My partner acts much older and irritates me 24/7

[Sportscoachdave50]

Hi,

my girfriend who is much older than me is constantly mentioning her age, and acts older than she is.

She is loud, and makes really annoying noises which make me angry, and she always knows best, always correcting me and doesn't seem interested in anything I say to her. She also never goes anywhere on her own, she has no friends to meet up with, she is a real life hermit and I have become one too since meeting her and living with her. When she ses her adult kids they laugh and chat for hours, but with me she says nothing and only laughs when she watches the TV.

I am autistic and she clearly struggles with that fact and makes it obvious she wishes that I was not autistic.

I don't know how to end it.

Any advice or suggestions would be really helpful, thanks.

H

Have you told your former girlfriend that you don't want a relationship any more?
Does she know exactly what your plans are with regard to separating?

Is there anything good about her?

Honestly if you are unhappy then leave.
If she’s chatty with her kids then it sounds like she isn’t happy too.
I think it’s time you both move on.

@WhatsAppening

I’d love to hear your girlfriend’s thoughts on the relationship.

When did it change from ‘people with autism’ to ‘autistic people’? The latter was certainly deemed offensive up until very recently. Person first, not condition. I’d hate to be called a Bipolar Person for eg.

Person first language was a very well meaning idea (likely thought up by NTs) but it has largely been rejected by the autistic community.

Person first language was a very well meaning idea (likely thought up by NTs) but it has largely been rejected by the autistic community why's that?

Your OP says 'I don't know how to end it'. You can do it any number of ways. You can pack a bag and disappear. You can sit DP down and talk to her, and make a plan to separate. But you have to do something. You're obviously miserable and I imagine you're making everyone around you miserable too.

Slip out the back, Jack, make a new plan, Stan.....