Dating Thread 220 - where we forget about pensions and get back to dating

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The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Haha @Shayelle2009 I said to Lucy this morning why did I get a male cat! He farts as well!☠🤦‍♀️

And definitely nun like sisters together 🤣

@Shayelle2009 nice you had a good time! And i love how you talk about your dad. Mine is the same, was lovely to have them
here when i had to take the exam. Hmmm it's a tough one with the apps. You seem in a good headspace so be careful as you wouldn't want to upset that so close to Christmas?

@Eesha I'm loving the bozo as a new description. I think MrA is bozo level 3 the 'can't be arsed dating is too complicated' one. Where you're jaded and you can't see past the day to day of your existence. Lust / feelings aren't enough to get you kick started. Even with MrPoet, my FWB 3, I'm prepared to make an effort beyond just messages.

@FabulousMrFifty glad to hear you're back to cheeriness. Best just to sack off any energy suckers.

@Naimee87 it does sound like you're in a good place. The next few weeks are difficult for everyone but you could maybe suggest a date in January and see what happens?

@Shayelle2009 my Dad is certain we should cancel. But I was thinking of ordering a Boots one for when we land in Gatwick, if we go.

I'm still definitely hung up on MrA and MrBeau. Just going to sit here with those feelings and let them wash through. The date zeros tomorrow are genuinely promising and I've got a few other chats on the go.

In other news I've also discussed with someone I know who could provide some back up for DD so that when she is with her Dad or with me and I need to work, she's got someone who can fetch her and be in the house. I've also got the option of occasionally having a house nearer her school to cut out on a lot of the travel. All of this will cost money but will enable me to get back to work.

@BelladiMamma i do love his truck. I think last month i literally met him an hour after he got his brand new one. So i helped set it up inside. Made the bed while he connected netflix and his ipad. So funny
to think this is now so normal for me. I've probably had more sex in a truck than anywhere else. I know more about switzerland because of him. Would just be nice for us to see each other without time pressure and commitments! How you feeling? Yep we all need to be made to feel special if that makes sense! I've got the child psychologist today and the family therapist and someone else to see about the school. Had to hand some papers to the teacher as well. Walked into the classroom, handed them over without even saying hello to him! Awful waste of space that speci-man.

I also love how people are using in other news i'm thinking i could maybe have had a hand in starting this and i think it's brilliant its catching on.

@Naimee87 I love in other news my Mum uses it all the time too ... on that note, DD doesn't want to complicate her life by having someone else to rely on. I think she finds it so stressful and difficult just to juggle her approach to her Dad and contact with him that for her this is just another layer 😞

I guess I could just try it out and see what happens. I questioned her about the detail of what happened the other night when he left her hanging for 2.5 hours after 6pm and she just broke down and didn't want to discuss it. I'm not surprised, it's totally out of order and her dad should be ashamed of himself

[quote Naimee87]@BelladiMamma i do love his truck. I think last month i literally met him an hour after he got his brand new one. So i helped set it up inside. Made the bed while he connected netflix and his ipad. So funny
to think this is now so normal for me. I've probably had more sex in a truck than anywhere else. I know more about switzerland because of him. Would just be nice for us to see each other without time pressure and commitments! How you feeling? Yep we all need to be made to feel special if that makes sense! I've got the child psychologist today and the family therapist and someone else to see about the school. Had to hand some papers to the teacher as well. Walked into the classroom, handed them over without even saying hello to him! Awful waste of space that speci-man.[/quote]
This is so funny and cute. I think you take the prize for most off the wall dating venues 😁

I bet you'll all look at trucks and truckstops mighty differently nowadays! Haha! Although finding a eye-candy driver is pretty rare... (well not for me but we are all very aware i'm a mahussive odd-ball)

I nothing interesting to offer, but in other news, had a hedgehog running around the garden the other day, and a had a Woodpecker eating the sunflower hearts.
Never had sex in a Truck 🛻, but did do it the back of a Vauxhall Chevette one time, and there ain’t a lot room in the back of them things I’m telling you

@FabulousMrFifty just googled that vehicle and you're 6ft or over aren't you, then that's a pretty confined space to be getting jiggy in! Hope it was worth it!

[quote Eesha]@StartingAgain6369 ouch....hopefully you are OK with the dynamic now. I would be suitably frustrated and avoid them (but then I'm silly)[/quote]
@Eesha
The dynamic is not ideal, we had a major fall out late September, After reading some of the comments on this list at the time I decided to speak to Ms YM1 and it didn't quite go to plan

That night we had a heated WA exchange and I told her never to text me again. About 10 days later she did text thanking me for her DS bday present and asking if I was ok, I'll be honest my reply was a bit blunt and childish but I was still annoyed

I then had a massive guilt trip about the whole situation and went into her work the following lunchtime with chocolate to apologise. She gave me a massive hug, I said I was sorry and she said there's no need to apologise

Since then we have slowly rebuilt the friendship, we've been out for a meal, been around for a cuppa. Last Friday I spent most of the day sorting her car out.

So I really don't know what to do, I know I should walk away but I can't but saying that I don't think she can either.

