Dating Thread 217: Is it burning bright or fizzling out?

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The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

[quote StartingAgain6369]@BelladiMamma

What I've done for a few years now is upgrade my phone every 2 to 3 years, then I use the new phone as personal the old phone for business

The old business phone either gets traded in or ebay

Also makes installing apps transferring data logins etc less stressful[/quote]
I must be your buyer then, I hate spending on phones for some reason my current iPhone 8 came of eBay, but it’s a bit of a Triggers Broom, new lighting port, couple of batteries.

Got it paired with a dirt cheap SIM from 3, lovely jubbly.

My views on the modern hell that is WhatsApp and new phones are well known (probably also something for me to rant about after a few at the threadie meet)

[quote Isitreallyme177]@Myfabby I'm not bothered if he didn't find 3 hours to go to the cinema considering he was also running a training course on Tuesday and I didn't finish work until 6pm by which time the film was due to start and it was only on at one time as it was a special preview. He is also working this week which takes him out of the country.[/quote]
If you're still harbouring romantic feelings for him, you should be bothered about it though. Sorry, like @Myfabby I'm not saying it to make you feel bad. It's just he could and should make more of an effort if he's even got the slightest smidgen of romantic feelings for you. We all make time for people we fancy or care about.

@SpringlikeBunk

My views on the modern hell that is WhatsApp and new phones are well known (probably also something for me to rant about after a few at the threadie meet)

I've decided that Tracy Ann Oberman doesn't do WA. So very very occasionally, i channel her during the day and waft around looking all sexy and 'don't Fuck with me my WA ain't on!!'

Thanks people, I have amended my plans tomorrow so it's an evening thing with friends so not to waste my new hair!

Good luck all the upcoming date zeros, @Naimee87 that meet sounds awesome af!

All quiet here for the weekend roll-call

Work group Xmas party invites rolling in now so will be a busy social month next month! Even if things don't progress with MrHedgehog might delay apps till January we'll see.

Glad I've got some chill-time before (am still away) so my introversion/ASD/head injury can have a bit of recovery time.

@Eesha

Thanks people, I have amended my plans tomorrow so it's an evening thing with friends so not to waste my new hair!

YAY to your plans. Don't waste childcare or fabulous hair darling ♥️

well my weekend is MrA's show tomorrow at matinee, friend's concert in the evening followed by dinner. Will be seeing a total of a dozen friends including MrA who is going to meet DD in a very relaxed hi darling enjoy the show type way.

We're staying at friends in London afterwards. Can't wait.

I've decided to just immerse DD in my life (with appropriate boundaries around dating) as basically since coming out her 'd'f has pushed her away. Fuck him. She's meeting all of my fabulous friends all the Fucking time now!! Most of whom are queer as fuck!!

@BelladiMamma that sounds like a brilliant weekend, take me!

My weekend is going to be wrapping up presents for a Santa's grotto I have organised, self care/pamper session and applying for jobs. Hopefully starting my Christmas shopping aswell.
My work phone is in my draw on mute (thankfully provided by work so it's separate to my personal phone) and I'm going to go out for a walk.

Half of me is tempted to give up with the apps until next year but the other half wants to stay on until early December.

I've got a boxing class tomorrow, then I might go for a walk on Sunday and then the gym or I might just do the gym depending on what time I get up.

@BelladiMamma I'm not bothered because as people have said so many times on here, he obviously isn't interested in me. I'm just doing what people have told me.

@Eesha I bet you looked amazing on the school with the new hair do, have a blast with your friends on your night out

@FabulousMrFifty +1 for a lover of 3 dirt cheap sims too

@Eesha
Enjoy your hair, some of us don’t have much left to enjoy 😂

@BelladiMamma
Sounds bloody awesome

Hopefully everything else has a great weekend

Had a great 3rd date with Ms Lithuanian

4 hours flew by. Coffee then art gallery then lunch. First time I have seen her other than in middle of working day and was much more chilled. She is very attractive, stylish and intelligent.

