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Dating Thread 220 - where we forget about pensions and get back to dating

988 replies

WeWantTheFinestWines · 08/12/2021 14:39

The Rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. Know your worth.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

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FabulousMrFifty · 10/12/2021 15:28

[quote SpringlikeBunk]@Naimee87

I got a posh ready meal, prawn curry with rice whilst saying “normally I like to cook from scratch” with a tinkly feminine laugh Hmm

On dates I’m basically the female equivalent of the bloke on the beach sucking his stomach in when attractive women walk by.[/quote]
I am that bloke 😂😂

JustThisLastLittleBit · 10/12/2021 16:00

I had a Chevette free off my grannie. A piece of shite as you say @FabulousMrFifty, so much so I never got close to even a snog in it!

Shayelle2009 · 10/12/2021 16:37

Its a good plan @SpringlikeBunk but you’re definitely not ‘selfish’ for thinking you would prefer someone who is perhaps going to be a bit nearer and that you could ‘build’ a relationship with, physically and face to face 🙂 x

OnwardsEverStridingOnwards · 10/12/2021 16:55

Hi all,

Had a call with my GP today. They are going to undertake blood tests for Rheumatoid Arthritis Sad

VanGoghsDog · 10/12/2021 17:35

I once shagged a guy in a Nissan van, he was driving it on the M11 at about eighty miles an hour at the time, and I was looking over his shoulder out the rear window.

Oh.....good times.....! 😂

BelladiMamma · 10/12/2021 17:59

Wow well I've never had sex in a car. I'm clearly missing out...! Strangest places? Swimming pool? (His place in the S of France). Otherwise fairly pedestrian. Must rectify this.

Shayelle2009 · 10/12/2021 18:00

Shagged an ex in the sea in Spain. In broad daylight. Loads of people about 🤣🤣

BelladiMamma · 10/12/2021 18:28

@Shayelle2009

Shagged an ex in the sea in Spain. In broad daylight. Loads of people about 🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣❤️❤️❤️ Nothing gets in the way of lurve
FabulousMrFifty · 10/12/2021 18:29

@VanGoghsDog

I once shagged a guy in a Nissan van, he was driving it on the M11 at about eighty miles an hour at the time, and I was looking over his shoulder out the rear window.

Oh.....good times.....! 😂

As long he kept both hands on the steering wheel at all times, don’t see any issue
Isitreallyme177 · 10/12/2021 18:33

Isn't it lovely when you get a message out of the blue from one of your oldest and dearest friends (like a brother to be fair) and he opens it with "how are you doing shit face! I mean my lovely xxx". Just to ask how I am.🥰 such a nice little thing.

JustThisLastLittleBit · 10/12/2021 19:00

Shagged my FWB in a hot tub in broad daylight a couple of years ago, and my XH in the sea. I don’t find cars sexy really, too many bits to stick in you. Would LURVE a truck!

Naimee87 · 10/12/2021 19:23

Seem's we are all somewhat adventurous on here! Never done it outside... or anywhere 'public' where i could be seen.
I was once unable to find his truck because there were so many and it was so dark...the police were circulating the resttop i got a bit worried they'd think i was a prostitute or something and ask me what i was up to! Luckily he came to my rescue just in time...
I'm FINALLY home and able to relax with some chocolate and a kids film! My DS even came off the PS4 no discussion or anything! Yay!!!!

Isitreallyme177 · 10/12/2021 19:38

I've done it in a ruined church opposite a brewery @Naimee87

SpringlikeBunk · 10/12/2021 19:51

"And i highly doubt you have to do any 'sucking' unless it's the goooooooooood kind! Mwahahahahah!"

@Naimee87 please stop lowering the tone of an already morally bankrupt thread Grin

SpringlikeBunk · 10/12/2021 19:57

Messaged MrTescos to suggest meeting sunday afternoon and he's countered with tomorrow evening which I'm not 100% happy with tbh.

SpringlikeBunk · 10/12/2021 20:04

(He's dead attractive - I'm just more in a place where I want to pace things a bit, and I'm just not accepting the "sex people" guys who show no interest unless "the likely sex date" is offered early on?

One thing I did (do) like about MrHedgehog was he was (is) great in bed but not pushy at all and asks about fifty times if he's putting too much pressure on, before displaying a lot of technical competency).

SpringlikeBunk · 10/12/2021 20:15

Am moaning about energy levels now to him. He's nine years younger, I'm kind of the "older woman fantasy gone wrong" Hmm

SpringlikeBunk · 10/12/2021 20:19

Not sure how comfortable I am with the suggested schedule changing - comes across like he's sulking a bit as he wanted the Saturday night date, and I shouldn't have to explain myself twice?

Shayelle2009 · 10/12/2021 20:22

Don’t do anything if you don't fancy it Spring. Do what you want to do.

SpringlikeBunk · 10/12/2021 20:27

Yeh it's a bit much @Shayelle2009 Hmm

I'll just stick to my original offer and not be too "quick to initially judge", we'll go from there.

I think as I'm still emotionally an igel-lover I may be causing problems where there aren't any - i.e. I'd have made time for MrHedgehog?

SpringlikeBunk · 10/12/2021 21:03

Back to Sunday Hmm.

Still feeling a bit edgy but I guess just meet and see what happens.

I don't actually have a clear aim for my date zeros at the moment so will just take it one contact at a time.

StartingAgain6369 · 10/12/2021 21:33

OMG you lot! There are no words 🤣🤣🤣

I'm presuming a sofa doesn't count as an exciting place

Isitreallyme177 · 10/12/2021 21:44

@StartingAgain6369 you mean you haven't done it at a Costa drive thru?😬🤣

FabulousMrFifty · 10/12/2021 21:56

Sofa, chair, kitchen chair, floor in front of.log fire ( those things spit), bed, shower back seat of car, think that’s about it,

Hot tub sounds great

StartingAgain6369 · 10/12/2021 22:17

@Isitreallyme177 no...... not yet at the Costa drive thru but its now on the list 😜 (do you think I would get my Costa points)

The only thing I would say about the sofa is I nearly got suffocated 🙈 and it wasn't by a cushion

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