@BelladiMamma Well done on confronting it head on! He probably has no idea how you’re feeling so will let him have a chance to take the reins and show his hand rather than you have to mind read.
@Onesmallstep67 It sounds like you’re hardly a really difficult situation really well, and Mr V sounds like he brings a lot of positives to help with that situation, whilst being respectful. Exactly as it should be. I really hope things get better and better!
Mr Tux got back into contact late this afternoon. A bit more flirting, and I asked “So does this mean you’d like to see me again? 😋”. His response was “Obviously” and has asked me how I felt after the meet.
After some reflection, it was less him talking about himself per se and more a lot about the hobby that he knows far more than me about, and me asking a lot of questions. We actually didn’t cover much personal stuff (though we’ve both covered off some important key highlights on date zero and messages in between. That could actually be a good thing, as it was more just enjoying company rather than being too serious about things.
And he’s already joked that when we met for a “proper” date I might get sick of the sight of him, so the “running away” was likely self deprecating and a follow on from that… it does seem that’s his sense of humour (and mine is similar) but he seems very confident in other ways…
Not a bad position to be in. I wouldn’t be devastated if we stopped seeing each other at this point, but I’m also quite keen to go for another meet. On reflection FWB is not the route to go at all, I’m fooling myself. I would catch feelings as there’s a definite attraction there, I just hope it’s for the right reasons!