Dating thread 215 we are over here!!!

[BelladiMamma]

Ok folks new thread, hopefully everyone will find is!!

@BelladiMamma I absolutely lurrrve that little town it’s amazing and my friend showed me like 15 things I never knew about it when we went there. Amazing place.

Right better get ready as going to have this old molar taken out shortly! Urgh wish me luck!! 🙊

[quote Eesha]**@BelladiMamma is Mr Actor famous!! I love a good showbiz story. I met Ian Brown somewhere dodgy which could have gone somewhere had he not looked like a corpse.

I'm wrecked after a reasonably early night (midnight) out sans alcohol. How do drinkers do it?!

Thanks @Shayelle2009 @BelladiMamma, I have to think about a date place now. Cafe Rouge sounds a good shout though they might have shut down recently? I'm feeling that mood about it bring 'just another date that goes nowhere'...[/quote]
No he isn't a household name but he has a fan base. Luckily I had no he as I haven't seen the 2-3 shows that put him on the map. Famous people are a different ballgame entirely, although they can be quite romantic and idealistic at times as they have things a bit easier than us mere mortals, don't need to worry about whether or not they have enough money to whisk you out for dinner etc.

I think if you're feeling meh about it, choose somewhere that you really want to go and give yourself something to look forward to. My most boring date ever, MrAccountant, was at least at a pub I really like plus I brought my younger dog so did a bit of socialisation training 🤣

[quote Shayelle2009]@BelladiMamma I absolutely lurrrve that little town it’s amazing and my friend showed me like 15 things I never knew about it when we went there. Amazing place.

Right better get ready as going to have this old molar taken out shortly! Urgh wish me luck!! 🙊[/quote]
Good luck!!

Did she show you the blue plaque where me and my brother grew up 🤪

@Eesha ‘had he not looked like a corpse’ hahahaaaa 😂😂

@BelladiMamma omg NO!! You will have to tell me more 🥰

[quote Eesha]**@BelladiMamma is Mr Actor famous!! I love a good showbiz story. I met Ian Brown somewhere dodgy which could have gone somewhere had he not looked like a corpse.

I'm wrecked after a reasonably early night (midnight) out sans alcohol. How do drinkers do it?!

Thanks @Shayelle2009 @BelladiMamma, I have to think about a date place now. Cafe Rouge sounds a good shout though they might have shut down recently? I'm feeling that mood about it bring 'just another date that goes nowhere'...[/quote]
He he I do love a lived in look, but maybe not a recently deceased look 🤣

[quote Shayelle2009]@BelladiMamma omg NO!! You will have to tell me more 🥰[/quote]
Ha ha ha it was a joke but I think I should put one up there. Everyone in that little ole town knew my bro 😘

Good luck with the dentist @Shayelle2009 it will be over I'm no time.❤

After culling the Bumble guys on my contacts I've now culled the Feeld guys. Fingers itching to cull MrDrummer; he's into drink and drugs and even for a FB I don't want that. But I liked his chat ...

@BelladiMamma he has just moved over here, is older than Id normally go for, but we just chatted with ease all night, lots in common, held my hand as we walked to another bar (my god, I'm like a schoolgirl) just incredibly sweet and friendly.

He asked if I was free Sunday (I'm actually supposed to go for lunch with my bestie, but she's given me permission to bail) so I'll see if I hear from him today.

Been on holiday for a week so OLD was on back burner. State of play

Ms Cosmopolitan has said she doesn't want a relationship after 2 promising dates

Ms Vegan, whom I first chatted to in February, is taking a break from OLD due to the liars and nutters

Date 1 with Ms Lithuanian arranged. Lunch on Monday.

Good luck @Shayelle2009 thinking of you.

@Eesha agree date venues always a nightmare!

The "Holy Grail" of date venues is a mid-priced, neutral, okish bar or Cafe place which is open good hours and where you can either have "one and dash" if no chemistry or stay longer

But of course that's not always possible to find or for both people to commute to.

I don't know my new city that well but every guy seems to suggest the same place in town which "kind of" fits that description.

Fine but I don't want the staff seeing me week in week out with a new guy!

Arf @TobyEsterhase that's very frequent I think!

"Ms Vegan, whom I first chatted to in February, is taking a break from OLD due to the liars and nutters"

@BelladiMamma Good luck on the cull!

You do seem happier and more enthusiastic with the MrActor connection.

I personally think sometimes it's nice just knowing that "the feeling is there" and I CAN get excited about guys, even if practically things won't/don't progress for logistic reasons?

Like MrHedgehog is awesome but I can see lots of practical barriers for things moving forward etc etc. He's said he's a workaholic and clearly is going places, and personally my days of "being support staff for a guys job" are over.

I'm not at the life stage or of the mindset now where it's "me compromising to keep the fellah" as well?

But just having that nice connection and knowing it's possible is great.

