How did you know your marriage was over... Describe in three words...

[LondonGrimmer]

Or maybe a short sentence. I have massive doubts. Just wondering how others knew...

Exhusband - didn't want to live another ten years as I had the previous ten.
Exfiance - he said I helped him feel better about himself, he made me feel much worse.

@Hen2018

He wouldn’t let me have sanitary towels

Jesus. You’re ok now though? Oh. That brings me to tears.

@endofbluenight

When I realised that if the police knocked on my door to tell me he had died I would not be able to hide my relief.

I had a similar realisation.

He was a nasty abusive arsehole, and was beginning to target the DC instead of me. I'd go home and hesitate to enter the house.

I got me and the DC away, and he refused to pay child support, but then, he struggled in paying for anything that didn't benefit him. He swallowed up most of a large redundancy payout I had.

Last year, around the end of November, the police came knocking at my door. He died suddenly at work. I felt nothing but relief and he can't be there to look over my shoulder any more.

Our now adult DD was now his NOK, and the kids have inherited everything. We're moving back into his house and I won't have to worry about rent payments.

@grapewine

He sexually assaulted me. Relationship not marriage.

Blimey. You safe now? 100%?

When he didn't pass me the meat plate at a dinner party
He just served himself and put it back down.

When he gave me a bag of buttplugs for a Christmas gift

When I'd made an amazing cake fir a friend's child's christening and I'd written the speech to go with it.
He went out of the room when I wheeled the cake in

What is pegging? Not game enough to look it up on google

He became increasingly critical of me, spiteful and bullying towards me, encouraged our boys to mock and disrespect me. He was a different person at home to in public. I had cancer n recovered. I think he hated people caring about n supporting me. I wanted to go to uni to retrain when my younger son was 7. That was the final straw. That I should try to come out from under the stone. He had affairs from then on n I had the courage to divorce him. He tried to destroy my confidence n fought for the boys and wanted me penniless. I had a decent solicitor n was happy with a 50/50 split.
I never looked back. I am with a kind and gentle man now.
No-one should tolerate a person who deliberately hurts or wants to control them...
We all deserve love, freedom to be ourselves and respect xx

He had affair

Gave me ptsd

I stopped caring.

He asked to separate our money, after 28 years of sharing

Wished he'd crash ( his motorbike)
Got the ick
Just stopped caring

Turned out
He was cheating

He shagged my best friend

TurquoiseDragon I'm so happy for you. A friend of mine had a similar experience. I dont believe in karma but....😃

I was sick of crying !
I'm not a crier , in the 4 years since we broke up I've only cried once - that's when I had really bad pmt and was feeling sorry for myself!

Hope you're ok @LondonGrimmer?

When a counsellor said "please think what you're modelling to your children about healthy relationships" (she was SO right!)

He walked away from our 3 teenage children when marriage ended. I wish him dead everyday for that!

Currently 3 years into horrible divorce and A LOT of debit just trying to get a fair financial resolution.

@exaltedwombat

That was funny. Got any more ?

What surprises me is that these ghastly men find willing women to cheat with. Don't they see through the sods?

@Properjob I hardly think of him now. I haven't begun dating again yet, but feel healed enough to try next year.

Lost all respect for my ex when I caught him dressing in ladies clothes I asked if he was transgender as it became a daily thing he said it wasn't I stopped loving him from that moment.
A few weeks before my birthday I received a letter from DWP with my name and another name on it, and when I asked who is this person was I was informed that it was his new name and he wanted me to address him as a her.
I then received divorce papers on my birthday which was 2 weeks later, I then found out he paid for it using my credit card.
He told me it was all my fault because I resented the fact that he stayed at home all day and refused him sex ( I was always tired) but I worked 12/16 hr days for over 15 years of our marriage as he didn't want to work at all even his parents moaned at him to get a job.
In all our married time I was not allowed access to the finances until he left which was the day after my birthday. I then found out he had not paid a single bill for 3 months. I could have lost my home lucky for covid the council could not start eviction process.

He slapped the baby

Total parade pisser

@LondonGrimmer

Some of these are striking a chord with me:

Happier on own
Easier on own
Don't miss him (not that he goes out often but when he does, even for a few hours, I feel like I can breathe again and have more energy)
No empathy (from him)
Don't fancy him

Not sure if it's enough to end the marriage though. Think Covid, lockdowns, two kids etc has added to the feelings. Hoping counselling will help us repair, for the kids' sakes really.

This all feels so familiar. I feel like for the last 4 years I've constantly had ups and downs but the down always last longer than the ups and I always find myself picturing/planning unmarried life.

Have you two spoken about it? How does he feel?

Shagged bridesmaid

She’s pregnant…