Dating thread 215 we are over here!!!

[BelladiMamma]

Ok folks new thread, hopefully everyone will find is!!

@dancemom

Agree with @Eesha

Last minute flaky types rarely change and even if he's great company and attractive you'll be on tenterhooks all the time if this is who he is? Some people are Ok with last minute arrangements others aren't and if you aren't (I get annoyed by this too) then someone unreliable will drive you nuts even if they're Ok in person..

I mean I could get a cancellation from MrHedgehog

but one of the reasons I feel Ok with him coming to mine is he asked straight after we met last so I felt "prepared" as I've known for a few days this is the plan? and he messaged yesterday to check and a couple hours ago to set the time.

(he didn't ask to come to mine and would have been happy for me to pick a place out but I want a proper kiss without gawpers )

Haha @BelladiMamma

I guess I'm at the age where making out on the street and in a bar is a bit too much...but maybe full-on stuff is "too much too soon"? Even for him, I mean. We shall see!

Waa hoooo have a fun evening @SpringlikeBunk 🦔💘

@SpringlikeBunk

MrHedgehog coming over soon (my idea not his )

Not sure what the plan is (on paper a cup of tea) but have been trimming and shaving and have lingerie on

might change my name to HoeBunk tomorrow

go for it, tea can wait, we'll expect an update later when you are having a breather

Maybe he’ll get a cup of tea tomorrow morning 😉😍

@SpringlikeBunk

MrHedgehog coming over soon (my idea not his )

Not sure what the plan is (on paper a cup of tea) but have been trimming and shaving and have lingerie on

might change my name to HoeBunk tomorrow

HogBunk ...?!

Aaah a good set of under crackers should never got to waste either 🥰😘

@eesha what outfit and which venue did you go for in the end?!

And yes whoever had a flake ... they rarely change and I loathe and detest them!!

@BelladiMamma

I've put a big pashmina on over the whole outfit so I'm like a hidden undercover floozy not an obvious scary one.

[quote SpringlikeBunk]@BelladiMamma

I've put a big pashmina on over the whole outfit so I'm like a hidden undercover floozy not an obvious scary one.[/quote]
What just a pashmina and a thong hun ...?

🙈🙈🙈🤣🤣🤣

Ok HedgeBunk, MrJustACuppaTea better be good at warming you up again as you'll catch your death in that outfit 😁😁😁

MrDrummer is swiftly qualifying himself for the cull. The suggestion to leave my sleeping teen at home to go join him for a hot night next week is not a look I want to go for.

Once I CBA, I'll be deleting him from Feeld and WhatsApp however hot he might be.

The question is, do I bother with an explanation...? I've noticed that Feeld connections can find you again - one looked me up on the app and connected with me again which I thought was not really called for 🧐 and a flaw of the app's

Note that sparse internet coverage at the airport gets me onto Mumsnet but not Feeld 🙈

@SpringlikeBunk 🤔😆 at cup of tea...

@Shayelle2009 yes i have been seeing magnet-man when he’s been around… can’t resist him! At the moment i’m quite content with what we have going on which is once a week for a few hours. More time together isn’t possible as its up to his trucking routes and sorting my DS out with friends/sleepovers. I’m really not thinking he’s forever/long-term though anymore, we just see each other when we can.
Enjoy @SpringlikeBunk @eesha, whatever you wear i’m sure you’ll look terrific!
@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards nice to see your posts again! Hope things are going well!
@dancemom(i think) flakiness is a bad sign for sure but then again i’m sure i’ve had things come up and had to postpone last minute, including being too hung-over, so it really depends on how much you would like to see him. If it were me i’d likely give him the benefit of the doubt actually…
@Isitreallyme177 text Cricket-Man, would be lovely to get to see him again!

I wish i could meet up with a few of you too! I miss the UK! And this thread keeps me going on days where works is so dull. And all the support i got through the MrE shenanigans as well. It’s just made me feel a lot less like a failure for not having managed to get into a successful relationship. Its been a big confidence boost for me.

As usual enjoyed reading all your updates, wish you all happy dating for the week ahead.

I had my date zero with Mr Sci-Fi yesterday. He doesn’t look like his photos, I can’t figure out what he’s done in the photos - possibly some kind of filter! He was actually shaking and admitted he found it more nerve wracking than a job interview. I was a bit freaked out that he’d managed to find my blog and Facebook account (even though I use a nickname on Bumble) and told me this. He also has a worrying (to me anyway) lack of hobbies and friends, his only hobby is watching Sci-fi and his only social interactions are with his mum and daughter, which seems a bit odd.

In the evening I went out with Mr Single Dad, we had a good time but I worry I’m not chatty enough for him… and possibly not chatty enough for anyone. I think I need to find another introvert like me, but the dating apps are full of guys who seem really sporty and outgoing.

I also have another chat on the go with Mr Beardy Scottish, he has a big multicoloured beard and a lot of interests in common with me. I’m a bit of a sucker for a Scottish accent! We might be meeting up next weekend.

