Dating thread 215 we are over here!!!

[BelladiMamma]

Ok folks new thread, hopefully everyone will find is!!

He just sounds like hard work.

@Hehx3

Hello, I go 10 yrs up and 2 yrs down, Im late 30's. I think past 30, age gap seems to not make that much difference as most ppl are at similar stages of life (mind you there seems to be loads of guys that are in 40's no children, "dont know" if they want relationship and write about adventures which for me it is just bizarre 😵‍💫). There cant be so much of a difference between 48 and 50 and maybe its good they are removing themselves from the sight I guess. If you dont mind me asking a questions. Im chatting with a guy lets call him Mr DNA, normal chat, nothing weird, seemed okay. He wanted to go on whats up so i told him that i give out my number after i met someone and as Im going on a date on Saturday and I do not want to multi date that might be after that (as i learnt about flakiness of guys very quickly - nothing seems to be set in stone until it happens). He then wrote that he only talks to 1 person as its cheating and deletes all apps before the date... how likely is that? Cause it raised my eyebrows and a red flag.

I may have misread it (hard to judge the tone when it's in writing and second-hand) but I'd interpret that as: he's taking the piss out of your integrity and is being sarcastic - he does nothing of the sort. Tbh whether he's being genuine or sarcastic, I'd be unmatching pretty swiftly, personally.

[quote Naimee87]@JustAnother0ldMan 7.5tonnes gets you a brownie point or two! You’d like a woman who owns a full set of ladders? this has really made me laugh but i feel i’ve possibly misunderstood.

@WeWantTheFinestWines everytime i feel like a date would be nice the flaky stories put me off! Time is so precious that when you set some aside only for them to bail it just rubbish! Are you off the apps?[/quote]

I'm sort of on the apps while having given up on them completely. But I do want to meet someone so...

@Hehx3 that's a bit too intense for my liking as you're being honest (not many would be). His nose is just out of joint because you have a date!

I've caught up! Hehx - just no.

Age gap - I've just changed my search criteria as I keep forgetting how old I am and I was getting loads of men in their 40s. Didn't swipe on them as they seemed too young and I had to remind myself I'm 55! So I'm going for 50-62.

As to why we want someone - everyone has said it. I'm fine now, busy job, fun colleagues, good friends, teenage boys that still need me - but one day I'll retire, the kids will leave home and that's when you need that someone to see places and have adventures with. Someone to chat to. Just someone to hang to hang out with.

And justanotheroldman - even your username reveals your lack of confidence. You're not even that old. You're clearly an intelligent man as you found all us lot! You have a sense of humour and a lot to offer someone. Stop putting yourself down - this thread is all about realising that the more we value ourselves, the less likely we are to end up with someone who's going to make us miserable. So acknowledge your value.

bloody germans

Another early 50s male here, would like to thank all the posters over the last 48hours, it's been great to have an insight into the female view of dating

Late to the party (parties?) but just chipping in on the age thing.
I'm 53. I have my age range search set to 51-59. I definitely don't want someone under 50. (I would feel self conscious and inadequate about my 53 year old body).

My age range is 40 to 50. I'm mid 40s myself but probably look younger.

To all the cat people, I'm so envious!

How's everyone's weekend looking? I'm sans kids so back to back with seeing friends plus a date zero however is it wrong that I feel too cold to venture out at all?

Age gap for me is a strange one as well because i’ve never been interested in anyone my age or even in their 30’s (i’m 34) i did used to want the whole marriage/kids setup but now i’ve no set plan for life i’m open to just seeing what happens. But is 34 and 45 a huge difference? This was often brought up by magnet-man, but i’m guessing it was more of an excuse and to put a stop on anything getting too serious. He said i’d likely find someone younger and inevitably end whatever was going on between us. I would have agreed with him if i was dead set on having another child or wanted to get married but given that none of those things are my focus i don’t see 10yrs being a big difference at all really. But i would probably put 45 as my limit i suppose. It’s also heavily reliant on life stage and baggage from each side though too.

@SpringlikeBunk what happened with the (hedge)hog?!
No I don't think that's a particularly big gap @Naimee87 but like you said it all depends on how your goals align- if you did want the marriage and kids thing and he felt past it then it would be. Men don't have the same tick tock as women physically but I know some have a fatherhood cut off age in mind all the same.
Re age I tended to go +5/-5 and the twenty somethings often surprised me in a good way.
Mr D is a little older but not much. Still completely smitten, as are my friends that met him. Need to start thinking about introducing to DC, maybe over the festivities and keep it light. Any tips welcome!

