To assume I've been dumped?

[WheatlandTerrier]

Seeing a guy since July. He's more open to relationships than me but we decided to make a go off it. Met each others families etc. We both had covid 2 weeks ago. He was worse than me so i didn't mind making most of the contact etc. However we've both been back out in the world for a week and it's me making most of the effort. I facetimed him last night to discuss it but he was with his daughter. I spoke to her quickly and he said he'd ring me once they were home and didn't. Am I dumped?

I've always preferred to be single and now I know why lol

You're a Legend 😁👍

Good on you op!

Good on you, I’m impressed

Good on you op!

You have handled this well OP! He was defo keen to start playing on-off games and you have protected gourself from that. We done

He's alluding to the fact he's depressed

OP YOU'RE A LEGEND

Ba ha ha.

Depressed my arse

@WheatlandTerrier

He said he wants to explain where his head is at. I told him it's all good and good luck back on the field

I admire you so much 🙌

I'm trying to be strong. Meeting someone else is going to be difficult. I thought we were going somewhere. I allowed myself to be vulnerable with him. I really am better off single.

And I won't be introducing my child to anyone

Don't beat yoirself up OP, you liked him, it looked like it was going somewhere and then he pulls this shit. You weren't to know this was coming.
Take pride in yourself that you have great boundaries and are strong enough to know you'll be fine single again.

He's got issues clearly, and as you said, you've a good life, you dont want him bringing you down.

Onwards OP, and best of luck.

Honestly, it's so refreshing on these boards to see a woman who knows her worth.

Yeh dont beat yrslf up. He tried the relegation move i think, but when it turned you off instead of making you cling he insinuated he was depressed. Thank goodness you just wished him good luck out there.

I have reacted to the relegation manoeuvre by feeling insecure and trying to be cool with the unspoken relegation 🤦‍♀️
Never ended well for me.

You’ve done really well Op, and a few months down the line you will be very pleased with yourself that you kept your dignity and didn’t beg or indulge his little games. It’s so tempting to carry on the drama in the hope they ‘come to their senses’ but they rarely do.

God I can't do online dating again this is it for me.

I agree with you. I gave up on it and met a younger man in rl.

Covid distancing and following rules put too much distance between us but he's the one x i remain fond of, still respect.
OLD is too forced it's like the context is forced. In RL you filter people yourself. I prefer that. And if i dont meet somebody for 10 years so be it. But being used by players on OLD makes me vibrate on a lower frequency so no way

He's alluding to the fact he's depressed

Off he fucks to the doctors then

@OverweightPidgeon

He's alluding to the fact he's depressed

Off he fucks to the doctors then

Nice attitude. No wonder people have trouble even talking about depression.

Nice attitude. No wonder people have trouble even talking about depression.

Poor reading comprehension @Fromablokespoint

@OverweightPidgeon, having RTFT & clearly having a brain that understands nuance, was referencing the man's manipulation, not the fact that he happens to be depressed.

Millions of people get depression. It's not a get out of jail free card for game-playing, or an excuse to make a woman take responsibility for a man's symptoms because he refuses to.
The responsibility for managing that depression belongs squarely with the sufferer.
That's not "attitude" - it's fact.

Or do you feel that women should be obliged to accept poor treatment from men who have manageable medical conditions, but refuse to address them?

This board is peppered with blokes who play the "depressed" card at their wives, while refusing to take a single step to medical & psych help. Such a coincidence that the PP who objected to Pigeon's post just happens to be male, innit?

@ChargingBuck

@OverweightPidgeon, having RTFT & clearly having a brain that understands nuance, was referencing the man's manipulation, not the fact that he happens to be depressed

Thank you

@OverweightPidgeon no probs sister.

Can't be arsed with random Barrys popping their heads over our parapet to scold us for the error of our thinking right now.
Am still incandescent about some geezer electing himself Official Rape Apologist elsethread.
May have made me a tad intolerant this week.

I had to be sent home from work upset today. My manager is great. I picked my son up from nursery and he ran towards me. Why was I so upset

Ah you're human. You cared. You werent just going through the motions. You dont waste your time though so you will get over it. I admire you, i can tell you that. You made the right decision.