To assume I've been dumped?

[WheatlandTerrier]

Seeing a guy since July. He's more open to relationships than me but we decided to make a go off it. Met each others families etc. We both had covid 2 weeks ago. He was worse than me so i didn't mind making most of the contact etc. However we've both been back out in the world for a week and it's me making most of the effort. I facetimed him last night to discuss it but he was with his daughter. I spoke to her quickly and he said he'd ring me once they were home and didn't. Am I dumped?

Yeah too much hassle for me sorry

OK, well, you asked for our opinion on assuming you've been dumped and that's mine. Good luck!

Well I'm now single in my mind so it's time to do what I want.

Just text him and say that it’s time for the relationship to end. Then just block him. Life’s too short for all of this drama.

Defo wonderful you. This is why I prefer single life.

You sound quite immature and hard work, I'm in agreement that relationships aren't for you. Enjoy yourself and focus on your hobbies and friends. All the best.

It is very possible that you're jumping the gun here.

He has a daughter who he has to consider, you aren’t the only person in the picture and he may well want to slow things down for her sake. You sound like you’d rather have the drama than an adult discussion though.

I also have a younger child whose he has met.

Summer fun he's the one who pursued me.

How did he message you if you deleted his number?

Via any of many social media apps.

I think you're right. Stay single for a while now. It is easier.
Every time I was dumped I thought, ofgs, but at the same time it was a relief. It's such an effort. I can't be arsed any more.

Been so much happier since I stopped looking for the unfindable.

@WheatlandTerrier

He said he's overthinking everything and we need to talk. I texted back saying oh man dumping me over text and he said he doesn't know where he's at. So I'm meant to wait around?!?

"Yeah, we don't need to "talk" about you blowing hot & cold. It's been fun, but let's cut the crap now & call it quits - bye!"

And ... BLOCK.

I think for only bring together 3 months the relationship has moved a bit too fast. You’ve only been together since July and have already met each other’s family and he’s met your child.
Quite often when relationships move too fast they end up not working because it’s too intense.

@WheatlandTerrier

This is why I don't do relationships

You just did a relationship.

Christ you are exhausting OP. You sound like a teenager.

And look what's happened!

But nobody has said "This relationship has ended". You haven't. He hasn't. You're off in a strop and he's just said he needs to talk. Why can't you just ask him to call you and say what he needs to say? If it's ending it, then at least it makes him do it, not be spineless. He may have questions and things you could work through, to create a better relationship. Who knows.

Having similar experience @WheatlandTerrier. You’ve done the right thing, sounds like a manipulative bell-end. All very well criticising OP but the slow fade is no fun for sure.

I don’t think the op is being childish or hard work , if someone likes you then they like you and they don’t come out with all this ‘I don’t know where I am’ shit.

@RayoftheTriffids

Having similar experience *@WheatlandTerrier*. You’ve done the right thing, sounds like a manipulative bell-end. All very well criticising OP but the slow fade is no fun for sure.

How is it a slow fade? Things have been been off for a week, she asked what was going on and he wanted to meet face to face presumably to end things.

Sounds like a normal decent end to a short term relationship surely?

He’s pulling away. She caught it early and called him out. Doesn’t mean it wasn’t a SF. I am of course biased for reasons stated above.

@WheatlandTerrier

I also have a younger child whose he has met.

Bit soon to introduce a young child to anyone, if you’ve been seeing him for 3 months

Well I've learnt no introductions again.

@WheatlandTerrier Most people wait a year before introductions, some do 6 months. Its whatever suits you.

And if a man says he loves you early on then bin him off because its love bombing.

@WheatlandTerrier

He messaged. I asked what was going on and he said he's overthinking everything and wants to talk to me face to face. I asked if I was dumped and he didn't say no lol. I'd rather not meet up face to face to be dumped.

If I were you I also wouldn't bother meeting up face to face just to be dumped, I was with my ex for 3 years, he ghosted me for 2 weeks out of the blue before I finally managed to get him to speak to me, at which point he acted like I was crazy for continuously trying to get in touch with him, he then basically dumped me but didn't dump me and said he wanted to talk to me face to face, so I went up to see him a couple days later (because he was busy the next day with his friends LOL), anyway whilst I was being dumped face to face, my grandad died and I never got to say goodbye to him so, yeah... never again will I entertain a man who is planning on dumping me anyway!