Rude "famous people"

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We have a famous designer at my kid's school, born to a very wealthy family. Her kids are nice
She can be very unfriendly but inconsistently so - will often blank people one day and be friendly the next. Acts quite haughtily with the teachers. At times very abrupt.
She doesn't have to be friends with us civilians - that I fully understand. But what's with the rude behaviour? What's going on there? The school mums are a pretty innocuous bunch and I'd like to think we are friendly and welcoming.

Margaret Atwood is a cow.

But what's with the rude behaviour?

She's a rude arse.

These threads are always deleted.

Lots of people are rude, but we watch the interesting ones a lot more. There'll be loads of playground parents that avoid you some days when they just can't be arsed for whatever reason, but because they're not a celeb you're not observing so closely or hoping that they'll want to be friendly with you.

Not saying this is the case with your acquaintance, but I know a woman who is on the spectrum, high functioning but frequently comes across as rude because she misses social cues.

I kind of see that you mean @LubaLuca . However she doesn't act like someone who is having an off day. It's more than that. If anything we give her more space as we don't want to seem like we want to be her friend

I should probably add that she is very friendly with another high profile mum . is this the deal? Do they kind of feel uncomfortable with others that might not be rich or famous? Is it a lack of trust?

Holly Willoughby.
No personal experience, a friends son worked in the studio and said it’s all show for the cameras. I was surprised! as seems genuine.

Edited for a different POV:

*We have a parent who is an unknown but exceptional oncology scientist in his/her field at my children’s school, seems to be well off.

Her kids are nice.

She can seem unfriendly but inconsistently so - will often blank people one day and be friendly the next. Interacts directly with the teachers. At times very abrupt. It occurs to me that—like all humans and parents—she has good days and bad days. She might also be preoccupied with work as well as her children.

She doesn't have to be friends with us and might not be thinking of making more friends, as she might have a full life - that I fully understand.

But what's with the behaviour that is unusual to me? Why are people different and why should I be expected to understand that? The school mums are a uniform bunch and I'd like to think we are friendly and welcoming. I don’t understand why this person—who hasn’t hurt anyone—doesn’t want to be in with our group.”

I can’t speak for the famous person but when my daughter was at primary school, there was a mum who hated me (and hate was apparently the word she used) because she thought I was a snob. Her only evidence for that was that I was often standing alone at pick up time. I was often alone because I didn’t know most of the groups of mums and was bit shy.
The famous designer might have some form of anxiety, or might not feel she fits right in, or might be busy. But most likely isn’t feeling as haughty as she looks.

Stella McCartney?

@ShagMeRiggins very insightful. Thank you! You sound like you might have a psychology background

She's fallible, just like everyone else.

I bet everyone else has their ups and downs too, depending on what else is pre-occupying them

To be fair, met someone like this (non famous) and we all went out of our way to accommodate her/ rationalise what was up. Turns out she’s a spoilt twat and that’s pretty much it :)

Bet its Stella McCartney

Is it Laurence Llewelyn Bowen

For the very reason you posted.

She might be wary of making new friends because a lot of people only want to talk to her because she famous.

Well, given you all "give her more space because she's a sleb", perhaps you're all giving off mixed messages to her as well.

New job on Reception - man comes in (who turned out to be a famous author, but I didn’t know who he was at the time). He just said ‘I’m expected’. When I said ‘what name is it please?’ He replied ‘don’t get funny with me, dear’. The person he had come to see appeared at that moment and took him off, so I had to ask a colleague who the hell that was.

@FangsForTheMemory

She might be wary of making new friends because a lot of people only want to talk to her because she famous.

This is what is intriguing me. What do they think someone would want from them? They clearly move in different spheres, and We are not going to ask for money. Do they feel people will use them somehow? Trade off their name? If you are a "normal " person you can't really elevate your status by befriending a famous person can you?!

Ohhh is it Alice Temperly??

@Onthedunes I don't understand? Could you explain

Garry Barlow. Absolutely full of himself.

Is it Laurence Llewelyn Bowen

Bet he's dead flouncey

Op perhaps she doesn't want to be your friend so says hi now and again or perhaps you are all a bit intimidating standing in a big group so they stay clear. You maybe just need to admit defeat say hello and leave it as it is.