Dating Thread 217: Is it burning bright or fizzling out?

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The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

So, an update on my long weekend with MrWG.

He did eventually arrive (he'd left about two hours later than he said and he does drive very steadily, plus there were some roadworks and he said the satnav took him somewhere odd).

Someone previously asked what I like about him:

turns up with flowers, chocolates, more chocolate (because I asked him to bring some, had remembered the one I had asked for previously), all the food to make dinner (even though I told him I'd got food, think he just wanted to bring what he could cook - pasta carbonara), plays with the dog, sets the fire up for me, brings in logs, clears the ash, cooks (separates eggs with his bare hands!), washes up, moves a stack of old wood that was left in the garden here, helps me fathom out why the boiler isn't working (not that we did, but got a guy in), ferries me to and from the bloody garage who fail to fix my car, feeds the chooks, gets up in the morning and makes me tea, makes brunch of scrambled eggs on toast with mushrooms and smoked salmon, knocked up a quick mustard sauce to go with steak I cooked, walks miles with me and the dog, doesn't undermine my instructions to the dog (waves at ex), lets me stream my spotify in his car, I took him to a small museum based around one of his jobs and he loved it and took photos to 'send to the lads'........
he brought his big fluffy dressing gown (and let me wear it because the heating wasn't working and mine is flimsy) and slippers.
And before he left yesterday morning (taking me off to the garage again on the way) he set the fire up for me again.
He slept well and snoozed quite a lot in the evenings which I liked as it meant he was relaxed (still recovering from op really, it was only on 26th).

Had a lovely few days. But I didn't manage to 'talk', address any of the issues or feelings etc. And no PIV sex, just all the other stuff - which again, we really do need to discuss properly!

He's away now til 9th Dec and I'm still here til 2nd, then away that weekend too.

My dilemma now is my Christmas party - I will probably invite MrStone (who called Sunday evening when MrWG was here and I didn't answer) and it would be very odd to have them both there (they don't know each other but are both in the group). Don't want to upset MrStone because he's nice and don't want to have MrWG hanging about being couply if he's not prepared to be my bf! Tbf, he probably couldn't come anyway, knowing him :)

[quote Stayingstrongish]@WeWantTheFinestWines I’ll be on the indie rock chick side with you. Spend most of my working week listening to 6 Music 😊[/quote]
Yay! 🤘

@WeWantTheFinestWines @Stayingstrongish I love talking about music. Music is one of my favorite things. I would very happily go out to a rock or indie night and have a great time. Used to love grunge when I was a lot younger, Nirvana, Pearl Jam, Greenday etc but then discovered Goldie and the likes and the love of electronic went from there. In fact music has always completely shaped my life and soul.

@Isitreallyme177 I WISH I was dedicated enough to get up at 5am to go gym. Wouldn’t have it in me!!

@WeWantTheFinestWines I also love a bit of Billy Joel!! Anyone like Seasick Steve? I funkin love him 😆

I love Radio 6 and it has been my sanity saver during Covid and more!

Love all types of music, this afternoon it's mainly been indie eg DC Fontaines and Foals, but I can do anything from classical to House although it's usually old skool house like Frankie knuckles 😍

@VanGoghsDog I'm fascinated by your thing with MrWG. I guess the fact that you're both adults and can pretty much carry on doing your own independent thing is a huge bonus - or at least it would be for me. Tricky one with MrStone though, you might inadvertently cause a crisis in your dating situation. Is it worth it?

@Shayelle2009 My gym is 24 hours so there are people there all night. I asked my trainer yesterday and he said between 5 and 6 its actually quite busy as you get all the tradesman and labourers coming in before work, bewteen 6am and 7 am tend to be office workers.

Oh my god, i'm all about wigan pier and scousehouse, happy hardcore the good old rave days! All i listen to in my car hopefully it'll be blasting out of my truck stereo too when i get there one day...
@BelladiMamma has beard-flake resurfaced? Do you just message back and forth or are you likely to get to see him one of these days? I've just asked magnet-man about his day and he's sent a photo of an abandoned go-kart on the motorway and sent a video of him changing the trucks batteries, he's just SO romantic you know!

After a previous life as an indie kid, I prefer electronica these days, but I think near 100% of the women I'm attracted to listen to Radio 6 as a matter of course. I should probably give it a whirl.

