Women’s trousers found in my bedroom - not mine?

[Changernamerjoker]

Ok. Doesn’t look good.

But I am home everyday. Literally every day. Husband has worked from home most days for the past 18 months. Only recently started to go back to the office.

He had one business trip maybe a month ago.

Trousers are navy Lonsdale joggers. Definitely not mine.

Husband is offended I’ve asked him there they came from.

This is weird right? Is there only one logical explanation?

Thanks all for the advice,
I'm off to the charity shop for a nice pair of nylon Y-fronts to plant. That way, when the ironing lady slips a bonus Janet Reger number in with her weekly delivery, I'll not be accused of anything inappropriate.

ps The tip about photographing her ladyship's cosmetics to avoid an easily overlooked lippy is priceless.

Unless the OP had a service wash at the laundrette, I fail to see how the she wouldn’t have noticed a pair of dark coloured joggers left in the washing machine or dryer before she put her stuff in. A pair of pants yeah but not joggers surely? Likewise at the gym, you’d empty your gym bag afterwards (mine is tiny and I have stuff stuff in) and surely notice a pair of extra joggers? Are other’s people gym changing rooms that busy that they’d pick up someone else’s trousers without realising? Mine has cubicles or massive benches and you’d never get that close to someone to pick up someone else’s stuff accidentally!

Entirely plausible that the DH could have shared a room with a woman on his business trip and she wore them travelling there, they got bundled up in his washing etc so I would be wondering about that possibility too.

There is not enough background info though, does the OP have older DC who could have borrowed them from someone if she doesn’t recognise them? How long was the DH’s business trip away? Does she have anyone else coming to the house, babysitter. dog walker, cleaner etc? Are the joggers old or recently bought, unworn, could she have bought them a while back and forgot about them? Was she ever a size 10?

Whenever I go away with my married colleague I always travel in scaggy joggers so that people don't guess we're shagging each other

Are they uhm... clean? Give them a sniff. If so then laundry mix up definitely.

Surely though you'd retrace the steps that got to the joggers being on the floor? Was it DH emptying his bag once he got home? Did they appear in a pile of freshly washed clothes? Did you clear a section in the wardrobe? Surely you can work that out and take it from there?

Hotel Gym or pool? Is he sporty OP?

Would have been easy for me to come home with random clothes when I went to F45 as most stuff was dumped on benches and I'd just pick up my general pile and stuff it in a bag.

I used to have a cat that brought in laundry including, on one occasion, a bra. I was in the garden when he came over the fence with it in his mouth. (I lobbed it back over the fence without being sure it actually came from that house, but I was too embarrassed to knock and ask.)

He also brought in a small teddy once, dressed in a sparkly Santa outfit. That went on the top of the Christmas tree for years.

😂 😂

So you think these may have been on your bedroom floor since February??? And you didn't notice in 9 months??? I've heard of a floordrobe OP but that is seriously good going!

Wasn't there a thread a few months ago from MNer who played "jokes" on her friend by swapping round photos, leaving weird items in random places etc in friends house? Maybe the OP is the poor friend

If you both went to the laundrette I would assume that your DH probably picked them up by accident, thinking they were yours? My DH is utterly useless with washing….on a cruise (pre Covid) I asked him to collect a wash I had put into the machine and hang it up. He dutifully did, but he’d hung up a load that WASN'T ours, including men’s swimming shorts which weren’t his and a bra that could have comfortably fit on my head!!!! Cheap joggers do not suggest anything nefarious I don’t think. I would bin and forget about them.

If people lived in that house before you, then things could have been down the back of a built in wardrobe say or the airing cupboard...
If you have teens they brought home the wrong PE kit?

Do you have a cleaner? Ours changes into clothes like this as her cleaning clothes….

Clearly the launderette but loving the other suggestions 😂

Do you have teenagers?

My teen DD's friend called at the door for her earlier wearing a pair of my jeans (easily recognisable plus they didn't fit her properly). I thought I'd managed to lose them or they'd been nicked as I've been looking for them for 6 months now. Apparently DD lent them to her one time because "she just had leggings on and it was raining".

Point is that weird shit turns up/goes missing when you have teens. I also have a really old North Face jacket that I've been missing that I'm now wondering about....

If your mind immediately goes to affair based on a pair of random joggers either your DH has given you other reasons not to have faith in him or you need to examine your own trust issues.

I repeatedly found different coloured thongs in my washing ~ until I worked out that DSD had developed a habit of borrowing her mums ones when she stayed with her on alternate weekends.

I'll support the idea of a random item left behind in the launderette.

This has happened to me, the other way round. The first night I stayed with SO, I accidentally left behind a pair of frilly black lacy 'special going to see the new boyfriend' type knickers.

He popped them into his bag for his weekly service wash, but they were not there when he collected them. We guessed the launderette ladies thought they had got into his wash by mistake and removed them to avoid embarrasment. Possibly putting them into someone else's wash. He was too shy to go back to ask for them.

So if anyone in the UK got a strange pair of largish scanties in their service wash, can I have them back please? .

Do you have kids?

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So how did you find them on the floor if he went on his trip a month ago? Have you been walking around them?

Didn't he accuse you of having another woman in while he was away?

Sorry OP, going against the grain here. Trust your gut- if something doesn't feel right then it isn't. Why couldn't he have an affair with someone who had Lonsdale joggers on? Ridiculous - of course he could. People cheat wearing all sorts of clothes - they don't just cheat wearing Stella McCartney for gods sake.further investigation needed and watch how he responds.

Cast your mind back... are they YOUR trousers?

Eh, Lonsdale trackies are not the same as sexy knickers. I can't see anyone going to meet a married man at hotel wearing those

Also, you've only just found them and you say you've both been home pretty much constantly for quite a while.

In this instance I don't think an affair is the most likely scenario. Occam's Razor and all that.

I wouldn't be calling a divorce lawyer.

I haven't read the whole thread but if they were another woman's trousers are we to think she then went home in just her knickers?

@TasteTheMeatNotTheHeat, it's a mistress's cunning disguise

Would he fit into them ?