Dating thread 215 we are over here!!!

[BelladiMamma]

Ok folks new thread, hopefully everyone will find is!!

I’m just not replying as wasn’t that keen/connected in the first place. Funny tho.

Well I'm officially about to put the 'free love' sign up on my profile. MrActor is being too busy and charmingly apologetic with it, but impossible to meet. Which kinda pisses me off because my other ex actors have just opened up their lives to me and taken me along to auditions and production meetings because they're so Fucking needy they can't manage them by themselves 🤣. Hence why this guy is measurably more successful than they ever were 🤷🏻‍♀️ cos he can actually run his career by himself ... and doesn't need any of my sparse contacts

So I've been chatting to a very keen guy, let's call him MrDrummer, and he would love to meet ... so ... date zero going from 0 to 100 tomorrow hopefully because he is cute as fuck, and MrSardinia is working.

I have a pretty stringent safety protocol in place with local friends I can trust so ... wahey hop on the bella love boat 🤣

@SpringlikeBunk

I’m just not replying as wasn’t that keen/connected in the first place. Funny tho.

Did you send that to him 🤣🤣🤣

@BelladiMamma

No, funny though - it was like he was looking through Bumble (having discounted me before) and all of a sudden "I FANCY BEING A NICE GUY".

Don't really want to engage, it's not like he stood me up, it was just funny that the instant the photos went up my phone beeped!

It really is such a looks obsessed BS world.

[quote SpringlikeBunk]@BelladiMamma

No, funny though - it was like he was looking through Bumble (having discounted me before) and all of a sudden "I FANCY BEING A NICE GUY".

Don't really want to engage, it's not like he stood me up, it was just funny that the instant the photos went up my phone beeped!

It really is such a looks obsessed BS world.[/quote]
The apps are just catalogues aren't they?

... and yup it's looks obsessed but also sex obsessed so if your photo says 'available' you get loads more likes ... my Feeld photos are total come get me pics 🤣

Sounds a good plan to take the focus of MrActor @BelladiMamma

Definitely agree on the "work" thing - successful guys do have a certain "something" but equally one has to accept the scheduling issues that go with it!

When did so many people become ethically monogamous!? I keep seeing it everywhere

That’s hilarious about the hound leaping to attention as soon as you changed your pic. It is soooo predictable you can’t even make it up - glad you blanked the prat @SpringlikeBunk.
I’ve just been doing loads of sport this weekend. Swimming and weights mainly. Cooking a big old curry today. I feel a bit more positive like @Isitreallyme177 that life is getting busier and just getting on with stuff and being out and about feels good. Up and out to the gym again shortly for a class, nice and friendly ☺️ Keeps the lonely feels at bay.

I’m watching Heat again as Robert de Niro is so hot in it. I might try and paint him (putting the art classes to good use!)

@Eesha Do you mean ethically non-monogamous?

I think its either people trying to prove that everyone consents or men who are cheating use it to sound like they are not cheating.

Personally I just prefer the term non-monogamous.

@Misty9 Its good you've agreed no contact with Mr Scot for a few months. Hopefully you'll have moved on by then. How was your night out?

@Shayelle2009 isn't it's great to have some normality back? Even if it is going into the office! I'm off out in a bit to go for a long walk and hopefully see some deer rutting. I so want to see the stags do their thing. What an awesome sight it would be.

Oops @SortingItOut yes I meant ethically non monogamous. It feels like every other profile says this or wanting casual. Is this such a common thing these days?

That sounds amazing @Isitreallyme177 hope you see some too! Lovely autumnal morning for a walk. It is so good going back into the office even for the ritual of putting sone nice clothes and makeup on!

@Languidleopard @BelladiMamma extremely good points about the wax! I almost feel it's my duty now 
My dilemma regarding Mr Printer is resolved - he's officially friendzoned me. As I was writing my post yesterday I was already concluding that it all shouldn't be this awkward for this long and he'd be making more effort if he was keener. So - a shame but not unexpected.
I've paused my two OLD profiles for now - I'm having photos taken next week that I'm hoping can be used to pep it all up, so going to re-emerge on the scene in a couple of weeks, fresh, transformed and ready for the inevitable resulting barrage.

@Eesha what actually is being 'ethically monogamous'? Is that what people are putting on their bios?

@Misty9 I hope dancing did the trick last night and that you can consign yesterday's unpleasantness to the archive. Ughh.

@VanGoghsDog sounds like a nice evening with Mr Stone and good that you were able to express your views.

Looking forward to updates from those out last night and today!

@Shayelle2009 I hear you about the nice clothes, I've missed them lol. I'll get on my walk eventually, the washing machine is doing the usual longest 5 minutes, I swear it's actually been 15 minutes saying 5 minutes left and it is no where near finishing the cycle.

@Eesha I think its the new in word.

I expect very few are actually ethically non-monogamous, I think the majority just want lots of casual sex with lots of people but don't want to say that😂

@Shayelle2009 that sounds like the perfect day
@Misty9 I hope he respects the no contact, you need a good chance to move on. How was your night out?
@SortingItOut @Eesha I never swipe on those profiles. Total minefield and head fuck

I have 17 matches but only 2 conversations. I forgot how many swipe right and never talk.
Out of those 2 conversations 1 has suggested we 'catch up' 🙄 I don't recognize him from when I was on before so we have nothing to catch up on.

@Dancerinthemoonlight

I have 17 matches but only 2 conversations. I forgot how many swipe right and never talk. Out of those 2 conversations 1 has suggested we 'catch up' 🙄 I don't recognize him from when I was on before so we have nothing to catch up on.

It's crap isn't it? They just play a swiping game and then probably never follow up with anyone at all 🤦🏻‍♀️

So something weird happened yesterday, could do with a few opinions about it.
Got back on one app yesterday for a tiny peek and to see how many women will ignore me ( as most do ), messaged a few people, most ignored, one replied with a thanks but no thanks (fair enough), got a mini chat going with one, all very civilised, etc, but this really threw me about 6 messages in she asked me.

“Do you still like sex and can you still perform at your age”

I’ve never been asked ( and never asked anyone), if they “still like sex”.
But I think the “still perform at your age, “ comment seemed so back handed someone.
It there a general consensus among women that men over can’t “perform” anymore ? .

@JustAnother0ldMan I think her phrasing could have been better but you only have to remember @VanGoghsDog post from the other day about her sexual experiences in the over 50 age range to realise sexual problems are quite high in that age range.

Its medically proven that as men age they end up with some type of erectile dysfunction so why shouldn't a woman ask especially if sex is important to her?

@JustAnother0ldMan, they’ve gone about it in a rather crass way but I imagine they are asking the question to establish that their matches are sexually active and capable. I have my own experience of dating several men over 50 and there is definitely an issue with some. But the same could be asked of or said about women. Libido/desires/needs change and evolve with time. For me the question is too ‘out there’ - putting sexual compatibility at the forefront of her search but some on the thread will think that it’s an important thing to establish so the question needs to be asked. It’s a symptom of the difficulties with OLD. Our searches and questions, our preferences and needs are used to filter matches before any human interaction has taken place. It’s not organic like meeting someone IRL.

You wouldn’t chat to someone in a bar and ask them the same thing 😬

@JustAnother0ldMan wow I can't imagine putting that in a message at all.

@JustAnother0ldMan gosh, that is the type of question I might think but would very much keep to myself and not ask someone! I think there is more to a relationship than just sex and as time goes on sex will probably become less important to me anyway.