginning.
Good luck to everyone else who needs the courage to end a relationship .

@Marcipex wonderful poetry. Sad story 🥲

He told me he was at work after his receptionist told me he wasn’t and I told him I was at his work and I was actually in a supermarket calling him for advice. He had no idea if I was actually at his work as he was out having sex with the new girl at work. They both had the day off.

1st exH - He beat me
2nd exH - He left me

When my daughter said, "He's done things to me."

@Rachna83

He bought me an electric toothbrush and his sister received an expensive eyeshadow pallet. Said it all.

They're about £25 those toothbrushes!

I used to dread him coming home from work. I used to sleep as far away from him as I could in bed. The sight of him naked with an erection made me nauseous.

vanguard

For your daughter and for you

Pomers
Same as you.
Everything my fault (according to him).

When he kept texting on his phone, asking when I was going out, kept nipping downstairs late at night as he thought he had left lights on (to text the girlfriend), chose to get a room at a local hotel rather than come from a work Christmas party - when we only lived 15 mins away, getting his hair cut in an expensive salon. I asked him to leave (or get help as the Dom Violence/sexual assaults kicked in 4 months earlier). That was 11 years ago and our children were 6 & 3 at the time. We have had no contact in 10 years and myself & my children are better off without him in our lives. He was soooo controlling. Now with my soul mate and my children love him ❤❤❤❤

1 grabbed me by the throat and slammed me into the cupboard so hard the knob hit my spine so hard it dislocated four vertebrae and fractured one disc which pinched my spinal cord, whilst I was holding our very small newborn baby.

The second I was raped.
I have to see one of the fathers regularly. I hate my life. If it wasn’t for my children I wouldn’t be here.

Yes - everything was ALWAYS my fault...

He hit me.

Then made it my fault like everything else.

When I was scared, had social services on the door step and realized I needed to step up, protect my child and myself and work my arse off to get us out of the shit situation we were in

When I received a (hastily deleted) WhatsApp message intended for the OW. I'd read it before it was deleted 🤮

You feel nothing

Lazy
Lying
Arsehole

I couldn’t stand to be around him anymore.

I agree @Marcipex's post read like a poem by Hollie McNish. Are you a writer? You should be

@SunshineCake1 @wifeinthenorth and @Samiamnot thanks for asking. I'm ok thanks. Some of these replies are rather harrowing to read So glad the women posting are now out of those awful situations.

I guess as there's no affair, no abuse, nothing shocking or obvious then it makes it harder. I've been asking for counselling on/off for about three years but he always downplays our arguments and thinks it's just normal long term relationship stuff. I always thought it was he who wouldn't want to go but now he's agreed I'm wondering if I can be bothered. I've struggled with low mood and signs of depression for past 18 months or so then lost my dad this year (mum died years ago) so struggled again. Always think our unhappy marriage is due to my poor mh but maybe it's contributing to it...

@darumafan

He slapped the baby

That is seriously fucking chilling, glad (hope) you got away from him.