@Shayelle2009 hope the surgery is going well 🤗

Met Mr M for dinner last night (my second time using my sitter). Again he came over my way so I was closer if any issues at home. He turned up with flowers again (roses this time) and a card for our "1 month anniversary" a bit of a joke on his part but he'd written a lovely message in it 😊 I'm really enjoying this but still conscious that this one could risk me getting hurt whereas none of the others did which is scary but on flip side amazing

@Slothmomma Sounds like another great date and it's brilliant you've found a good sitter.

Getting hurt is always an issue in a relationship but sometimes we have to risk it and just enjoy things.
Taking things slowly always helps and trying not to get emotionally invested too soon.

@SortingItOut yes we are taking things slow I guess and his current working pattern is helping that as can only meet every other weekend at moment or every weekend if I get a sitter.

@SpringlikeBunk

Good luck *@Shayelle2009* thinking of you.

@Eesha agree date venues always a nightmare!

The "Holy Grail" of date venues is a mid-priced, neutral, okish bar or Cafe place which is open good hours and where you can either have "one and dash" if no chemistry or stay longer

But of course that's not always possible to find or for both people to commute to.

I don't know my new city that well but every guy seems to suggest the same place in town which "kind of" fits that description.

Fine but I don't want the staff seeing me week in week out with a new guy!

Arf @TobyEsterhase that's very frequent I think!

"Ms Vegan, whom I first chatted to in February, is taking a break from OLD due to the liars and nutters"

@BelladiMamma Good luck on the cull!

You do seem happier and more enthusiastic with the MrActor connection.

I personally think sometimes it's nice just knowing that "the feeling is there" and I CAN get excited about guys, even if practically things won't/don't progress for logistic reasons?

Like MrHedgehog is awesome but I can see lots of practical barriers for things moving forward etc etc. He's said he's a workaholic and clearly is going places, and personally my days of "being support staff for a guys job" are over.

I'm not at the life stage or of the mindset now where it's "me compromising to keep the fellah" as well?

But just having that nice connection and knowing it's possible is great.

I'm totally with you on the 'positive connection' page. Reminds me that if I compromise again, I need to be clear to myself that I'm compromising and what I'm getting out of it. And keep it casual. I mean, I was already bored of MrBear's chat by this point as it was all 'this is what I had for lunch'. There was zero depth behind it and I kept trying to make him more interesting in my head because he was from an interesting part of the world. But it couldn't make up for his boring character.

Same with MrTattoo - these guys wouldn't be boring to everyone though. MrTattoo has nice hugs and MrBear was a version of thoughtful and attentive that actually I found ultra stifling.

One of my friends was so patronising about it though, I'd opened up to her about MrBear and how I felt I was maybe throwing the baby out with the bath water (I wasn't). I don't think she realises but as her partner is a 'love match' she always says to me stuff like, 'You need to fall in love and then you'll realise you don't need OLD' 🤔
Hmmm thanks for that ...

@Slothmomma this all sounds really positive hope it continues to be so ♥️

@TobyEsterhase I could have been any one of these women over the last year ... I guess bow out gracefully and let them know if you want to stay in touch...?

That’s it isn’t it @BelladiMamma ?

I think sometimes as I swipe away FOMO and loneliness and the urge to “give people a chance” means I’m getting too many connections that aren’t quite there or feel forced.

But the “chatting constantly with someone who is easy to be in touch with and also a decent physically attractive type” should be what we’re aspiring for.

Mr Cricket is back today, it's my turn to suggest doing something but it's also my turn to go to him as he came to me last time. And he hasn't moved yet so I will have to try and think of something near him and it is also my turn to drive (better clean my car then if I'm having a passenger😬).

I'm counting the days until he moves and is 'local' to me.

Goodness, such an active bunch, loads more connections, dates and updates since I last looked yesterday.

And adding mine to the list - last night was drinks and dinner with Mr Smiler who comes from out of town so was staying in a local hotel. Let's just say I'm very, very glad I did get the waxing appointment... 😏😊

@SpringlikeBunk yes - and after a year of OLD I've got way closer to it than ever. A previous iron MrScot was quite similar but there wasn't the physical attraction, even though I was sleeping with him, it was more 'great guy and great chat, now I've slept with him it's hard to go back to being friends'.

@Isitreallyme177 I would hate any of my irons to live near to me. With me, the concept of 'space' is about a 20 mile exclusion zone 🤣

@FireandBrimstone

Goodness, such an active bunch, loads more connections, dates and updates since I last looked yesterday.

And adding mine to the list - last night was drinks and dinner with Mr Smiler who comes from out of town so was staying in a local hotel. Let's just say I'm very, very glad I did get the waxing appointment... 😏😊

🤣 so glad you didn't have a wasted wax 👙🥰

@FireandBrimstone

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@Slothmomma

Vulnerability is part of being connected and liking someone decent, so it's good that you are feeling it?

I've had times when to play it safe I'm dating guys I "don't really respect or like that much or have much in common"

so I don't feel bad when it goes wrong, but looking back that's no way to live and love.

I'd just take things one date or contact at a time, get to know each other, feel your feelings and let it pan out as it will.