Emojis

[cheeselover2021]

Just want to know if I'm over thinking this or if there is possibly something a bit odd. I was reading a post a while ago and someone said check the emojis on a partners phone.

Anyways, I have a gut feeling. DP does not often message anyone except me. Other people would usually be just odd texts, how are you, are you going to such and such etc. I have full access to his phone, he often leaves it laying around. He only has text message and whatsapp on there as far as know as messaging apps. No secrecy with our phones.

He always sends me the same emojis when we text, the little heart ones, and we text often. However a couple of months ago he accidently sent an emoji mixed in which was the 'phew' emoji. I didn't think much of it, but it seemed odd and he said he'd pressed it by accident. However unless it was in the recently used section, he'd have no way been able to scroll through and press that particular one by accident.

I know I sound like a loon right now, so bear with me.

It just sort of felt wrong. And as he doesn't text hardly anyone it had no reason to be in his recently used section. So I just thought must have been in there from a message a while ago or something and as he dosnt use emojis in any other messages as a rule, and only uses the same 2 with me mostly. So I just forgot it and thought I'm being an idiot here.

Then it happened again, with a different emoji a sad face one, accidentality sent. Definitely never has sent that to me before.

Like I said he has no issue with me on his phone. So recently I had a look at list of messages and nothing there except the normal, same with whatsapp. And none of them had any emojis in.

Still sounding like a loon I know.

So he went out the other night and messaged me, included the heart emojis and again, there was another one accidently clicked in his drunken state I expect. But my gut is just thinking, how are they in his recent list when he never sends them. And this one was not in the recent list when I was on his phone a few days before.

I then went out the next night, we texted as normal. No rogue emojis.

I get back yesterday and I just didnt feel right about this bloody emoji the other night. I think I'm losing the plot.

But I went on his phone for something and did a quick look at the emoji list in his recently used and there at the top are the 2 he usually sends, followed by 5 others in the space before the rogue one he'd sent me the night before. I did a quick test on my own phone and it puts them in that order of use. So basically it means he has sent 5 emojis between the rogue one to me the previous night and me looking at his phone. None were to me and looking at his text list and whatsapp which is always pretty sparse, none sent to anyone there either.

So am I going mad, overthinking this or does this point to him messaging someone, using those emojis inbetween our last texts but his phone shows he hasn't texted anyone.

For what its worth, the emojis were: A smily blushing face, a cry with laughter face, a waving hand, a huge grin smile face and an emoji of a person in a bed.

I mean, its just emojis. but the fact they have obviously been clicked on as they are in his most recent list and not sent to me or any other text in his messages or whatsapp is bugging me. Add to it the fact that the one he sent me accidently the night before is now way down the list, so these must have been more recently used than that one?

Any other explanations? I mean i have no issue him using emojis, but I'm thinking they must be being used and the messages either deleted or being used in another messaging platform? Or am I just losing the plot?

He's obviously texting someone. His mum? Pals?

Either way this does seem a lot of overthinking, either you trust him or you don't?

Well thats it. I do trust him. well, i'm I guess thinking I don;t now! But if hes messaging, where are the messages? Thats the bit that got me overthinking this. They are being used, but theres none in any of the messages on his phone.

Or is there an innocent explanation? Do random emojis show up in the recent list unless they are clicked on? And the bed one, he'd of had to have searched for that in the main list of emojis and its a fair way in.

So either messages being deleted? Or hes connecting to a webpage and using them there? I feel a bit bonkers as its just emojis.

He doesn’t message anyone else apart from you? I have two groups on WhatsApp which I use and also to message family and friends. Has he told you he only messages you, or is this an assumption?

Honestly I think you are waaay over thinking this one. I never analyse my own emoji use let alone someone else's. What is the world coming too?

If your partner doesn't text many people and is not a massive user of emojis I guess the "recently used" ones are just a random selection - and if he's pressed one by mistake at any time - it will probably come up as recently used - simply because he doesn't use many different ones??

If you have no secrecy with your phones - and no other behaviour to worry I can't honestly understand why you're even thinking about this.

Sorry but you've even said it yourself - you're sounding like a loon.

I've just checked my phone and there are emojis in my frequently used that I've never used. They are a hedgehog, a big green tick, a red sweaty face, fingers crossed, a zipped lips emoji and a lot of unicorns doing different things.
Other than crying laughing face and the two little hearts I don't use emojis. Thinking maybe iPhone adds random ones if you don't use them to fill up the space. If they're there it's easy to press the wrong ones, especially after a drink.
I'd not overthink this if everything else is good, it'll just drive you mental.

I actually get where you are coming from op. There is method in the madness. A bed emoji and the blushing face...hmm...

I'd be keeping an eye on this situation.

Has he the opportunity to cheat?
Has he done anything else that suggests he might be?

Is there anyone, perhaps from his work, who he has started name dropping about lately?

My recently used emojis has loads I haven't ever used! A hot dog, a chef and a winky face 😂 mine would look super suspicious! Several other face ones and lucky ones I've never used either.

Depending on the iPhone it can bring up emojis as you type words (e.g if you type sad it will show sad faces in the bar and replace the word with the emoji) so it could be he's just don't that accidentally!

Yes understand they can come up when typed and also list can get randomly filled.
But it’s the fact there are 5 between the one he sent me the day before and Thea he sent yesterday. When he hadn’t actually messaged anyone else in that time according to his message history. And 5 is a lot to prefill when he hasn’t messaged.
Prob am overthinking.

