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How to cope with being deprioritised (as Chris Whitty put it)

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Deprioritised · 17/12/2021 11:01

I’m a single parent with no extended family and get quite lonely. Have had some unsuccessful relationships including emotionally abusive exH who destroyed my self esteem so trying to stay away from men for now. I do have some lovely friends and invited them over for drinks on Saturday. However they are all cancelling. I totally understand as they have to prioritise Christmas with their families. However it has brought up some really difficult emotions for me and leaves me feeling really rejected and unimportant. I know that’s my issue and I need to find a way to cope with it.

Unfortunately although I have a lot of friends I have no best friend and am often left out of plans. My friends matter to me a lot more than I matter to them. They will prioritise other friends and family over me. That’s entirely their choice but it’s hard having no one who prioritises me and I need to find a way to cope with it. I’m thinking finding a way to accept it as I don’t think I can change anything. Does anyone have any words of wisdom please?

OP posts:
ImJustMadAboutSaffron · 21/12/2021 08:37

@dotparker

Really feel for you, op. I was single for a long time with no kids or family and everyone has other people more important in their lives. So many people don't even realise how isolating life can be. I used to wonder if I died who would find me, and the only answer would be someone from work.
This is me. No children, no family, just friends, who all have families!
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