Hello all,
Just after your thoughts…
I’ve been seeing a new partner for around 4 months and have fallen for him totally. We have moved from seeing each other twice a week, to staying over on a weekend and now see each other around 5 nights a week so all going great. I love him and I have told him this. He has not said it back but had said he finds it hard to say and says he tries to show me with his actions instead … I guess I do feel loved/cared for but I don’t want to stay if he doesn’t/never will love me as life is too short for that! I guess what I’m asking is, should I trust in his actions without the woods go back it up? I know why he struggles to express his emotions and understand it.
He certainly seems to care very much at least and I do feel loved. He’s affectionate and attentive.
I was poorly one evening at his so he ran me a bath, got a hot water bottle and made me a drink.
After a difficult work day where I came in cold and tired, he warmed the bed with a hot water bottle while I was in the bath.
He brings me tea in bed every morning if he is out for work before me.
I told him I love the sound of the sea and long drives so he picked me up and drove to seafront about an hour away where we sat with take away tea listening to the sea and talking.
He picks up sweet treats he knows I like and gets in my favourite drinks.
He’s watched movies that make his eyes role (soppy stuff) when I’ve mentioned that I like them.
He’s picked up on my favourite music eras/artists snd bought CDs he thinks I’ll like for my car.
He’s come out in the evening when I’ve broken down and fixed the car.
The list goes on …. Most of all he makes me laugh, calls when he says he will, treats me well and is affectionate.
Does this sound like he does love me back? Or is at least on his way…. It’s hard for me as words of affirmation is definitely high on my ‘love languages’ which is an area he struggles with.
Actually he has said he loves me once but it was in his sleep so I’ve not told him as I don’t want to embarrass him. Im guessing I can’t trust an ‘I love you too darling’ said as he drifted off to sleep.’ He was unaware he’d said it back!