Hot desperate housewives gardener neighbour

[Cherryblossom200]

Hello all

I have a rather lovely neighbour who lives around the corner from me, literally we are about 6 houses apart,

Both of us are in our 40's, and I 'think' he is single, he is gorgeous and from the limited interaction I've had with him he seems like a nice guy. I've noticed he looks at my houses when I've caught him driving by.

I was thinking of trying tinder to see if he is on there by limiting the search area to 5 miles (can I even do that 😂)

Otherwise I don't know how to approach him?! I don't want to knock on the door randomly, I'd be mortified 😂 he is a gardener of some sort, so I could pop a note on his van?!

I have a 6 year old, he has seen me with her and I'm sure he knows I'm on my own.

Any advice? At my age I don't want to leg opportunity's pass, but also I live around the corner and don't want to face rejection 😬

x

As a male I would love a female to come up and start chatting, if he's a gardener ask him for some gardening ideas, plants, lawncare anything to get the conversation going and take it from there!

I've never actually spoken to him. Literally we've just seen each other in passing. I have to walk past his house when we go to our park. He was doing some gardening outside his house about a month ago, when he saw me and my daughter he gave us a huge smile and said hi. I said hi back but I carried on walking 😂

I would rather the meeting be organic rather than me knock on his door asking for advice!

But I could be waiting forever until we randomly bump into one another...

Ask him if he can tend to your bush, easy!

@hairybakers

Ask him if he can tend to your bush, easy!

Has he got a routine when he arrives home, can you see where he parks up from your house and perhaps pop out of the house at same time?

I think you can limit tinder to 1 mile in remember right. So it might be worth a look.

Otherwise just make excuses to pass his house when the sun is out and next time you see him, go over and chat.

If you can work up the nerve then you can be brazen and start the convo with 'hello gorgeous' ornsomething similar and then a question. Then he'll know you are into him.

*if I remeber

Honestly next time you pass just stop and chat!

@ hairy biker 😂😂 love that!

I know approx when he leaves in the morning but I'm never that sure what time he gets back. Most of the time I'm busy with my DD. He seemed very sweet when I walked past, he may think I'm with someone as I have a child. Though I'm always on my own with her, so hopefully he will work it out.

He is so handsome! But then I always wonder why such a handsome man in his 40's is single 😬 my ex was one and he had huge commitment issues!

As others suggest you probably need to ‘engineer’ a meeting, rather than just rely on change

What about putting a note on his van?! Is the really desperate? 🤣

@Cherryblossom200

What about putting a note on his van?! Is the really desperate? 🤣

Who gives a shit as long as it works! I don't think it's desperate to go after what you want.

How to word it though, is the question.

Can't you just stop and say hello and say you were admiring his garden?

I wouldn't put a note on his van, or say hello gorgeous, or try to find him on Tinder (hopefully he doesn't need to be on Tinder anyway!).
Just ask him for some advice or to do some work on your garden.

Just ask some random, ‘what grows in acid soil’ kinda question as conversion starter and go from there, you only to start a chat going

Ask if he’s any good with lady gardens

I have some huge ferns in my garden which need trimming. So I can ask him about those. But I'm not sure when I'll see him next. I've seen him once outside his garden in the whole 4 years I've lived here. The rest of the time it's when he is in his van.

I am SO rubbish when it comes to stuff like this. I just struggle to pluck up the courage when I like someone 😬😬😬

Is it a work van? Is his number on the side of it?
If so text it, book an appt for him to come and quote you for some gardening?

If not, note on van screen, with your number, asking for similar- you need a quote and can he pop round to No10 (your house number obvs) when he gets a minute?

Otherwise, note on the van or through the door with your number on it and just tell him you think he's hot. If he replies great, if not, you've lost nothing.

But the most important thing is that you update regularly here as we will all need progress reports!!!

I'm going to go down the note on van route. More to show my interest, but not too full on.

So...,what should I write??

If I was you I’d write “Hi! I’m one of your neighbours. My garden needs some work. Could you please contact me if you are available. Thanks!” Then write your number. Get him to come and quote. When he comes you can find out his relationship status.

Ok 👍 think I'll do that 😬 I'm scared 😱

I would not leave a note, just knock on and ask him to do some gardening work for you.

Sign the note off with your name and (Number 29!) so he knows it's your house

I don't actually know which house he lives in. Hard to explain, but the way the road is it could be one of three houses. All I know is the van is his 😂 so a note would be easier! x

What about a note through his letterbox saying something like “hi neighbour, I live at number XX - here’s my number if you ever need anything!”
You could pretend that you’ve sent the note to a few of your neighbours