Dating thread 215 we are over here!!!

[BelladiMamma]

Ok folks new thread, hopefully everyone will find is!!

Hey all!!
Can I join please?? Been OLD for around 6 months on and off, not actually been on a date! I'm either too picky or they disappear!!

Got talking to a guy on Badoo on Saturday, he told me he was a Chief Inspector. His photo is verified and he seemed genuine. We arranged to meet this Saturday, but he has been offline since Saturday. Not been on. Not blocked me. Thinking maybe its his job?? Or a wife??? haha

Anyway made other plans for Saturday :)

@jojogoesbust

Welcome yes it really is “flaky central” on apps!

So much early contact just fades out for “whatever” reason. And like you say the connections seem genuine and the guys aren’t obviously nutters early ok!

It’s like I have 5 or so contacts on the go (out of LOADS more initial chats) but honestly they may well all fizzle out.

I'm meant to meet Mr Gardener for date zero at 5.30. He's there already but says he quite happy enjoying the view so I'm not rushing. When I saw he'd left a voice note I kind of hoped he was cancelling so I could go to pub quiz with my meetup group. Hopefully I still can. Making next to no effort. May brush my teeth as I had raw onion at lunch. Really not excited.

@jojogoesbust even if you manage a few 'dates' with them they can still be bloody flaky (sorry just feeling a bit jaded today and it's a little unfair on him as he has never actually cancelled anything).

@Isitreallyme177 I’m really sorry if you have wanted kids but it didn’t happen for you. I have a an absolutely gorgeous friend who is in the same situ, a little older than you, who is heartbroken as she never had kids because she wanted the whole family unit but never met the guy. I feel so bad for her. Thankfully I have never had the desire for children which is one good thing I guess, it must be awful wishing for children but never having met a guy. I’ve got another friend who had a baby on her own through a clinic which I think was an incredible thing to do. Can understand if people want the whole unit though and not just a child.

Well that's the shortest date I've ever been on! Missed a voice note from him saying it was chucking down and could we rearrange? I'm only 5 minutes away; when I got there it was pretty wet and windy (seaside hill) and he was in his car. He got out to tell me he'd left a message and he was better looking than I'd expected! We had a brief chat, decided to do something later in the week or at the weekend and off we went. I'm back home with tea and toast, he's a half hour drive away. So I get my quiz in and hopefully a first date in the next few days, with a man who I could see myself potentially fancying if he plays his cards right!

@Shayelle2009 it was one if those silly dreams of the perfect family, friends over for bbqs and parties. It was just never meant to be and looking back probably a good thing. I can't imagine bringing a child into what was my relationship with my ex. He talks about wanting kids now but he can't look after himself let alone a baby. At least I'm not tied to him for the rest of my life.

@Isitreallyme177 you read so many stories on here of women who have the lifetime of nightmare being tied to their children’s dad/ex don’t you.. at least like you say you don’t have that.. though your ex sounds nice enough ☺️
I have the dreams too.. not of kids but the fun parties, bbqs, gatherings.. with a great guy and his great pals.. maybe one day eh 🙂

Sounds promising @WeWantTheFinestWines! See what happens next hey!

Punctuation keys aren't working again !!! @Shayelle2009 what starsign are you? i'm gemini! I do love astrology but not at all clued up on it! My friend bought an astrology (zoom) reading with her fravourite astrologer as a birthday present for me! It was so interesting and helped to put a lot into perspective about my character and how i develop/form relationships the way that i do! And a lot of what he told me made me realise why i've behaved the way i have in previous relationships as well! He got all that from my birthday/time and where i was born! Felt like i'd known him yonks! Incredible! I had a lot of questions for him and am hoping to have another reading with him to explore feelings and emotions! @SpringlikeBunk i still think you need to get a book out there on OLD ! I'm so not attracted to younger men! I really don't know what it is but cannot imagine dating anyone under 40 really! I'm a total 'dad-bod' rough round the edges fan! Who was discussing 'entlightenment' is this a thing? Because i've been hearing more and more that people are going on 'silent' retreats is this linked to being 'enlightened' or am i waaay off here! Good luck to all those with chats on the go and some date '0's! @Eesha doesn't sound like you really are too upset about things ending with MrVintage! Is quite good he gave you an insight into how he was feeling! Seems not many men would do this

Date zero tomorrow is postponed which I am fine with. Weather is miserable which makes me want to stay home anyway!

Talking to a few irons, will see if anything progresses, but I'm not really looking at new profiles.

Things have suddenly got busy for me, I have a coffee date zero with MrSciFi on Saturday, then a dinner date with Mrsingledad later in the day. And then potentially two more dates coming up with different irons. I need to calm down and stop chatting to new people I think, as the logistics are getting tricky.

