Dating Thread 217: Is it burning bright or fizzling out?

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The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Date outfit question, Mr Artist has asked me out so I don't want to go all out with a dress as per usual as its a food date. I'm thinking a loose shimmery top with jeans? Any other ideas? I have so many pretty tops but boring bottoms

@Eesha

Date outfit question, Mr Artist has asked me out so I don't want to go all out with a dress as per usual as its a food date. I'm thinking a loose shimmery top with jeans? Any other ideas? I have so many pretty tops but boring bottoms

Boring bottoms and sexy tops are perfect 🤩

I'd wear my black leather pencil skirt, a black sleeveless top and bright pink suede stilettos if I went on a dinner date. If it was raining if would be black patent stilettos. I do love my high heels though.

@VanGoghsDog

LOL - and you know that type of guy isn't actually some brilliant, cultured type anyway.

Think I'll leave off any bookings etc till closer the time - quite tempted by a central posh pub/bar place with food so that people can drop in as they like and order what they like to their own budget?

(and ring up a few days or so ahead if we need a largish table).

Otherwise it will be getting everyone to turn up for Y time and that is often a little bit more difficult?

(This is like organising a big date zero )

@Isitreallyme177 you sound hot! You should be going on a zillion dates! Thanks @BelladiMamma, my jeans are so so but my tops are lovely. I feel like I can dress it up a bit too with beautiful jewellery.

@Isitreallyme177

I'd wear my black leather pencil skirt, a black sleeveless top and bright pink suede stilettos if I went on a dinner date. If it was raining if would be black patent stilettos. I do love my high heels though.

Wow 🤩 that's quite an outfit 😁

@Eesha

Another date outfit option is to casual-ise the dress or skirt look a bit.

So wear say a red miniskirt with thick black tights and long flat boots and a bigger less fitted jumper or sweater.

Or a dress over flats with make-up and hairstyling minimal and jewellery neutral.

Currently like the "casual but flattering it a bit" look for date zeros.

@Eesha thanks I live in jeans and trainers most of the time. Even for work I'm now in jeans as no one else is wearing so called work clothes anymore. I spent the summer in shorts. Covid has made getting dressed up a thing of the past.

@SpringlikeBunk I like the sexy casual look too. I'm always in ankle boots or trainers but tend to wear dresses. As its dinner plus I'm not expecting it to go past date zero, I want to look sexy casual as that's how I'm most comfortable these days.

@BelladiMamma thanks, I was going to wear it out for my birthday but that got cancelled.

[quote Isitreallyme177]@BelladiMamma thanks, I was going to wear it out for my birthday but that got cancelled.[/quote]
Oh my! You need an excuse to wear that skirt and outfit combo 🔥

Thanks for the extra hugs everyone.

So long as I can get her back to school tomorrow ♥️

I am totally up for all the plans in London including a gallery mooch. However as shown by this weekend, I may need to go 'commitment lite' and see what's going on with my DD.

More importantly, I'm going to outfit plan for it. I'm thinking dress with casual jumper and ankle boots 😊

@BelladiMamma

No worries at all - obviously I'm not LeaderBunk and just trying to co-ordinate things a bit.

But trying to stay mindful that everyone will have their own commitments and preferences and social stamina levels?

I cracked and messaged MrA who left me a lovely voice note in return.

Hoping I get some more positive energy tomorrow. Remembering that life ebbs and flows and I've been here before. And to the pp who said they let their daughter think of that as a real option, I think it's probably quite healthy. People need to know that they don't have to accept to be treated like sh1t

@BelladiMamma

All about comfortable footwear for the Tube and walking for me . And it will be freezing in February I expect so coats and hats!

[quote SpringlikeBunk]@BelladiMamma

No worries at all - obviously I'm not LeaderBunk and just trying to co-ordinate things a bit.

But trying to stay mindful that everyone will have their own commitments and preferences and social stamina levels?[/quote]
Absolutely 😊

I for one am quietly hoping that DD will get invited to a weekend long sleepover so I can come and have fun 🤩

[quote SpringlikeBunk]@BelladiMamma

All about comfortable footwear for the Tube and walking for me . And it will be freezing in February I expect so coats and hats![/quote]
Ahh bloody 🥶 weather. You're right!

@Eesha

Date outfit question, Mr Artist has asked me out so I don't want to go all out with a dress as per usual as its a food date. I'm thinking a loose shimmery top with jeans? Any other ideas? I have so many pretty tops but boring bottoms

I like girls in tight blue jeans, lovely ☺️

@JustThisLastLittleBit

God that is sick-making, *@VanGoghsDog*, I actually feel quite angry that anyone can be SUCH a pretentious twat!

@BelladiMamma I’m sorry your DD and you are going through this. My youngest DD had a hard time with my XH from about 14 onwards, we were still together but definitely derailing and he seemed to take his feelings about this out on her rather than me. I desperately wanted them to retain a relationship, as you do, but after a couple of years I did say to her that she could consider telling him just to get lost if that would help her (she did and still does deserve a much better father than him…). I think my quiet support for that possible strategy did help her cope with her feelings, though in the end she didn’t have the conversation with him, she just quietly backed off. She’s now 26 and they have a fairly good relationship, considering he’s a twat, the backing off lasted just a couple of years. I suppose what I’m saying is that what happens between them now won’t necessarily end their relationship. I don’t know if that helps (probably not, sorry!)

I can make 5/6 February in London, if you’re still taking ayes @SpringlikeBunk?

This was a very helpful insight. All I want to do is to protect her from hurt 😔

Soho might be fun! Bodega looks good and their upstairs seems bookable. Lovely suggestion.

I will absolutely feel like a frump among all you elegantly sexy things, but on the other hand there will be tequila 🍸

@WeWantTheFinestWines

Soho might be fun! Bodega looks good and their upstairs seems bookable. Lovely suggestion.

I will absolutely feel like a frump among all you elegantly sexy things, but on the other hand there will be tequila 🍸

I'm a committed frump. When people say "jeans and a nice top" I think "do they mean clean jeans? What is a nice top?". I always dress wrong somehow, too casual, too smart, too cold, too hot, it's never right. And no matter what it is, I look like Vera

VanGogh that's hilarious! I think you're my twin 😂

lol @WeWantTheFinestWines and @VanGoghsDog this is a planned meeting of intelligent women and men from diverse backgrounds and ages I expect everyone will be in all sorts! London is very "anything goes" from the full works to really casual.

I dunno what I'll do yet but if I'm walking lots/using the Tube/busses/sightseeing I'm having a warm coat and flats for sure!

@Eesha

Date outfit question, Mr Artist has asked me out so I don't want to go all out with a dress as per usual as its a food date. I'm thinking a loose shimmery top with jeans? Any other ideas? I have so many pretty tops but boring bottoms

This plus heels equals hot !