Dating thread 215 we are over here!!!

[BelladiMamma]

Ok folks new thread, hopefully everyone will find is!!

Hello all, thanks for new thread - nice to see familiar and newer posters:)
Not much update with me, still seeing Mr L and it’s still going well. I haven’t seen him since 2 October and won’t see him again until the end of next week so that’s the longest gap not seeing each other and I miss him:(
long distance sucks but I would still take it with a solid person who is into me and doesn’t play games, over a local flake who never wants to see me!

@MayEye

Glad it's going well and totally agree on the distance thing - it just makes it special when you do meet and he makes the effort as well to plan

Trying to hammer out (that’s not a metaphor ) my date zeros so I can just clear the backlog a bit

Really need to pace myself but also I’m keen to just have one iron to focus on. Which is more time efficient anyway

But no front runner has emerged yet

Just checking in with the new thread.
I am squeezing in a quick date with MrMud this evening (we rarely meet mid week due to childcare/work etc).

Things seem to be going very well still, he suggested booking tickets to some events in the next few months, which shows he really is in this for the long haul and we have already planned a few days together just before xmas as we wont see each other much over xmas and new year.
I have started to tell friends and family about him, it's all becoming real that he is actually my official boyfriend now!

Welcome to the newbies and good luck to everyone.

Completely new to OLD, in the mid to older age bracket, and signed up more out of curiosity about the world of dating rather than anything else. Can I ask those more experienced about someone who says 'that works' to seeing my photo? He's supposedly widowed and in his seventies.

That works ugh sounds like ‘you will do’ or some other dismissive type comment!

@Feelingparanoid

Completely new to OLD, in the mid to older age bracket, and signed up more out of curiosity about the world of dating rather than anything else. Can I ask those more experienced about someone who says 'that works' to seeing my photo? He's supposedly widowed and in his seventies.

Hot take - vile.

@Feelingparanoid

Agree with @MayEye it sounds rude and sexist and patronising as if he's "judging your looks".

I mean of course no-one matches with someone they're not attracted to, but he sounds a bit socially inept and a dinosaur tbh.

I have been back on the apps less than 24 hours and already had a really needy match. After the initial hi how are you he messaged 4 times and then tried to call on hinge. I didn't respond to the messages as I was asleep, unmatched him this morning.

This is where you are hiding !

Looking forward to the updates

@Dancerinthemoonlight

We should set up a WhatsApp group for all the needy/sleazy matches and add them ALL. They can message each other then all night long "hi, u get my last message?" and "what u wearing?"

Date zero booked in for later. Exchanged messages and actually his office is close to me. so a quick "after work meet" works fine. Seems nice.

@Dazedandconfused10

I've been using bumble and hinge, neither are really working for me, I'm not sure what else is out there, tinder I guess?

Think it all depends where you live ...? I went on Muddy Matches, Hinge, FAB Swingers Plenty of Fish and Feeld too. All of which have enough people to fill a potato field or two local to me.

[quote SpringlikeBunk]@Dancerinthemoonlight

We should set up a WhatsApp group for all the needy/sleazy matches and add them ALL. They can message each other then all night long "hi, u get my last message?" and "what u wearing?"

Date zero booked in for later. Exchanged messages and actually his office is close to me. so a quick "after work meet" works fine. Seems nice.[/quote]
Can we then set up a love bombers one?

'Hey did you get my flowers?'
'I think about you all the time'
'I need you in my life'

@Languidleopard

Checking in Thanks for the new thread *@BelladiMamma*

I'm still off the apps and firmly in FWB territory with Mr Breadcrumbs. He's gone away for the week and so far we've had some civilised whatsapp exchanges and nice videos of the beautiful beach where he's staying and some sexting

I feel like for now I've made my bed with him so to speak, so let's hope I get to lie in it again! He doesn't get back to the UK until Monday so am hoping we get to meet up again the weekend after.

Did you agree that's where you are? Or are you hanging on for the breadcrumbs and hoping you'll meet?

@Feelingparanoid

Completely new to OLD, in the mid to older age bracket, and signed up more out of curiosity about the world of dating rather than anything else. Can I ask those more experienced about someone who says 'that works' to seeing my photo? He's supposedly widowed and in his seventies.

