@BelladiMamma
My living arrangements are far from ideal. DC are 13 and 15 so this will be an issue for some time. I would prefer it if we could sell the house and do what everyone else does, but there is now way we could both buy 3-bed properties with what we would get and as we have kids 50/50 we would really need that. We're in quite an expensive part of the country and my ex is on UC.
Upsides are stability for DC who don't have to move back and forth + ex and I get on quite well - as long as we are not living together. And the house is nice. Massive downside is our alternative accommodation is expensive and not available all the time so there are periods when we will not be able to stay there so will be stuck in the house together. We can be civil and make it work but it's not ideal.
Re your friend and memoir - I work with people at the end of their lives often, and they sometimes ask me if I can help them die. Assisted dying is a hugely important subject - I hope your friend isn't experiencing the issue first hand, but presumably is very close to it. Can't think of many worse places to be.
On a separate note - @Isitreallyme177, you really need to find out where he's at in his head, don't you? You are so invested and hopeful and while he clearly enjoys your company, I can't help but think you are on completely different pages and you could be headed for heartbreak if he meets someone else? As I've said before - ime, words matter more than actions in situations where someone says "I don't want a girlfriend" or "I just see us as friends" and then acts like you're the best thing since sliced bread. I've been there and I regretted bitterly not believing him when he told me he didn't want a relationship, rather than think that introducing me to his parents and taking me to fancy restaurants and away for weekends must mean that he wanted a relationship with me. He really didn't. This is obviously not the same situation, but your feelings for him seem to be so all consuming that I can't help but worry about you. I am willing him to be falling for you!!!