Dating thread 214 - the no rules one!

[BelladiMamma]

Here are the only rules what matter!

As for anything else OLD not listed here - make your own ❤️

Some nice chats going on and a coffee booked for Sunday.

Wish I was at the “focussing on one guy” stage though!

Just been reading an article on The Daily Telegraph about what to wear on a first coffee date. Now I know where I went wrong, I didn't wear the right chanel suit or frilly blouse and just went as me.🤣

Arf at "Telegraph" suggesting you dress like Carrie Johnson @Isitreallyme177

Expect the Sun suggests you wear a low cut top and the Guardian some sort of protest T-shirt and sandals

Guys who describe themselves like they're a car in a card ad

"Hello, the 90's wants its copy back"

Happy birthday @Slothmomma! Hope you are having a gorgeous one 🥂🎂🎈

@SpringlikeBunk any more chats with Mr Hedgehog?

@Shayelle2009

No but not expecting anything - met day after matching, only exchanged phone numbers for organising texts, and he is at the location he said he would be for conference according to Bumble (another country). Don't really want to get into big WhatsApp chats so keeping him on text.

We weren't physically intimate though the cuddle was good and he suggested extending to dinner but I said another night so don't feel overinvested.

Not sure if this will work as a strategy but definitely going to keep first meets quite chill as otherwise it just gets "too heavy too fast".

I'll drop him a catch-up text in a week if I don't hear anything - it's nice getting to know new people anyway.

Forgotten how addictive the swipeys are - I'm going to hang back from new swipes and just maintain the few chats that seems Ok this weekend.

It was nice mentioning I'm new to town and some guys have genuinely come forward with "let's do a museum" or "join my hiking group". So hopefully some new social stuff.

Hey all, ended up going out and London (WEST) was busy! It was nice to get out and about plus I managed to get petrol! Hurray! Now back to bed....hope everyone had a great Saturday! Meant to be seeing Mr Retro later on and he suggested coming to mine after dinner. I've been to his for the last couple of dates. Debating whether to say yes as my home is tidy but I'm not sure I want anyone seeing my life as yet.

@Misty9 I genuinely would avoid Mr Scot given you say how anxious you feel at times. This will only drive you insane later. You've found someone you think is great but he doesn't like you enough to stop seeing others. I think women especially really know a good one because there is so much dross out there so they want to keep a tight hold. I've been told a few times the same sort of thing "really like me etc" but most men who are spoilt for choice will take advantage. I'm happy I walked away from said men. They weren't bad people but I wasn't willing to get stressed over being part of their harem.

@JustAnother0ldMan I would say just be ruthless and strike whilst the iron is hot if you like the rough sound of someone. If I like someone a lot, I'll meet then within a week or so. If I'm not sure, I'll do a video call and then decide. But no long chats.

@SpringlikeBunk that’s what I would like, invites to more social stuff then there’s less pressure and you can just get to know someone. So much nicer that way too.
@Eesha glad you had a nice little night out! Hope your cold’s on its way out

Oh my god.... my head feels crap. Went out last night with my best friend and we got hammered. Had such a great night and have to report that i met a really good looking guy who regretfully told me he was in a relationship... but we had a chat and it was fun. Got chatted up by some weird characters..no-one hot though...
I feel a bit delicate today .

Hour everyone is well??

Milestone moment. it's been 6 months no contact with Computer Geek, he isn't coming back. He last read a message from me in May.

What do I do with the photos he sent me? They are currently in their own folder at the bottom of the folder list on my phone. Do I just leave them there? It doesn't feel right deleting them, but I hadn't looked at them for ages until last week and working out what to do with them is the final thing I suppose.

@Isitreallyme177

Milestone moment. it's been 6 months no contact with Computer Geek, he isn't coming back. He last read a message from me in May.

What do I do with the photos he sent me? They are currently in their own folder at the bottom of the folder list on my phone. Do I just leave them there? It doesn't feel right deleting them, but I hadn't looked at them for ages until last week and working out what to do with them is the final thing I suppose.

What are they of?

I'd just delete them. I'm sure he has copies.

@Isitreallyme177

Milestone moment. it's been 6 months no contact with Computer Geek, he isn't coming back. He last read a message from me in May.

What do I do with the photos he sent me? They are currently in their own folder at the bottom of the folder list on my phone. Do I just leave them there? It doesn't feel right deleting them, but I hadn't looked at them for ages until last week and working out what to do with them is the final thing I suppose.

Choose one really special one that doesn't spark sad or bad memories and keep that?

The digital world doesn't allow us to have all those rituals like burning photos and letters or sending them back in a tear stained bundle. Hitting delete is never quite as cathartic ...

I had a first date last night. It was fun, going on dates with people who don't expect to be invited back to your home is refreshing. We are going to arrange a 2nd date, so will see how that goes.

@VanGoghsDog, how’s things going with Mr WG? Have you been able to see any more of him recently? Has Mr Decorator stayed in touch?
@Isitreallyme177, well done for 6months NC with Mr CG. I would suggest deleting all photos or at most keep one as bella suggested. I find happening upon random pics in my photo roll a bit unsettling and personally in general I prefer to look forward not back. You’ve done the hard work and he doesn’t really deserve much more of your headspace.

I've got a date this afternoon with Mr Nurse....he wanted dinner but I said no and suggested a coffee.

Thanks all , I just didn't know what to do with them. It feels weird that it's coming up to a year since we matched on Tinder, he was fresh out of a relationship which should have been a massive red flag but I ignored it and in the process messed my own head up.

But we learn from our mistakes.

Completely happier topic, I need a recipe for caramel/toffee apple pie. Anyone know of any?

I've googled but wondered if anyone has tried any as I'm planning what to cook for dinner when Mr Cricket comes over next week.

@Slothmomma Happy Birthday for yesterday, hope you had a good day.
How lovely of Mr Mason.

@Dancerinthemoonlight Always hapoy to join in with a moan/bitch fest🙂

@Eesha Enjoy your date tonight.

Some really good stuff going on with new dates etc on the thread.

Hi, I could do with some advice. I have a date zero tomorrow but I am not sure what to do. My profile pictures are recent but flattering and I've just had a massive cold, I just caught sight of myself in a mirror and I swear I look 10 years older than the photos. What do I do?

@Duckschmuck A good concealer/foundation helps massively.
If you don't have those a bit of mascara and eyeshadow brightens the face.

Today drink plenty of water and get a good nights sleep.

Thanks @SortingItOut , I haven't slept very well for a few days, do probably has something to do with it. Will drink gallons of water too.