I am quite a private person and rarely post pics of myself online. I'm a bit overweight and rarely like pictures that are taken of me.
We have two young adult DCs (18 & 21) who also HATE having pictures of them posted anywhere.
DH knows this. It has been discussed before.
Because of previous experiences it is hard to get the DCs to agree to any family photos ever.
On Christmas Day insisted on taking a photo of us in front of the tree. One DC specifically said "you're not going to post this anywhere are you?" and DH said not and 'it was just a record for the family'.
I didn't see it afterwards, but was busy cooking and probably was red-faced and shiny etc in the photo.
Today I got a message from a friend (also friends with DH on FB) saying 'nice photo of you all on DH's page - haven't the DCs grown' etc.
When I asked him about it, DH:
- denied posting a pic
- then said it was just one
- denied ever saying he wasn't going to post any of the pics he took
- said the reason I hadn't seen it was because of 'the FB algorithms'
- eventually showed me that he'd posted two photos
- admitted that he'd changed the privacy settings so that the DCs and I wouldn't see them (I,e, All friends EXCEPT me & DCs)
- Told me it was his 'right' to post pictures of 'his' family
- Refused to accept that there was anything wrong with what he'd done
- Claimed it was my fault for being so controlling
- Claimed he HAD to do it this way because he knew 'we'd make a fuss'
He kept trying to argue it was my fault until I calmly told the DCs and asked their opinion and they were both angry with him too.
I am really upset. Probably less about the picture than I am about the lying and deception. He has done things like this before and we have had arguments about 'white lies' and me feeling I can't trust him.