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anyones who's dp/dh left them for ow and still with them years down the line?

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pinguthepenguin · 18/12/2007 21:27

I've a couple of threads running about various aspects of splitting up and managing children etc.
Seem I may be indulging in a spot of self-torture here....but

Have any of you been left by your ex for another woman, and they are still with said woman years later, in love, more kids, all fluffy and happy?
I know things aren't always black and white....and sometimes you just fall in love with someone else...but generally speaking, do you think these things last? My ex wasn't a womaniser at all...quite the opposite in fact.

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ginnedupudding · 20/12/2007 21:49

Layla17 and MOAP - you will both meet someone else. These days it doesn't put men off like it used to.
I was 35 with a 5 and a 2 year old when I met dp. He was a neighbour, and a friend of a friend. I thought I'd never meet anyone, and tbh I didn't want to as I was quite happy on my own but he just showed up in the right place at the right time and I went for it.
We have our ups and downs but I'm so glad I met him.

ginnedupudding · 20/12/2007 21:49

Why did I do that twice? Sorry

mummyofaprincess · 20/12/2007 22:11

ginnedupudding i`m so glad your happy now, what you went through like me was horrific.

I hope also that one day i meet someone who will take me and my children on aswell, people like you really do give me hope for my future

ginnedupudding · 20/12/2007 22:19

In my case, it has not all been plain sailing, we have our problems, but I'm a lot stronger now and less of a doormat than I was with ex. This is because having been through the nightmare and come out the other side, I now know I can cope on my own if I have to and its made me stand up for myself more and to actually realise that I deserve to be happy.
(In other words, I'm a right stroppy cow now )
Seriously, it took a long time to build up my confidence again and to stop blaming myself, but I got there in the end, and so will you.

mummyofaprincess · 20/12/2007 22:20

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mummyofaprincess · 21/12/2007 13:36

mistletoemiggins WOW i have just sat and looked at both of your threads and i am so very proud of you for all you have achived!

I know in the second thread that you didnt want the OW seeing your dcs i feel the same, did you let her see them in time? I dont think i will ever let her by my DCs but is that fair of me?

My xp reminds me of you xh, i`m so glad you are happy now with a new dp

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