Dating thread 214 - the no rules one!

[BelladiMamma]

Here are the only rules what matter!

As for anything else OLD not listed here - make your own ❤️

@BelladiMamma

Not sure yet 🤔 but it’s a bit “too much” swiping daily I think, so it’s finding the compromise. Just so I’m excited about it rather than swiping mindlessly!

Thanks everyone for your thoughts on Mr Cars. I can’t see it working long term for me in a relationship with him as his views are definitely more old fashioned than mine.

I only use Bumble and tend to dip in and out on Bumble depending on how many chats I have going on. At the moment I’ve muted it as I have four irons, two of which I have dates coming up for, I don’t have any headspace for more chats!

Thanks @Stayingstrongish that’s helpful to know!

Like at the moment I am hopefully awaiting news of a second meet with MrHedgehog (at his conference away), new first meet later today, and couple of ok chats.

So maybe treat this as my “limit” and let all this slowly play out before swiping more?

@SpringlikeBunk sounds like that could be a good plan! I think everyone’s limits for how much time they want to spend on OLD will be different. For me personally I have a job, two young kids and friends/hobbies too, so
I only have so much free time to put into it. Good luck for your first meet today! And MrHedgehog sounds lovely.

@SpringlikeBunk

Thanks *@Stayingstrongish* that’s helpful to know!

Like at the moment I am hopefully awaiting news of a second meet with MrHedgehog (at his conference away), new first meet later today, and couple of ok chats.

So maybe treat this as my “limit” and let all this slowly play out before swiping more?

I think that limit is good - equally don't beat yourself up if it doesn't always stay like that?

This is the no rules thread 🧵 after all ❤️

MrItaly has wished me good luck for my hot date tonight.
MrAccountant has luckily signed off in a friendly way so no need to worry about any fallout from that.
Feeling like I need to check with all my irons as it's a Sunday. But then I'll feel obliged to tell them I'm on a date tonight.

Morning. I'm ever so slightly hungover 🤦‍♀️🤣. Thank god Mr Cricket is away working as he very well may have got a few drunken texts if he was in this country.

@Isitreallyme177

Morning. I'm ever so slightly hungover 🤦‍♀️🤣. Thank god Mr Cricket is away working as he very well may have got a few drunken texts if he was in this country.

@Isitreallyme177 well you know the saying, drunk people only text the ones they love, hang on ......... or is that lust over

I would love your definition on only slightly hungover

Date zero was good - really decent guy, gentleman!

Had to cut it short as snowed under but we had lots to talk about and hopefully doing something nice for the second if it happens though he's going on holiday soon.

Definitely feels better "desexing" the early stuff, with him and MrHedgehog they look fine, but there's not that vibe of "is he expecting physical contact soon?"

@SpringlikeBunk

Date zero was good - really decent guy, gentleman!

Had to cut it short as snowed under but we had lots to talk about and hopefully doing something nice for the second if it happens though he's going on holiday soon.

Definitely feels better "desexing" the early stuff, with him and MrHedgehog they look fine, but there's not that vibe of "is he expecting physical contact soon?"

That's great 😁

Am now having massive butterflies 🦋 about later. I've put on so much weight since my accident ...

Today was date zero with Ms NHS, lovely woman, well educated, well spoken, would make a great friend I think

Very close with her ExH of 27 years, they still go shopping together, go to dinner and the pictures together, still married in all but law really, how odd !
So a polite thanks but no thanks from me.

@SpringlikeBunk you're on a roll with your date zeroes. Go you!

@JustAnother0ldMan

Today was date zero with Ms NHS, lovely woman, well educated, well spoken, would make a great friend I think

Very close with her ExH of 27 years, they still go shopping together, go to dinner and the pictures together, still married in all but law really, how odd !
So a polite thanks but no thanks from me.

Yeah, alarm bells would be ringing for me too. If she has such a fabulous relationship with her ex, why aren't they still together? Odd.

It doesn't sound like she would have the emotional bandwidth to get involved with someone else.

@BelladiMamma what are you planning to wear? I'm sure you'll look amazing 🙂

Thanks @Languidleopard

It may come to nothing, for now it's just adjusting to the new "desexed" dating approach for me - I mean I've had lots of "first or second meet" intimate encounters and no issue with that for myself, but changing now.

It definitely feels a lot more chilled thinking about "interesting activities" to do on second meets rather than who's hosting.

[quote Languidleopard]@BelladiMamma what are you planning to wear? I'm sure you'll look amazing 🙂[/quote]
I am wearing ....

Knee high boots LK Bennett, the stretchy ones. Flat
All saints satin dress in dark green and black
Agnes B figure hugging denim jacket
My favourite Fig Leaves body
No jewellery
Very little make up
Blow dry
A very expensive watch

The trains are fucked and I'm feeling super nervous 😬

@SpringlikeBunk

Thanks *@Languidleopard*

It may come to nothing, for now it's just adjusting to the new "desexed" dating approach for me - I mean I've had lots of "first or second meet" intimate encounters and no issue with that for myself, but changing now.

It definitely feels a lot more chilled thinking about "interesting activities" to do on second meets rather than who's hosting.

Desexed dating is cool - then if the sex happens it's even more exciting - in my book

Knee high boots LK Bennett, the stretchy ones. Flat
All saints satin dress in dark green and black
Agnes B figure hugging denim jacket
My favourite Fig Leaves body
No jewellery
Very little make up
Blow dry
A very expensive watch

Maybe I should have done this, maybe could have had more luck 🤔

@JustAnother0ldMan

*Knee high boots LK Bennett, the stretchy ones. Flat All saints satin dress in dark green and black Agnes B figure hugging denim jacket My favourite Fig Leaves body No jewellery Very little make up Blow dry A very expensive watch*

Maybe I should have done this, maybe could have had more luck 🤔

Go for it 😁

We love a feminine man 😁

Sorry that your date seems to be joined at the hip with her ex still. Not helpful really

I'll be with you in spirit @BelladiMamma.

Thanks @SpringlikeBunk, wearing knee high boots and a kilt. And my new Bobbi Brown foundation thanks @Eesha.

We'll probably end up being disappointed in them, isn't that the way it goes!😆

@Duckschmuck

I'll be with you in spirit *@BelladiMamma*.

Thanks @SpringlikeBunk, wearing knee high boots and a kilt. And my new Bobbi Brown foundation thanks @Eesha.

We'll probably end up being disappointed in them, isn't that the way it goes!😆

Matching outfits on the thread 😁

Ach well. We can but dream.

Whoop for "coats and boots weather", it feels all cosy for a date

Me on my desexed dates when someone hints at some action....

[quote SpringlikeBunk]Whoop for "coats and boots weather", it feels all cosy for a date

Me on my desexed dates when someone hints at some action....

[/quote] this is def con 1 🤣

"DON'T MAKE THE SAME NOISES AS THEM!"