Dating Thread 217: Is it burning bright or fizzling out?

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The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Thanks @SpringlikeBunk for pulling this weekend together, you’re amazing! I think Soho /Covent Garden area would be lovely, there’s lots of nice places round there and fun to mooch, also you can walk over the Waterloo bridge and you have the Tate Modern, bankside etc all within nice strolling distance. This is also a very lovely pub /restaurant but on the South Side of the river swanlondon.co.uk but I think people would like it too

swanlondon.co.uk/

@BelladiMamma and @Eesha hope youre both ok today after shitty incidents with your exs!

So looking forward to seeing everyone in Feb now! Hope everyone doesn’t think I’m a dick though, I’m not intelligent, cultured or well read like everyone here and I love tattoos 🙈 haha x

@Isitreallyme177 I also like the 6am places!! Soho and Shoreditch for that then 😬

There’s also this place, nice and big good food, good cocktails, by the river
www.iguanas.co.uk/restaurants/london-royalfestivalhall

@Shayelle2009 lol at you being a dick. You're definitely not a dick and anyway if we all liked the same things life would be so boring!!!

@SpringlikeBunk @VanGoghsDog my wardrobe runs the whole gamut of anorak to fake fur so let's just see which Bella turns up on the night 🤣

As for the my ex and my DD all I can say is it was such a relief to see her eat today and get dressed in her school uniform. I'll take another day to feel straight again and am planning on going to the gym today to try to get the endorphins flowing.

@Shayelle2009 my best friend's husband owns his own tattoo parlour, you're not a dick🤣. Oh and yeah we'll be the ones at 6am waiting for the first train home then🙈🤣

Thanks for the tips @Shayelle2009 it’s great we’re getting some good ideas of things to do fingers crossed for a dry day you’re right South bank/walking by the Thames is pretty special

Also glad @Isitreallyme177 and @WeWantTheFinestWines suggested moving past the Xmas/jan party period as it just means it’s less crowded and pressurised for booking?

Unless something changes all the big galleries are free though we may need to just check in online on the day for track and trace.

@Shayelle2009 Please don't say people will think you're a dick, its a chance for people from all walks of life to get together.
I am also not intelligent, cultured or well read. I like tattoos and I'm currently one session (out of 4) into a back tattoo.
I will also join the 6am gang with you and isit😂

I'm with the 6am-ers! Last place i was out-out at was a dive-bar that sold Laughing Gas balloons ended up with a ton in my bag and a very spacey head for a while after that.
I've tried the whole 'sophistication lady' thing it just isn't me!

didn't even get the word right 'sophisticated' i meant 🤩

Lol at “out-out” @Naimee87

I think with organisation tbh the priority first is just getting everyone in one central place at one time with a drink meeting and chatting and then we can all go from there.

I’m not on a massive budget myself but London isn’t “expensive expensive” if you’re not going to the uber cool venues/taxis everywhere. Also have to admit I’m turning into a lightweight so can’t drink too much but I guess that’s cheaper!

Very up for dancing though so if that’s the vibe for a while that’s good with me

I have this
www.hush-uk.com/kinsey-sequin-skirt-black/003453-0456-6.html?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIqfb3r4CL9AIViuGzCh2uUwOBEAQYASABEgLiMvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds#fo_c=1586&fo_k=16f6ea8ef44523d35d74398a35633872&fo_s=gplauk

and have just bought this

www.clarks.co.uk/c/Pure-Caddy/p/26143536

oops, wrong board!

@Naimee87 I have so many stories about laughing gas balloons. I'll have to tell you some of them one day, the best and worst was spinning around doing them.🤦‍♀️. What we did when we were young.

@Eesha I like the skirt 😍

[quote Eesha]I have this
www.hush-uk.com/kinsey-sequin-skirt-black/003453-0456-6.html?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIqfb3r4CL9AIViuGzCh2uUwOBEAQYASABEgLiMvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds#fo_c=1586&fo_k=16f6ea8ef44523d35d74398a35633872&fo_s=gplauk

and have just bought this

www.clarks.co.uk/c/Pure-Caddy/p/26143536[/quote]
I think it's the correct board 😁

I wouldn’t mind going “out out”, roll on the 6am club 😁

@StartingAgain6369 I've given up on heels as I hate seeing that teetering on heels look in town. I always want to be comfortable enough to walk and talk (possibly a covid thing when all anyone could do was walk)

@Isitreallyme177 cut from the same cloth it seems!
@Eesha on the weekend i saw clearly a date '0' unfolding with some youngsters and the girl had on the highest stiletthos (how do you write that properly) she was so unable to walk in them it was hilarious. She could barely pick up her feet let alone balance. Judging by the guy's face she was meeting he did not seem impressed at all. We were at the trainstation so town is a fair walk away... why do they do it?

@Naimee87 one of my best friends is a great one for crazy heels when she is out. It looks extremely stylish but then she hates walking anywhere. Perhaps it's my age but I want to enjoy the chat and the evening rather than being uncomfortable. That said I've had my fair share of heels!

I’m enjoying the style tips. My style is more geek glam, for my last date I wore clingy dungarees with a dinosaur top underneath. And comfy shoes. Seemed to do the trick

Every single person on this thread is clever, witty, funny and awesome - I don't care what anyone says!

My days of wearing size 7 heels are long behind me, although I've got some excellent wedges for when I don't have to walk much. But London is made for walking. Driving around the countryside getting fat I often miss my 20 years of pounding the streets of West or Central London, music blaring in my portable music device of the day, feeling like I was in a music video 😂😂

I'm not sure I'll be in the 6am crowd, but I'm well up for propping up a bar into the wee small hours 🍾🥂

I'm loving all the bar suggestions, and maybe I'm showing my age here, but it seems really important that we be able to hear each other - at least at the beginning of the evening. Then we could hit a hip and happening joint, but I so want to talk to everyone! We'll have to wear usernametags of course...