Bit nervous about what to say to her in next WhatsApp msg.

[quote Eesha]@BelladiMamma that sounds like a brilliant weekend, take me![/quote]
This is why we all need to meet IRL, have our date zero's with each other then head off into the sunset having a blast 💥

@TobyEsterhase why not say you've really enjoyed her company and excited about the next date?

Thanks peeps, I have the kind of thick hair that keeps on growing (not great when you may be colouring it). This needs to be my profile picture. @BelladiMamma and @HairyArsedMan know what I look like so can probably testify to that!

Hope everyone has some excellent dates this weekend

@Isitreallyme177

I've got a boxing class tomorrow, then I might go for a walk on Sunday and then the gym or I might just do the gym depending on what time I get up.

@BelladiMamma I'm not bothered because as people have said so many times on here, he obviously isn't interested in me. I'm just doing what people have told me.

Sorry if I've made you feel that way. I'm just frustrated on your behalf. I'd love him to step up for you ♥️

[quote Eesha]@TobyEsterhase why not say you've really enjoyed her company and excited about the next date?

Thanks peeps, I have the kind of thick hair that keeps on growing (not great when you may be colouring it). This needs to be my profile picture. @BelladiMamma and @HairyArsedMan know what I look like so can probably testify to that!

Hope everyone has some excellent dates this weekend[/quote]
🤣🤣🤣
Babe you waaaay more sexy than that ♥️

@TobyEsterhase

Had a great 3rd date with Ms Lithuanian

4 hours flew by. Coffee then art gallery then lunch. First time I have seen her other than in middle of working day and was much more chilled. She is very attractive, stylish and intelligent.

Bit nervous about what to say to her in next WhatsApp msg.

Book the next date in, now! That's all you need to do 😁

@TobyEsterhase

This - She is very attractive, stylish and intelligent.

@TobyEsterhase

Had a great 3rd date with Ms Lithuanian

4 hours flew by. Coffee then art gallery then lunch. First time I have seen her other than in middle of working day and was much more chilled. She is very attractive, stylish and intelligent.

Bit nervous about what to say to her in next WhatsApp msg.

You da man, Strike while the iron is hot ( can you see what I did there ? )Get the next date booked in double quick, Something on Sunday maybe?

@TobyEsterhase

agree with @BelladiMamma

don't overdo it with random chat messages or praise, just focus on nice practical details of the next meet - keep it simple? "Shall we do dinner some time next week?" etc.

Need a good read through the thread! Just back from my trucking day! Was so much fun, i even got a go driving a BIG one!! yesssss! Magnet-man's said seeing as you didn't crash it i may let you drive mine soon! I'm shattered but in such a good mood... friends on her way for prosecco now to celebrate! Hope everyone's had nice friday's and got good weekends to look forward to. Good luck to all those headed out on dates tonight!

@Naimee87

Need a good read through the thread! Just back from my trucking day! Was so much fun, i even got a go driving a BIG one!! yesssss! Magnet-man's said seeing as you didn't crash it i may let you drive mine soon! I'm shattered but in such a good mood... friends on her way for prosecco now to celebrate! Hope everyone's had nice friday's and got good weekends to look forward to. Good luck to all those headed out on dates tonight!

That's so exciting!! I have no desire to drive an hub but I remember the high from first driving a horse trailer and horse box. It was like wahey! I'm not a useless female 😁

Frankly the thrill from doing anything new, especially if it's to do with a new departure in life is just great 😊

@Dancerinthemoonlight

My weekend is going to be wrapping up presents for a Santa's grotto I have organised, self care/pamper session and applying for jobs. Hopefully starting my Christmas shopping aswell. My work phone is in my draw on mute (thankfully provided by work so it's separate to my personal phone) and I'm going to go out for a walk.

Half of me is tempted to give up with the apps until next year but the other half wants to stay on until early December.

Are we mentioning the Crimbo word 😱