Interesting comments on age, maybe will rebase from 50 to 59
Who doesn’t like older women, right !

Weekend is looking hobby busy on both days, can’t wait, then next weekend’s combination birthday/ weeding reception weekend is looking good as well now,

@Hehx3 he sounds like a nutter. Unmatch and delete!

@WeWantTheFinestWines I agree @JustAnother0ldMan user name. It sounds really tired. Should be ..Man With A Plan! Or something 😬

@SpringlikeBunk what’s your Germans been up to?? 😅

@Eesha how’s Feeld going?

My weekend… having a problem tooth from a while back that I cried about on here taken out tomorrow. Not looking forward to it 😣

Thank you ♥️ its a shame cause he seemed okay, but I don't like games so I will chuck him back.

@Shayelle2009

My weekend… having a problem tooth from a while back that I cried about on here taken out tomorrow. Not looking forward to it 😣

Oh no 🤕 poor you 🦷

@SpringlikeBunk yes, please tell us all about the German ... I hope everything is ok?!

No he was perfect .

Rooftop restaurant, little bit of making out in the bar.

He is literally the best skilled guy with his hands I have ever met.

We kissed all the way back to the train station (he came to my city).

But then he got all European and conscientious and was apologising in case he’d “gone too far”

(I’m older than him and the chances are I’ve probably had about ten times more experience than him 😅)

@SpringlikeBunk 😍😍

@BelladiMamma are you on holiday sweet? Hope its lovely 💗💗

I have age set between 32 and 49 (I am almost 40), I would go a little older if they were physically fit, I’m quite a active person so fitness is important but I also don’t want to date someone who has young children, it seems most men in my age bracket has young children even the ones close to 50 😬, with the under 40’s I find if they don’t have kids they want them and I can’t have any more dc.

Feeling a bit fed up, both my new irons seem to be weirdos, although they tick my boxes for not having any baggage I am now seeing why they don’t have a ex or children, both seem a bit odd, one likes trains and the other works unsociable hours, asks lots of weird questions and doesn’t drive.
I’m feeling guilty for telling my friend that I don’t want a relationship with him, he’s now backed right off but I’m missing his messages and banter (we usually exchange a lot of messages), he said he needs to just back off for a bit so he doesn’t get hurt, which I fully understand.

Thanks @Shayelle2009 hope the toothache is ok tooth issues really are awful!
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Yes he is lovely!

It’s kind of all romantic and mysterious now so I’m going to stick to my guns and just really take it one contact at a time.

Even if things don’t work out or fizzle which may happen (we’re both completely worked out and at crucial work stages and I’m away soon) it’s such a good learning experience for me thinking there’s someone out there who is nice, intelligent, likes me, and is also very, very physically compatible and sexy.

Aww @Lovemusic33 none if that sounds great but hopefully your friend will come around, once his pride’s recovered. You can’t help how you feel. Or don’t feel, in his case!

Omg @SpringlikeBunk this sounds so amazing… but I know you want to stay cool so I won’t go on 😁 it does sound really great so far though! The fact he got in touch as soon as he was back asking to see you says to me he was thinking about you his whole trip! Exciting x im happy for you!

@SpringlikeBunk I literally feel cheery reading your update haha 😁 brilliant!

@Shayelle2009

Thanks lovely - there definitely is something very special there!

This sounds really princessy but I suggested quite a posh/romantic restaurant when he told me to pick a place (normally I’d go cheap and cheerful and spicy) as I do feel it’s that kind of thing.

But of course it’s the logistics etc that are the PITA at this stage.

Interesting discussion on age.

I've found I've had to go a lot younger in searches NOT out of preference but due to there just being a dearth of guys "close to me" in age?

Yes @Shayelle2009 it also comes back to the "great social skills" thing?

Despite being a little bit nerdy (hiking boots to dinner ?) MrHedgehog is very successful professionally and obviously has all those "soft social skills" automatically on point to charm people. He's advising a government today.

So I'm mindful not to interpret anything as me being anything more than "an attractive woman on a good second date" for him? I'll just quietly obsess over him hahaha!

(I literally wanted to shag him an alleyway).