Dating thread 215 we are over here!!!

[BelladiMamma]

Ok folks new thread, hopefully everyone will find is!!

@easha have a good date

2nd date went well, I really quite like him. Hoping for a 3rd some point in the week. Just feels really natural and not forced.

@Languidleopard

Just caught up with you all after a crazy week at work. Sounds like you've all been busy 😁

@FireandBrimstone great news that your date went so well & nice to hear your waxing investment paid off 😆

@JustAnother0ldMan I am definitely in the more is more camp with male body hair but you should do what will make you feel most confident about your body. Good luck with Miss Wales!

@WeWantTheFinestWines sorry your fella turned out to be a flake. I agree keeping him on your bench is a good strategy. If he has a lot on at the moment he might reconnect when things quieten down for him. I've been a terrible flake with everyone recently and it's all down to work stresses.

@BelladiMamma hope you had a fabulous break☀️and are feeling rejuvenated. Mr Actor sounds very enticing, well done on sticking to your guns with keeping the other irons on the fire.

@SpringlikeBunk all sounding very positive with Mr Hedgehog so far🤞

As for me, I've been experiencing a period of insomia which has left me looking and feeling like shit. I think it be hormonal and that my hrt dose might need tinkering with. Not nice at all.

Nevertheless Mr Breadcrumbs returned from his break and we arranged to meet yesterday. He had a nice tan 😍 and was therefore even more irresistible than usual.

We had a very nice morning brunching and walking and talking in the park. Then spent the afternoon and evening in bed at his place, which despite me only having had about 2 hours sleep the night before was still very nice 🙂

The situation with my Dd staying over at her Dad's is no closer to resolution which is making me feel sad. Mr Breadcrumbs has said he will work around me and not to worry about it, but I can't help feeling like eventually he's going to get fed up of me doing a Cindarella rushing home from the ball every evening. But it is what it is and I'm working on accepting it rather than feeling down.

This sounds very nice & A Good Thing. Long may it continue 😊

@Languidleopard as in your iron, not your insomnia. I'm a fellow sufferer and whilst I could put it down to peri menopause I've had it for years. Busy brain methinks

@Dazedandconfused10 also sounding positive

Good old easyJet is giving me lots of time to stay on top of the thread 😁

Shamelessly checking in for an update from @SpringlikeBunk and I'm assuming no news is good news 😄

@Eesha quite shocked to read about that bloke disappearing while you were in the loo. So rude and unnecessarily dramatic. Who does that? Hope your date this eve went well.

@Dazedandconfused10 feeling natural is good 🙂 and great that you have a potential third date lined up.

@BelladiMamma yeah, insomnia is brutal. Period started today so I'm cautiously optimistic I'll sleep better tonight. Once I get off Mumsnet obvs 🤣

Hi all, just on way home. He actually said that he doesn't text flirt because he didn't want to give anyone the wrong idea before meeting. @HairyArsedMan I thought of you!

So we had an interesting date but just didn't feel there was this big attraction purely because he's very hard to read. Definitely not my usual type at all. Kissed me on the cheek and said he had a great time and asked me to text him when I got home.....

[quote Eesha]@BelladiMamma I'm in a tan leather skirt, a cut out jumper top in cream which makes me look like a nun as it has a collar! Plus ankle boots and a camel coat, so very autumnal. I'm a bit paranoid ill be ghosted. This happened several years ago to me, met a date, he went to the loo then disappeared. Sent a note saying "sorry you aren't my type, I've left ". Despite it being years back and I've had relationships and positive dates since, I'm always a bit paranoid it will happen again! Just en route now![/quote]
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No tea was drunk!

He's definitely hot, he did suggest going out for a meal if I wanted, but we ended up in bed and it was good although I was a bit tired.

Outside of his practical "waterproof comfortable good quality european hiking outfits" (or out OF) he's as fit as fuck and very correct and "I must ask consent and what the woman enjoys all the time!".

I still have post-concussion syndrome so bit worried he thought I was struggling a bit.

He's left as we both have early starts and he's just got home.

Now the mystery...I am working flat-out this week and may be chipping for some much needed R and R straight away.

So it's all a bit "eek" but I guess just give it some time to sink in really for both of us to process?

He is REALLY attractive but I'm worried about the old dog of "joint working schedules" - he's mentioned having stress issues at work, is clearly a hyper-achiever, and I can't manage someone with those as well as my own shit?

We haven't got a big texting pattern though he did ensure he checked when I was going away and came over before then.

I'm so busy I'm not going to be "waiting waiting" on texts?

I've dropped MrWhatsApp (he got drunk and one of his messages was trying to start a convo about how "turned on" he was) and kept one geeky contact who has been very slow paced.

Update from a tired and "lets' see how things pan out" Bunk!

Also he's clearly as broody af and childfree by choice is my "one non-negotiable" and part of the reason MrC and I parted ways.

Mind if I ask a question?

I lurk on these threads, but my OLD experience is pretty tumble-weed, so not much to contribute, but enjoyed reading everyone else's events!

I was wondering how far you set your geographical boundaries on the apps?
I live on the edge of Kent (Margate) and don't get many matches unless I set my boundaries to include London. I'm non-white which I imagine makes a difference too as Kent isn't very diverse.

I love London, but I can't be bothered to travel, see how jaded I am after just meeting 5 different potential dates over the course of a year - one who ended up in a 6 month fling and therefore having a very reasonable time so far OLD.

My living situation is complicated too, (I'm a solo parent mum) so I would be the one doing all the driving if I did actually find someone I liked and who liked me (something I can't actually imagine at this point in time!)