Ugh that's just rude

@Dancerinthemoonlight

I have been back on the apps less than 24 hours and already had a really needy match. After the initial hi how are you he messaged 4 times and then tried to call on hinge. I didn't respond to the messages as I was asleep, unmatched him this morning.

What the actual? So strange

@Dirtyduck

Just checking in with the new thread. I am squeezing in a quick date with MrMud this evening (we rarely meet mid week due to childcare/work etc). Things seem to be going very well still, he suggested booking tickets to some events in the next few months, which shows he really is in this for the long haul and we have already planned a few days together just before xmas as we wont see each other much over xmas and new year. I have started to tell friends and family about him, it's all becoming real that he is actually my official boyfriend now!

Welcome to the newbies and good luck to everyone.

LOVE 💕 a good news story

@MayEye

Hello all, thanks for new thread - nice to see familiar and newer posters:) Not much update with me, still seeing Mr L and it’s still going well. I haven’t seen him since 2 October and won’t see him again until the end of next week so that’s the longest gap not seeing each other and I miss him:( long distance sucks but I would still take it with a solid person who is into me and doesn’t play games, over a local flake who never wants to see me!

Lucky you! So jealous. Would really like a committed long distance lover

@BelladiMamma live in the south east, so I'd have hoped there were more single men! Maybe I'll give tinder a try. I used Pof when I first became single 1 years ago but the quality of men was not for me at all! I'll have a gander through the apps later I think

Hi all - quick update from me, last few months have been pretty shit IRL with various work and family things going, being ghosted didn’t really and brought back all my fears of self-worth values, so I did all the worst possible things really, had a date 0 with someone I had been chatting to for a while and it went worse than could have been anticipated, so went home and hits the beer and made the fatal mistake of getting back on Tinder and looking at all the fabulous women 45+ on there who clearly have everything together and I couldn’t even imagine who any of those would be interested in me, and had a general pity party in my kitchen
When Robert Smith said Boys Don’t Cry, he was completely wrong, (or right maybe)
Anyway as someone who is lifelong NCFC supporter a few up and downs in life is nothing new (Football joke).
Thanks All and especially to @Misty9 who reached out to me.

I think I'm done with dating for now my MH is not really up for any more rejection right now, no one is going to want a broken down 51 yr old bloke.

Thanks All

Neil

Sorry you're not feeling too well @JustAnother0ldMan, please don't "compare your internal emotions with other people's externals".

Life can be very hard for everyone no matter who they are and what they look like, it's really so hard to keep going sometimes. And lockdown etc hasn't helped.

Just hang about and chat about shite if you need to. Have you got some non-dating hobbies you can do for a bit?

Sorry you're still not feeling good @JustAnother0ldMan

I'd echo what @SpringlikeBunk said. It's not an easy thing navigating OLD

As for me I suddenly feel really weary and like cancelling everything! Just too much going on in my life. Ugh.

@JustAnother0ldMan I know when I was doing OLD I felt worthless and unattractive, I only seemed to match with guys who wanted to sext or a ONS. I was really at rock bottom but bizarrely actually looked the best I had in years.

I then matched with Mr Cricket, who was completely different but by that time I was on the verge of quitting. I did and I'm so much happier, okay my dating life is almost zero but my head is so much better and my mental health is no longer suffering. I'm not sure what Mr Cricket and I have or where it could go but he is lovely and I'm enjoying our non-date dates. Everyone says how much happier I am now and I do feel a lot is down to no longer questioning my worth by being on an app.

@Isitreallyme177 hope your cat’s better now? x

@SpringlikeBunk snickering at all your posts… needy whatsapp group bwahaha!!

@Eesha how do you think Retro feels about you? It can be quite surprising thinking someone is feeling one way and you find out it’s something completely different.

@BelladiMamma don’t forget to take a breather! You’re 100 mph on the irons front you lil vixen! 😘

@JustAnother0ldMan chin up.. you need skin of a rhino for the dating scene. Look at YouTube Marisa Peer ‘I am enough’ videos it might help.

Amen to that @Isitreallyme177 your last post resonates with me a lot.