My partner acts much older and irritates me 24/7

[Sportscoachdave50]

Hi,

my girfriend who is much older than me is constantly mentioning her age, and acts older than she is.

She is loud, and makes really annoying noises which make me angry, and she always knows best, always correcting me and doesn't seem interested in anything I say to her. She also never goes anywhere on her own, she has no friends to meet up with, she is a real life hermit and I have become one too since meeting her and living with her. When she ses her adult kids they laugh and chat for hours, but with me she says nothing and only laughs when she watches the TV.

I am autistic and she clearly struggles with that fact and makes it obvious she wishes that I was not autistic.

I don't know how to end it.

Any advice or suggestions would be really helpful, thanks.

H

Hi,

This sounds like a very difficult relationship, it may be in your best interest to leave if you're not getting anything from it, especially since it seems your isolated from friends as you have taken on the habits of your girlfriend.

Doesn't sound like you even like her xD
Or that she likes you either tbf.

Who owns the home/has their name on the lease?

Do you actually want to be with her?

Brightmagic, yes and no.

Pinkbonbon

You misunderstood my post.

Thanks all the same.

What do your friends and family say about this relationship. How big is the age gap. If it's destroying your self esteem and making you feel bad then it isn't a good thing at all.

Salemwitchcraft

Yes, you are right, it would be ideal if she had no family at all.

Being autistic I can't cope with more than one person at a time, and I haven't seen my parents in years, althought they don't seem to mind that.

Thanks for your help :)

@SportscoachWills50

Pinkbonbon

You misunderstood my post.

Thanks all the same.

You want to end it right? How is that a misunderstanding.

Im asking who owns the place so you know who should movee out.

Unless by 'end it' you don't mean end the relationship? But in that case, why not? Because yoi clearly don't even like eachother.

Are you sports coach Dave or sports coach Will?

What do you mean she acts much older than she is

Your post made me so sad, there doesn’t seem
To be anything keeping you together?
You annoy her and she annoys you.
It will be sad but you just have to tell her it’s over and leave. Do you have somewhere to go?

Yes, you are right, it would be ideal if she had no family at all

Why would that be ideal?

You seem to be complaining she has no friends, so why would it be better if she has no one at all?

Do you live together? If not, you can tell her it’s not working. If you do, still tell her it’s not working out and work towards ending the tenancy.

Viviennemary, no problem with the age gap, she seems to have issue with it though.

Pinkbonbon, we like each other.

Thanks for your input.

What do you like about her?

Because sorry op but you completely sound like you can't stand her.

Are you sure it is not just that she is really good looking or because you need a place to stay that you are trying to convince yourself that you like her?

Because if i was her and saw your first post if wonder why the heck you were dating me if you felt that way.

Your not describing a good relationship. Or 'like'.

Do you live together?

If not I’d be packing her shit into a cardboard box and having a chat along the lines of. “This isn’t working for me. I’m not happy and I don’t think you are too so it’s best we call it a day”.

How long were you together when you moved in. Could you have a relationship living separately, then you can each see people whenever you want.

Have you tried to talk to her about how difficult it is for you when she is noisy, and how it makes you feel when she ‘corrects’ you?

Also have you said something like “you refer to our age difference a lot, are you worried about it? Because it doesn’t worry me at all” to re-assure her?

In the end if the way you like to live doesn’t suit each other, it is OK to say that.

Bluenetbags Wills. She acts older than she is, I am sure that explains a lot.

DGFB That is a good description of the situation.

Being autistic and without support I will struggle alone, but hey that's life, right?

Yep, I have nowhere to go, but the only way is up :)

Asterroomstatus

I am autistic and I don't like more than one person at anyone time, except when I coach, of course.

Cherrysoup, yes that's a good idea, but can't right now or I am homeless.

Pinkbonbon Please try to be kind, I am here to reach out and not to be attacked.

Thanks for your time.

Elieza. Yes we share a flat(council) I wouldn't want her homeless.

Bananalanacake Many years :( I want to live alone, and that will be my future. Thanks.