@lovingnewme

I'd say keep your options open and for the right person things might work out well? Take each person on their own merits.

I know some posters have had success with long distance interactions because the guys "make effort" so it doesn't matter so much because they're making it special when they do meet?

Why do you assume it's going to be you doing the driving all the time? Decent men will meet you halfway, or book hotels or "find a way" to keep the contact going even if it's not easy-easy.

Whereas I've matched/chatted/met two guys who are walking distance, live solo, no dependents, and they haven't been prospects?

Have got five messages in my Bumble inbox already. Have never been in so much demand before! 😂😊❤️

I left when someone went to the loo once. In my defence, it wasn't a proper date. It was about thirty years ago, my friend's boyfriend sent this guy to my house, I'd never met him, he turned up, said "my name's Tom, Adrian said to come round and you'd go on a date with me". I refused several times but he wouldn't piss off, so I went. To the bar where A worked and my friend was hanging out too.
He was an unpleasant, posh over entitled Tory twat. And that is my defence. My friend was mortified.

It was absolutely pouring with rain and I got soaked walking home, but it was better than being sat with that insufferable idiot.

*Names unchanged to expose the guilty!

And a big hello back to @Shayelle and @Naimee 👋❤️

@SpringlikeBunk

No tea was drunk!

He's definitely hot, he did suggest going out for a meal if I wanted, but we ended up in bed and it was good although I was a bit tired.

Outside of his practical "waterproof comfortable good quality european hiking outfits" (or out OF) he's as fit as fuck and very correct and "I must ask consent and what the woman enjoys all the time!".

I still have post-concussion syndrome so bit worried he thought I was struggling a bit.

He's left as we both have early starts and he's just got home.

Now the mystery...I am working flat-out this week and may be chipping for some much needed R and R straight away.

So it's all a bit "eek" but I guess just give it some time to sink in really for both of us to process?

He is REALLY attractive but I'm worried about the old dog of "joint working schedules" - he's mentioned having stress issues at work, is clearly a hyper-achiever, and I can't manage someone with those as well as my own shit?

We haven't got a big texting pattern though he did ensure he checked when I was going away and came over before then.

I'm so busy I'm not going to be "waiting waiting" on texts?

I've dropped MrWhatsApp (he got drunk and one of his messages was trying to start a convo about how "turned on" he was) and kept one geeky contact who has been very slow paced.

Update from a tired and "lets' see how things pan out" Bunk!

Didn't realise that you had post concussion syndrome too?! It's a Fucking nightmare isn't it ... think I'm finally shaking it after 3 months 😭

Otherwise I am loving the update 😁

Morning all. Haven't caught up properly with the weekend's activities but it looks like another action packed one.

Great update from you @SpringlikeBunk 🫖!

@Eesha yesterday's outfit sounded fab, would you see him again? Might be a 'grower'? 'Enigmatic' can be intriguing...

I'll do a proper catch up but hiiiiii to all.

@Eesha he sounds nice, although I would say that as he sounds very much like Mr Cricket was at the start with the no text flirting. Now I get pictures of his new super king size bed with a 😉 when I ask if he has actually measured it.

Speaking of which I've not looked at WhatsApp since I messaged him last night. I'm itching to see if he has read it but if he has and hasn't replied I'll just start overthinking. Which is not necessary or healthy.

@FireandBrimstone he didn't show any flirty signs so I assume it was just a friend type thing. I would go on a second date just to see whether there was any proper chemistry but I would want him to ask me. I'm done with chasing second dates! He admits he's a terrible texter so I'm not holding my breath!

@Isitreallyme177 I would just bite the bullet and check your messages. Mr Cricket will definitely get back to you at some point even if not last night.

@Naimee87 don’t ever think or feel like you’re a failure for not having found the right person, there is nothing wrong with choosing to be on your own because you don’t have to stay in a bad relationship! I’ve been single 5 years because I won’t tolerate crap, I’ve found generally I’m happier on my own anyway! More freedom ☺️

@SpringlikeBunk glad you had a great time!

@BelladiMamma hope you got home safe!

@Isitreallyme177 what did you say to him in your message?

Ok I've disconnected from MrDrummer on Feeld and sent him a 'I don't see us working out' message on WhatsApp. He was fun to chat with at the start but had no respect for boundaries about when a good time to message was, and twice suggested I leave my teen DC home alone to meet up. The whole point is I hardly ever leave DD alone, and she doesn't spend a lot of time with her DF which is why I can only have casual ... gets boring explaining it more than twice ...

@Languidleopard does your DD ever do overnights or has she given up on that at the moment? Is it to do with her DF's MH? Or she doesn't feel safe or both?

I am very frustrated but unsurprised (now) at my ex's lack of respect for DD and zero parenting skills. She & I have spoken about it and I've offered to be her advocate or for her to go into counselling with him but it seems to make everything else and he then blames her. It really does make relationships so hard.

@Shayelle2009 I was thinking about this thread and a lot of us seem to be happy being single, which I am too. I think it keeps us sane and careful with our boundaries. This is definitely not the thread for 'a relationship at all costs'. I said a while ago we are bad ass and I think just the fact that we are prepared to be without a man means that we are pretty bad ass! Same for the guys! Compromise isn't always a very comfortable place!

Ok off the soap box otherwise I'll start talking about the grip of the patriarchy and hetero normative roles.

@Isitreallyme177 sorry realised how nosey my post sounded there 🙉 I just more meant did you ask him a question or was it more just a hello checking in ☺️ You’ll hear from him soon I’m sure!

@BelladiMamma no talk about it! I will definitely be learning ☺️ This thread is a huge support to me as I’m sure it is to lots of us here x