Hot desperate housewives gardener neighbour

[Cherryblossom200]

Hello all

I have a rather lovely neighbour who lives around the corner from me, literally we are about 6 houses apart,

Both of us are in our 40's, and I 'think' he is single, he is gorgeous and from the limited interaction I've had with him he seems like a nice guy. I've noticed he looks at my houses when I've caught him driving by.

I was thinking of trying tinder to see if he is on there by limiting the search area to 5 miles (can I even do that 😂)

Otherwise I don't know how to approach him?! I don't want to knock on the door randomly, I'd be mortified 😂 he is a gardener of some sort, so I could pop a note on his van?!

I have a 6 year old, he has seen me with her and I'm sure he knows I'm on my own.

Any advice? At my age I don't want to leg opportunity's pass, but also I live around the corner and don't want to face rejection 😬

x

I'm already heavily invested. Please keep us updated!!!!

Lol cava girl! I'm going to do it this week I think 😊 will let everyone know how it goes. Which me luck 😬

Oohhh...Good luck ! Let us know how it goes

I love this kind of thread... good luck OP!

Ok the thing is I'm assuming he is a gardener. He has no writing on his van. But it looks like it could be a gardening van, it has no top on the back of the van if that makes sense. So he could do anything 🤦🏻‍♀️

Oh gwad that makes it harder doesn't it!?!

What about “hey - it’s Cherry at no 25. Forgive the random note on your van but I was wondering if you could give some advice about these ferns in my front garden. They are out of control 😊. My number is xxxx. C”

@Cherryblossom200 if you need help drafting a note please ask but @twoandeights message looks great to me

Most important thing is to keep us updated !

Go for it !

@Cherryblossom200

Ok the thing is I'm assuming he is a gardener. He has no writing on his van. But it looks like it could be a gardening van, it has no top on the back of the van if that makes sense. So he could do anything 🤦🏻‍♀️

Oh gwad that makes it harder doesn't it!?!

Oh even better! Leave a note assuming he's a gardener. If he is - great. Ask him round for a "quote" If not - If he's remotely interested it gives him an opportunity to pop round and say, terribly sorry, not a gardener. "Oh gosh I'm so sorry, what a silly mistake! What do you do then? Now you must let me get you a coffee to make it up to you for causing such confusion!"

Ok first draft,

Hi there, it's x from number x. I hope you don't mind me leaving this note on your van. I'm unsure if you are maybe a gardener? But I have some huge ferns in my garden which I need sorting out. If this is potentially an area you work in, please let me know! My number is x

It sounds so dodge ' I have some huge ferns in my garden which sorting out' you couldn't make it up 🤣

If we actually end up together this would be such a funny story to tell people!

@MiddlesexGirl

I wouldn't put a note on his van, or say hello gorgeous, or try to find him on Tinder (hopefully he doesn't need to be on Tinder anyway!). Just ask him for some advice or to do some work on your garden.

This

Hello

It's x from number x. I hope you don't mind me leaving this note on your van.

I was wondering if you are a gardener? I have a couple of issues in my garden which I need help with.

I would be really grateful if you could contact me, my number is x

Regards

x

@ Starting again perfect! I love this note. I'm going to use it 😊

Now I need to summon up the courage to do it!

I love mumsnet 😊 what would I do without you lot! xx

Have you ever heard his voice by the way? The amount of times I’ve thought a guy was attractive in a bar and then immediately got The Ick after hearing his voice! Be careful!

Sort of when he said hi! Nothing stood out as sounding odd. But then I've not heard a full sentence yet 😂

Invested! Good luck op!

This thread is on my watch list .

Hang on a minute - he's been your neighbour for four years, but you're not sure if he's a gardener, you don't know which house he lives in (I thought you'd seen him in his garden though?) and you have no idea whether he is single. Hold back on putting a note on his van, he might think you're a bit creepy, especially if he's not a gardener and has a wife and half a dozen children

Wait til Halloween and then go trick or treating with your daughter- knock on his door in your sexy witch costume

You don't know his name, where he lives or what he does. Why on earth have you decided he is single? I don't get it.

He lives in a cul de sack with three houses, they sort of share the front garden but he seems to look after it for all the houses from what I can see.

He definitely doesn't have kids, none of the houses have children that I do know.

I've never seen him with a woman or a woman come out of the house I 'think' he lives in.

He works in the building/gardening trade definitely.

He may not be single and seeing someone, I have no idea. Maybe they don't live together. Im not sure how I would find out.

I which case I'll leave it 😂 I'd rather just not put myself out there to get rejected especially as we live close to one another's

I don't know, I think asking about work makes it seem like a work query, not a flirtation, or like you want some free help. But advice, maybe its a way in I guess. Good luck.

I think asking if he's a gardener and asking him to get in touch is fine. Not flirty at all. It's the perfect opportunity for him to respond and you can ascertain all of this.

Tbh, I'd do it but since I hit my 40s, no fucks are given 😌

Ooh keep us posted OP!

My BFF is a gardener and people are always asking him for advice. Even when I have tradespeople come to my house, a neighbour or someone on street will see and pop over for advice. He won't think it's odd, he'll be used to it.

Bonefire that makes me feels better

Do they actually knock on your door? x