Original thread here:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/4368892-To-be-beginning-to-have-a-bad-feeling-about-new-boyfriend
Sorry, it’s taken me a while to realise the previous thread filled up whilst I was out last night and it’s also been moved here. I’m a bit reluctant to make a ‘part 2’ thread as I hope there won’t be much more to come in terms of updates, but I really am so grateful for all of the wisdom and encouragement so many of you provided yesterday that if nothing else, I want to let you know that I’m safe and ok!
I haven’t spoken to him or replied to any of his messages, even though it’s difficult not to keep telling him to piss off. I received a long email from him overnight, which I did skim read as I wanted to check it didn’t contain anything threatening, which fortunately it didn’t. Highlights of the email included his realisation that he has a drink problem and wants to get better, but doesn’t think he can do it by himself and knows I would be a great support. There is obvious manipulation here as I had a family member who almost died from alcoholism a few years ago, who I had to care for for a while. He’s also disappointed that I’m so rude I wouldn’t even thank him for the flowers, as ‘everybody’ thinks I’m so kind and polite but actually I’m quite stuck up. He doesn’t know what he possibly could have done to upset me so is worried about me.
The email doesn’t bother me much, but what does is that overnight he has changed his profile picture on Facebook to a photo of us in bed together (clothed fortunately), but again with me asleep. Just our faces and it’s not an objectively bad/inappropriate photo or anything, but he absolutely would know how much it would bother me to see. We’re not even friends on Facebook because he said he didn’t want his ‘crazy’ wife to be able to contact me. If he’s trying any old tactic to get me to talk to him, he’s close to succeeding as I’m really upset about the photo. I will try my best to continue ignoring him though. No texts or calls today, so maybe last night was as bad as it will get, in which case I would consider myself quite lucky.