@Dazedandconfused10 the weather is also making me want to stay in and hibernate! Bake Off on tonight.

I am most looking forward to a cosy night in watching Bake off. My friends know when it's on there is no point in inviting me to do something

@Shayelle2009 we can dream can't we? If you find one and he has a nice single friend send him my way lol.

@Naimee87 not too upset really but just pondering why I can't seem to find a connection with anyone. It's been like this since I first started online dating. Good chats have been so few and far between..

So update from me. I've been quiet. I decided to cancel all my apps and day farewell to the irons i was chatting to. I realised just want my original guy... and it's unfair to keep starting conversations with people who in my head just don't compare.
So I'm going to focus on living life and seeing friends and family and hopefully see my guy soon. We have had a few more honest conversations recently and i think we are now in a similar page.

So something has happened in the country of old men (geddit ? ), my Wedding Reception / Birthday weekend away has suddenly become more interesting
Someone I’ve known (and liked and pretty sure she likes me ) for years, is going to be there, and she is recently divorced…

Well that's my birthday organised, table booked, my friend has woken up lol. Will have my pt session first thing, get my hair cut, then go for lunch with my mum (if you can't be a pig on your birthday when can you🤣). Saturday I will have a quiet one as I'm out for a boozy brunch on Sunday. Yesterday I was feeling rubbish about it. I'm not sure I could fit in seeing Mr Cricket(even if he pulls his finger out).

@JustAnother0ldMan that’s very exciting news!

I think I want that cake they just showed in the bake off more than I want a man right now. Currently reassessing my priorities.

Am getting ready to go on holiday tomorrow sooo looking forward to getting some sunshine ☀️ ✈️

Wow so many posts this afternoon, a reflection of how busy it is out there?!

@Eesha that's a shame. I take it you're not up for FB or FWB? However I totally get you. I can't orgasm without an interesting conversation beforehand which at least shows some intellectual curiosity and a passing interest in politics 🤣

@Shayelle2009 @Isitreallyme177 @SpringlikeBunk @StartingAgain33 yep, so pleased I'm clearly past it for childbearing and don't have to have 'that' conversation. I think my ex really tapped into my biological urge to have kids and used that to reel me in. It was the only thing that kept us together, it's so sad to think that I could have been with someone who was a kinder and gentler soul. I just have to be that person for myself.

@Dazedandconfused10 @WeWantTheFinestWines maybe cuffing season is less sexy when it's pissing down with rain for a date. Apart from anything else, it's probably not good form to crack out the anorak on a first date ☔️

@Sugaspunsista I hope you and your guy work things out. Dating is so effing hard isn't it, trying to make it all work and keep it fun ... best to give it your best shot and forget about all the others

@RayoftheTriffids that's slightly odd that she didn't explain more what she meant about dating. Did she mean that she's delighted to have met you or just relieved that she doesn't have to go through OLD anymore

@jojogoesbust early flaking at least saves you some time...!!

MrActor is still firing on all cylinders on the chat, he even got quite romantic again. It's all meaningless though unless we see each other again ... talking about shutting the world out and just me and him .... the handsome charming devil 😈. Loving it but not really believing it as no attempt to get a date in the diary, I think he's just fantasising about moving me into girlfriend territory ... so I'm keeping my chats open on Feeld and MrSardinia, MissBrazil, MrDrummer and MrChef are very good looking sexy humans so I'm quite happy that I won't be completely without wurst or 🐱 when I return from hols.

I think all my POF and Bumble dates are now finished, I can't be bothered to go back to it really other than Feeld. I love the fact that no one expects me to host or play at being a girlfriend.

I'm sooooo jaded, my darlings what can I say 🤣🤣🤣😈😈😈🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

@JustAnother0ldMan

So something has happened in the country of old men (geddit ? ), my Wedding Reception / Birthday weekend away has suddenly become more interesting Someone I’ve known (and liked and pretty sure she likes me ) for years, is going to be there, and she is recently divorced…

Yay! That's great news 🥰

@Isitreallyme177

Well that's my birthday organised, table booked, my friend has woken up lol. Will have my pt session first thing, get my hair cut, then go for lunch with my mum (if you can't be a pig on your birthday when can you🤣). Saturday I will have a quiet one as I'm out for a boozy brunch on Sunday. Yesterday I was feeling rubbish about it. I'm not sure I could fit in seeing Mr Cricket(even if he pulls his finger out).

Happy birthday 🎂 have a bloody amazing time

Where are you off to @BelladiMamma

From my experience, FWB works when there is definitely no future. I've only had two, one being Mr Retro and the other was Mr Mad who was a mess mentally and lived like a hermit. However both made me yearn for a proper connection where for example you might be having a shit day and want to chat to someone close or need some sort of support. I definitely value the chat more than anything and have realised more and more that I can't do sex well without it.