@BelladiMamma I'm in a tan leather skirt, a cut out jumper top in cream which makes me look like a nun as it has a collar! Plus ankle boots and a camel coat, so very autumnal. I'm a bit paranoid ill be ghosted. This happened several years ago to me, met a date, he went to the loo then disappeared. Sent a note saying "sorry you aren't my type, I've left ". Despite it being years back and I've had relationships and positive dates since, I'm always a bit paranoid it will happen again! Just en route now!

[quote Eesha]@BelladiMamma I'm in a tan leather skirt, a cut out jumper top in cream which makes me look like a nun as it has a collar! Plus ankle boots and a camel coat, so very autumnal. I'm a bit paranoid ill be ghosted. This happened several years ago to me, met a date, he went to the loo then disappeared. Sent a note saying "sorry you aren't my type, I've left ". Despite it being years back and I've had relationships and positive dates since, I'm always a bit paranoid it will happen again! Just en route now![/quote]
Loving the outfit!!

That ghosting story though ... that guy must have been bitten on the bum by karma big time by now!! Wtaf 😳

@BelladiMamma yes it was weird, all via Guardian Soulmates. I guess he didn't want to waste his time!

@Stayingstrongish

As usual enjoyed reading all your updates, wish you all happy dating for the week ahead.

I had my date zero with Mr Sci-Fi yesterday. He doesn’t look like his photos, I can’t figure out what he’s done in the photos - possibly some kind of filter! He was actually shaking and admitted he found it more nerve wracking than a job interview. I was a bit freaked out that he’d managed to find my blog and Facebook account (even though I use a nickname on Bumble) and told me this. He also has a worrying (to me anyway) lack of hobbies and friends, his only hobby is watching Sci-fi and his only social interactions are with his mum and daughter, which seems a bit odd.

In the evening I went out with Mr Single Dad, we had a good time but I worry I’m not chatty enough for him… and possibly not chatty enough for anyone. I think I need to find another introvert like me, but the dating apps are full of guys who seem really sporty and outgoing.

I also have another chat on the go with Mr Beardy Scottish, he has a big multicoloured beard and a lot of interests in common with me. I’m a bit of a sucker for a Scottish accent! We might be meeting up next weekend.

Me: Putting all those things about MrSciFi as multiple amber flags and making them one light red one ... I've come across this before the whole found you on Facebook thing. Even if you have done a bit of snooping ahead of time to establish your credentials ie you are who you say you are, I don't know why but mentioning it as a topic of convo is a bit odd, unless you're literally saying 'yeah I ran a quick check so that I'd feel safer'. I realise it's highly hypocritical as I have always tried to establish who the hell I'm meeting, often via SM but that's where it ends. You take people at face value after that...?

MrScottishBeard sounds fun 🤩 potentially...?

@Eesha unnecessarily rude and cowardly though ...

@BelladiMamma

MrDrummer is swiftly qualifying himself for the cull. The suggestion to leave my sleeping teen at home to go join him for a hot night next week is not a look I want to go for.

Once I CBA, I'll be deleting him from Feeld and WhatsApp however hot he might be.

The question is, do I bother with an explanation...? I've noticed that Feeld connections can find you again - one looked me up on the app and connected with me again which I thought was not really called for 🧐 and a flaw of the app's

That's alarming, especially as I told one to fuck off yesterday. I noticed there wasn't any block sort of option.

@BelladiMamma

Note that sparse internet coverage at the airport gets me onto Mumsnet but not Feeld 🙈

Feeld is very glitchy, I can only get on it about 50% of the time.

@BelladiMamma thanks for your thoughts, I felt the same. I am having a rethink about how much to tell irons before meeting, I now realise my lack of expertise at hiding my digital trail!

@VanGoghsDog yes re glitching and yes re disconnecting. It says something like 'you won't be able to find this person again' but doesn't actually stipulate that they can't find you again ...? Luckily it was a fairly harmless 'you live 100's of miles away' type conversation but it's still not good enough. Could be something to do with the glitchiness...? Eg it doesn't register the disconnect every time?!

Well I've just messaged Mr Cricket 😬🙈, now I'm all excited and nervous. Which is absolutely stupid. I shall resist looking at WhatsApp to see if he has read it and act like an adult and not some infatuated teenager.🤣

@Eesha hope your date goes well. Outfit sounds lovely.

[quote Stayingstrongish]@BelladiMamma thanks for your thoughts, I felt the same. I am having a rethink about how much to tell irons before meeting, I now realise my lack of expertise at hiding my digital trail![/quote]
If it's someone with any level of tech or SM awareness and time on their hands they can find you once they have a few sparse details. It's all a bit shitty really but I've decided to try not to let it get to me ... despite my stalker from last year I have figured that people get crushes and can over invest in your digital persona and aren't necessarily going to cause you any harm ... but ... it's not nice