Hats off to Belladimamma for the handling of the MrA situation. Textbook stuff if there is one, and if there isn't you should write that chapter. :-)

@VanGoghsDog, I’m happy to read that you and Mr WG had what sounds like a lovely chilled few days. I’m sure his company and attention to detail were very welcome. I admire your restraint in not addressing the bigger question- not to self onestep - be more VGD !
I think I may struggle with our big weekend music-wise. I’m all about the Soul. I’ll just have to neck a few drinks and get my whistle out - even that is probably an out of date reference 🤦🏻‍♀️😂💃

@Shayelle2009 I was a grunge teen full of teenage angst. My best friend at college once said he was Kurt Cobain (he did look like him in fairness) and I could be Courtney Love lol🤣

@RayoftheTriffids I was a bit of an indie kid, I remember buying Suede's first album on tape 🤣 and all of Carter USM's. I then found grunge.

threadie theme tune about those awkward conversations

I'm probably booking some opera in Feburary when i come down to London, "cheap shit seats" but hey will be nice after lockdown!

my first ever music love -although you'd have to go to some pretty "cringe" clubs to hear this sort of stuff I expect!

@SpringlikeBunk

I'm probably booking some opera in Feburary when i come down to London, "cheap shit seats" but hey will be nice after lockdown!

I'd love to Do a bit of opera if you'd like to DM me? Or not. Totally up to you x

Today I had to write out a cheque (took me 30 mins to find my cheque book),

Do you youngsters even know what a cheque is ?

Listen to Absolute Radio, I did flirt with Radio 2 for a bit, but I think that’s for dead people really ( no offence to any radio 2 listeners), but I can imagine St Peter having R2 on in the Background as does the meet & Greet at the Pearly Gates (other religions are available), in a kind of Liberace style getup.

( I’m probably going to hell for saying that, if, of course, you believe in the after life as a concept)

I'll have a wee look and DM you @BelladiMamma x (initially thinking just before or after the "main weekend" ie 4th or 7th)

@FabulousMrFifty I used to listen to the Breakfast show on Absolute, loved it, but Christian O'Connell left and I could never get into Dave Berry.

I'm loving all the music love on here! Unfortunately, my ex ruined Radio 6 for me for ever by blasting it out non-stop way too loud all the bloody time. A bit too much noodly jazzy world music-y for me, although I've always quite fancied Shaun Keaveney. I'm all about Radio X these days although they get a bit too repetitive at times. My Spotify is a weird mixture of old, new, classical, rock, pop and weird poetry in my native language put to music and I love it all. The more I can sing along at the top of my voice the happier I am.

@Shayelle2009 music can be such a huge passion, can't it - I worked in the music industry in London in the 90s and never get tired of going to gigs. A friend asked me if I fancied driving 1.5 hours each way on a Thursday night last week to see a band I'd never heard of and I was there like a shot. Had a great time, despite all the roadworks and not getting home until 1am on a school night.

@FabulousMrFifty I am going to have to reprimand you again for playing the "I'm so old" card. I am no youngster, I'm older than you, have grey hair and remember cheques - but I also discover new music all the time go to gigs and dance the night away with the best of them. It's a mindset and I still feel about 23. Having said that, at 23 I was seeing a lot more action than I am now, so maybe it is time for my slippers and pipe...

@VanGoghsDog Mr WG sounds so lovely. I may have missed out on the reason you are going to invite Mr Stone to your Christmas Party - is it lack of commitment or long term potential from Mr WG? Or the lack of PIV sex? It sounds like you could run into a tricky situation juggling them both, but you've got your head screwed on so I'm sure you know what you're doing.

@fabulous You did make me laugh when I started reading your brackets as (no offence to dead people). I can't deal with R2 either. It makes me wonder if I'm ready for a Saga holiday.

@SpringlikeBunk “cheap shit seats” 🤣🤣🤣 haha..

I love that @WeWantTheFinestWines I bet you had an amazing night. Love those kind of spontaneous adventures esp when they involve music!!
Nowadays I do love a day festival usually house and disco! Love a bit of 80s too. Mostly listen to moody German tech at home though.

@Isitreallyme177 I also had (and still have) a friend who looked like Kurt Cobain 🥰 well he did then with blond curtains and a guitar!

LOL @Shayelle2009 come join me and @BelladiMamma if you like

(won't be the main thread night out though of course!)

When I was on the apps the first thing Id want to know about them was their musical tastes. Never dated a guy that doesn’t have it in his blood like me.