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Hot desperate housewives gardener neighbour

123 replies

Cherryblossom200 · 09/10/2021 18:57

Hello all Smile

I have a rather lovely neighbour who lives around the corner from me, literally we are about 6 houses apart,

Both of us are in our 40's, and I 'think' he is single, he is gorgeous and from the limited interaction I've had with him he seems like a nice guy. I've noticed he looks at my houses when I've caught him driving by.

I was thinking of trying tinder to see if he is on there by limiting the search area to 5 miles (can I even do that 😂)

Otherwise I don't know how to approach him?! I don't want to knock on the door randomly, I'd be mortified 😂 he is a gardener of some sort, so I could pop a note on his van?!

I have a 6 year old, he has seen me with her and I'm sure he knows I'm on my own.

Any advice? At my age I don't want to leg opportunity's pass, but also I live around the corner and don't want to face rejection 😬

x

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EmmalineC · 11/10/2021 15:57

I think the idea of trick or treating with your daughter is the best one. You can dress as sexily as you can and flirt outrageously with him. If he asks for a trick rather than offering a treat, kiss him.

I still find it hard to believe you've lived there for 4 years and have only now decided he's hot. He might be gay. He may be married with an agoraphobic wife. He might not be interested in you whatsoever. I know it's been different these past 18 months, but before Covid hit, didn't you ever have any parties where the neighbours were invited?

HaggisBurger · 11/10/2021 16:48

Just go for it op. Life is short!!

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Cherryblossom200 · 11/10/2021 17:09

He lives around the corner from me, so I don't really get much of a chance to see him. I work full time and have a busy life so I don't tend to hang around outside his house 😂

Like I said the only time I walk past his house is to walk to the park. And other than that when he drives past my house in his van. If he actually lived on my road then it would be easier to find out more info!

Plus we tend to keep ourselves to ourselves on my road.

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WhiskyXray · 11/10/2021 18:27

EmmalineC
I think the idea of trick or treating with your daughter is the best one. You can dress as sexily as you can and flirt outrageously with him. If he asks for a trick rather than offering a treat, kiss him.

This is an idea. It could become a funny family story. "Mum, remember that Halloween we went trick or treating and you dressed in your skimpies and made a lunge at the man around the corner? He didn't want to press assault charges, but his wife insisted. Good times... ah."

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Cherryblossom200 · 11/10/2021 18:31

I do like the trick or treat idea! I think I'll do that first off 👍

I did drive down his road today, just to do a little stake out 🤣 so I actually took note of the houses. His van was practically parked outside a house, so I think I know which house is his. There was a little red car parked a bit further down from his van. So I'm worried wondering it could be his gf's or his normal car...not sure now. A red car seems a bit girlie, it's a red Peugeot I think.

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ZenNudist · 11/10/2021 18:32

Good luck. Hope he calls. But then you've got to change the conversation from your fern to your bush Grin

EmmalineC · 11/10/2021 18:39

A red Peugot - oh dear, that's definitely a girlie car Grin Perhaps he has a daughter who drives though? Can't you ask one of the other neighbours? You'll make a right twit of yourself if it turns out he's married or gay.

Veryverycalmnow · 11/10/2021 18:44

Ooh, good luck! Can't wait to hear how it goes.

ceilingfaninmyspoon · 11/10/2021 19:01

Google the phone number on the van, locate the company website so you can find out his name... then head for Facebook and get investigating. Then come back and tell us what you found Grin

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Cherryblossom200 · 11/10/2021 19:20

The van has no writing on it 🤦🏻‍♀️ so annoying!! But it's definitely a little citron or Peugeot. So I'm thinking now, fit guy in his 40's. He is either gay or married...

I just didn't get the gay vibe from him...so I think
he must just have a gf or wife.

However...I am definitely going to do the trick or treat thing 👍👍👍 there is no harm in that at all 😊

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DuvetDayIsEveryDay · 11/10/2021 19:41

Did you leave the note ? Come on OP, get on with it !! Grin

QuicklyNowThen · 11/10/2021 19:46

I agree with the trick or treating thing

KnightKnurse · 11/10/2021 19:50

You could tell him that you'd love to get in his plants ... or that you love a man with a raised bed :)

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Cherryblossom200 · 11/10/2021 19:51

No note! I'm waiting until the 31st 🎃 which is a Sunday so hopefully he will be home. Plus if he has a gf, she will more than likely be there too!

So approx 3 weeks to wait 😊

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PricklesTheHedgehog · 11/10/2021 20:05

3 weeks?! But MN dramas happen much quicker than that, OP.

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Cherryblossom200 · 11/10/2021 20:25

🤣 Prickles! I'm not sure how to speed this up without me looking like a super twat! Believe me I'd love to find out earlier too!

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Jesskir89 · 11/10/2021 20:58

I would just know on and ask if he does gardens and to look at your big trees... when he's there ask if he fancies a coffee sometime.

Jesskir89 · 11/10/2021 20:58

Knock on*

PigletJohn · 11/10/2021 22:04

you can chat about his plants, but don't start a business relationship such as having him do your garden.

Business and pleasure are two different parts of life.

Icanflyhigh · 12/10/2021 01:09

@Cherryblossom200

The van has no writing on it 🤦🏻‍♀️ so annoying!! But it's definitely a little citron or Peugeot. So I'm thinking now, fit guy in his 40's. He is either gay or married...

I just didn't get the gay vibe from him...so I think
he must just have a gf or wife.

However...I am definitely going to do the trick or treat thing 👍👍👍 there is no harm in that at all 😊

This could literally be anyone now..... DH drives a little white van with no writing on it. It was a freebie!
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Cherryblossom200 · 12/10/2021 09:05

At least the van is a talking point! Even if he isn't a gardener if I left my nuke we he could see my photo on WhatsApp and hopefully recognise me?! x

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MyVaginaHatesMe · 12/10/2021 10:09

That's agessas away! We can't wait that long! That could be 3 weeks of steamy encounters you're missing out on.

EmmalineC · 12/10/2021 11:31

@Cherryblossom200

At least the van is a talking point! Even if he isn't a gardener if I left my nuke we he could see my photo on WhatsApp and hopefully recognise me?! x
Your nuke? You're planning to discharge nuclear weaponry at him if he declines your offer of greenhouse shenanigans? Ask him round for coffee first. You could also invite the driver of the red Peugot, one way of finding out if he's married or gay. When's the next Macmillan coffee morning? Host one of those and invite all your neighbours.
Viviennemary · 12/10/2021 11:37

No no no to a note on his van. Do a bit of undercover detective work ask neighbours discreetly. If there's a mobile number on the van you could send a text enquiring about garden work. That would be a last resort.

MummyDummyNow · 06/11/2021 18:51

OP what happened? Did you go trick or treating at his house?

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