I think her exH has put her off men for life, the divorce was horrific and he's still throwing his weight around 5 years on

I can't really say too much more because it's an open forum but I'm hoping long term everything will come back together like we previously had

@Naimee87 Ha! That would have been back in 1980 something or the other, probably 7 or 8, when I about 18, 3 stone lighter and much more flexible,.. even so, yes a pretty confined space,
Can’t really remember it, so probably not v good…, that car cost me 250 quid and an absolute piece of shite, I do remember that.

( cant believe you had to Google an image, but was probably looonng before you were born )

@FabulousMrFifty @Naimee87
A Vauxhall Chevette was a great car, loads of leg room I started off in a Fiat 127 a right old rust bucket

@Naimee87 definitely agree that was a lovely observation - some people just have that “vibe” which makes us chill with them and life feels more energised after we’ve met?

And even if they’re not the “logical choice” it’s that feeling of peace and contentment rather than overanalysing.

I’ve shagged in the back of a Ford Fiesta before 🤣🤣 many years ago, my fiancé! Fun times 😄

I do find tradesmen in a big expensive shiny pick-ups quite hot, I think it would be quite fun to shag a hotty in one one day! Goals for 2022 perhaps 🤣🤣

@FabulousMrFifty
Hahaha! I did have to google it! 1987 was when i decided to make my presence known to the world, so i'm no spring-chicken really. Bought my first 'anti-wrinkle' cream the other day. How's your work situation with your colleague gone? And as for MsBusiness (i think) sounds like there are some unresolved issues here. She seem's to want to pick you up and drop you whenever she feels like it, do correct me if i'm wrong though. But no one deserves to be treated that way. She is perhaps not as content with herself/her life at the moment and is distracting herself from it by leaning on you...
@StartingAgain6369 why is it you think you should walk away? Is it only one sided, as in you'd like more but she wouldn't. Always tricky these types of situations. I've god the most loveliest neighbour whose been a god-send with the school shit-show currently on-going (and getting no better) but he's admitted to having feelings for me and i absolutely don't know what to do. I'm hooked on magnet-man and really don't see a future with my neighbour as there isn't any attraction to him. Do you know if MsYM1 is prepared to see how things go further down the line, is their potential for anything to develop? Either way you sound really decent and a catch much like @FabulousMrFifty. Seem's being nice and decent doesn't get you far these days though, guess this is why i'm being walked all over by the school. Time i got tough and properly stood up for myself and my DS!!!

@SpringlikeBunk yea sometimes i can be 'oh so very wise'!

I like the sound of MrTesco. Did you say you'll see each other again on sunday? Shame about MrHedgehog but it seemed an awful lot of effort for little reward. That being said you seemed to connect on a career/intellectual level which is so rare to find these days.

Loved your story on wanting to browse the chocolate isle. I was chatting to @Isitreallyme177 about this as i just love chocolate and cake! More so cadburys and galaxy! But here I either have to spend a fortune on it, like 2.50GPB for a twirl as they sell them in a snooty bookshop or i buy mega parks of celebrations and scoop out all the galaxy's but NOT the caramel ones, whoever approved the decision to add caramel should have been fired with 'immediate effect (affect not sure which word is correct to use) anyway i'm sure you get my point.
What did you settle on then as you one item!?

@Shayelle2009
Have to be honest when I was young I never got up to any car gymnastics mainly because g/f at the time was quite a bit older than me, we worked at the same place which involved a bit of travel

@Naimee87
I owe you a Yorkie bar but if you make it to the Feb meet I have a friend who works for Cadburys ................

@StartingAgain6369 I’m in much better shape now aged 40 than I was 22 years ago. Never did any exercise then! Age is nothing but a number 🙂 and a state of mind.

@Naimee87

Aye, the Hedgehog is not off the radar yet - agree I feel very drawn to him. He messaged last night.

But realistically we’re talking a few months of applications, possible big country to country relocation on his part....I don’t think it’s helpful for me to “hang about waiting to see what happens with him”, as it will stress both of us out?

I am kind of a selfish cunt (feel my work is more important than his) , but also knowing myself firsthand the kind of focussed effort it takes to get an academic position/prepare etc I don’t want to be going “well what about ME!!!!!” in the background.

So I think basically “not forsaking other options and putting my life on hold” but just keeping in touch is the plan there

@Naimee87 , 87 (should have guessed really), wow, just a slip of a girl then !.
I think Ms Business is used to getting her own way most of the time, so maybe she is do that with me, but fuck her ( or not.. )

@Shayelle2009
I did think about getting a Ranger for a while, to carry my mountain bikes
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But a guy a work has got a big Van for his, he goes away for the weekends riding with his GF ( he’s is really keen), it’s a proper , shaggin wagon in the back..

@Naimee87

I got a posh ready meal, prawn curry with rice whilst saying “normally I like to cook from scratch” with a tinkly feminine laugh

On dates I’m basically the female equivalent of the bloke on the beach sucking his stomach in when attractive women walk by.

@SpringlikeBunk after the day i had which isn't even nearly over i needed that little giggle! This thread really does take your mind of the serious-shit life throws at you for a bit! I'm hoping it was lovely and delicious! And i highly doubt you have to do any 'sucking' unless it's the goooooooooood kind! Mwahahahahah!