I don’t think he’s physically cheating no. Very little opportunity and our sex life is great so not like he isn’t getting any.
But he could be messaging which is my worry which may lead onto something emotional. Or he’s messaging via a forum of some kind, like a sex forum.
Maybe I’ll just see if there’s a pattern form. Like if they show up in recents when we’ve been apart and don’t when we’re not.
My gut is telling me somethings off with it though

Does he have instagram? Or anything else he could be sending DMs on; Snapchat/ Facebook messenger etc?

If not, I’d say that his phone is automatically filling the gaps or say he’s typed the word ‘bed’ and his phone has saved the corresponding emoji in recently used, maybe?

My recently used emojis has loads I haven't ever used!

I got a new phone last week. On my old phone (a Samsung) the only emojis I ever used were smiley face, laughing face and shocked face - shocked face was never in my recently used even though I use it all the time and there were loads of emojis in recently used that I never used. I just had a look on my new phone (not a Samsung) and that does only have the shocked face and the laughing face - so maybe it depends on OP's partners type of phone.

@Liervik

if I press an emoji on my phone, then delete it and send a new one, it shows up in my recently used emojis. So they dont have to be sent to show up

Was just about to comment this. Doesn't mean they always get sent to someone, you may click on an emoji and see it doesn't fit the sentence. Then click and send another one. It'll still show up on the emoji recents

It’s an iPhone 7. Same as mine which is why I tested it out on mine. And mine listed them in order they were clicked on (though not necessarily sent)
So in my thinking he’s clicked on them.
So question is why, when no messages show them in there.
No other chat things on his phone. So I’m thinking an internet page so he won’t get notifications of messages.
The consensus is in overthinking it, so I’m going with that.
But I think I will still see if this seems to happen when we’ve not been together.

No mentionitis, although he has been going in the office a bit more. Moans about it but still seems to go in even when he doesn’t need to.
Now I’m overthinking that
I suppose I just think if he’s hiding messages, one telltale sign is these emojis which he hadn’t sent but possibly has sent and then deleted the messages.

At the start of our relationship he was messaging someone. Although I never saw the messages because he deleted them. It came to light because there was 1 message came up in his phone, nothing bad at all just a how are you. I asked who the woman was and why messaging you and his response was what messages? I deleted them.
Which immediately made me think why delete if it’s an innocent friendship. It was an old gf as it turned out.
I’d of had no issue if messaged as a friend but why hide it, unless it was inappropriate.
So that’s in my head too although a couple years ago but it’s probably what’s put the doubt in my head. If he’s up to something like that again.
He said those were just friends messages but he deleted them so clearly not all innocent

Hmmmm something sounds a bit off x

Logically it usually means he has used those emojis and deleted the messages.

I'd ask him directly.

So he has form for deleting messages too! Yeah, you're right to smell a rat.

Trust your gut op.
He's messaging someone he doesn't want you knowing about.

Trust your gut and I think I'd ask him directly about this.

If that’s the case though I’m surprised he’s not more guarded about leaving his phone lying around. Unless he’s calling your bluff, or he’s confident he’s deleted all traces, but that doesn’t stop new messages coming through which you’d easily see if his phone was lying around.

If he's messaging via a web page he wouldn't need to worry about leaving his phone lying around.

What type of phone does he have?
I have an iPhone and my emojis all got jumbled in the latest updates!

He might've used them on social media?

I'm probably going against the grain here but unless it was the emoji of an aubergine with the squirt emoji next to it

What an earth??? This wouldn't bother me in the slightest?

Social media? Accidentally pressing them? Does he not text his mates? If you type a word in a text sometimes it'll come
up with that emoji anyway.

I wouldn't ever accuse my husband of doing something shifty if a bed emoji was in his recently used.

They're emoji's! I couldn't imagine questioning my husband 'hi love jobs just looked at your recently used emojis and they look dodgy'

Maybe I'm far too chill but there's so many more ways for something to look dodgy than a list of emoji's just because he hasn't sent them to you.

I wouldn't even think about it, unless there's more to it and he's been caught texting before, emoji's? I wouldn't bat an eyelid!

prepares to be flamed 💩

I honestly couldn't imagine initiating a grilling because I've seen a bed emoji in my DHs recently used.

If he's messaging via a web page he wouldn't need to worry about leaving his phone lying around.

Thats all I can think it could be, as yes i'd see messages coming in, unless notifications switched off but I don't see any apps on there that would be messaging apps.

He might've used them on social media?
He rarely uses social media and I can't remeber the last time he actually wrote anything on social media.

Trust your gut and I think I'd ask him directly about this.
If I ask him he'll deny it, as after the last time he knows this would be an instant end of the relationship for me. I'm not doing the whole shit behind your partners back thing

he tells me he loves me every day, he is otherwise totally into me and honestly theres no time for an actual physical affair as hes either at mine or i'm at his or we're at work pretty much with the occasional going out seperate which happened recently but thats very rare. Plus I know where he was and who with as it was an arranged do. But maybe hes getting a kick out of messaging. Male ego boost shit and all that. However he knows my views on lying and hiding stuff, it was made very very clear with that first one and I only let it go because I hadn't actually seen the messages and also we were new into the relationship.

Actually just thought of something else. he never takes selfies, but at the do the other night there was a selfie on his phone he took when there. can't think that was accidental. Although it was a really shit selfie, lol.

I have form for over thinking though.
Maybe I should check his browsing history on his phone. However if hes up to no good he'd of done that in incognito mode surely. All feels a bit stalkery now, but I can't shake my gut.

Does he not text his mates?
no, not often, and never uses emojis with mates, thats my point.
They have been used inbetween the ones he sent me. But on no messages still on his phone.