Dating thread 214 - the no rules one!

[BelladiMamma]

Here are the only rules what matter!

As for anything else OLD not listed here - make your own ❤️

@SpringlikeBunk

It wasn't a photo of a Winkle, btw, but a bona fide hedgehog.

#boyfriendmaterial

Ich möchte to the Wedding kommen 🤣

So update. The film was really good, nothing happened just a hug and kiss on the cheek(probably best as I can't do anything anyway, I hate being a woman sometimes) as he had to get an early night as he has a class at 6am tomorrow, I have pt at 8am so probably a good thing for me too.

Got talking about his ex, it only came up as we were talking about furniture. He has a lot going on and she is playing games by the sounds of it but there are two sides I know. It was definitely his decision to end it though.

He is coming over for dinner next week, and said that when he moves he'll be able to meet me when I go for my walks.

It was a lovely way to spend the evening.

Arrogant banker type being put into position of "back-up" iron.

Oh, love a bit of German, study it at Uni, but that was so long ago, the world was still in black & white back then

@SpringlikeBunk

Arrogant banker type being put into position of "back-up" iron.

Nein er musst back in the sea gehen! We have to make these guys realise they don't get laid whilst arrogant

Lol @BelladiMamma the Prosecco is wearing off and I know these things fizzle out like the bubbles

but it was just funny how if I had my "wishlist" for a perfect man to go steady with (I don't mean like a six pack and a stellar career but things like principled, sensitive, intelligent etc) every box was ticked. Normally it takes a few date zeros to get there for me?

Put the hat on hold though!

@BelladiMamma

10.30pm date tomorrow, my dear banker?

Don't think so, when I have a sweet German professor sending me hedgehog photos you need to up your game!

[quote SpringlikeBunk]@BelladiMamma

10.30pm date tomorrow, my dear banker?

Don't think so, when I have a sweet German professor sending me hedgehog photos you need to up your game! [/quote]
What?! Eff off ... that's so pre pandemic

@BelladiMamma

Yes no way I'm trudging around town (and it's "think I could be free at 10.30pm", so probably later anyway) at that time looking for a bar.

Not really that interested in him tbh but can't put eggs in one basket.

[quote SpringlikeBunk]@BelladiMamma

Yes no way I'm trudging around town (and it's "think I could be free at 10.30pm", so probably later anyway) at that time looking for a bar.

Not really that interested in him tbh but can't put eggs in one basket.[/quote]
I hear you. Despite the excitement about the German it's always good to have a distraction ... I'm still entertaining some very lukewarm chats

@SpringlikeBunk, sounds like you have had a date with Jürgen from Bake off !

If I was going to have a bromance with anyone from Bake Off it would be Giuseppe, that man can bake bread and proudly wears and Alice band, what a man !

Sounds like a lovely evening isit but I don't really understand what you can't do and why you hate being a woman? Did you want to go in for a kiss but didn't because you think only a man can do that? I'd say fuck that, go in if you want, but not with Mr Cricket! As far as we know, he sees you as a friend, and is dating, so definitely not the time to go for it. Try to enjoy just doing friends things with him, if you can without wanting more...

Lol @Onesmallstep67 yes he's so "wholesome"!

(ok hardly know him, but just really nice "vibes" as a human being).

@JustAnother0ldMan

nein to that!

@SpringlikeBunk
Ya! To that, ich mag ihn

@WeWantTheFinestWines

Sounds like a lovely evening isit but I don't really understand what you can't do and why you hate being a woman? Did you want to go in for a kiss but didn't because you think only a man can do that? I'd say fuck that, go in if you want, but not with Mr Cricket! As far as we know, he sees you as a friend, and is dating, so definitely not the time to go for it. Try to enjoy just doing friends things with him, if you can without wanting more...

I assume she has her period?

Had another glance at bankers profile and definitely looks like he’s fishing for a hookup

(Too much on expensive lifestyle in profile, few standard questions and not really paying attention to answers, then pushing for late night drinks - MrHedgehog checked exactly what I wanted to do and apologised by text for feeling he talked too much)

So just blocked the banker on all fronts.

Sticking with my nice geeks even if nothing comes of it.

@SpringlikeBunk you are funny and you sound alot like you attended the same finishing school as me
@Isitreallyme177 in so glad you had a nice evening 😊

@Sugaspunsista thank you it was a lovely evening, a good film with good company what more could a girl ask for.

@WeWantTheFinestWines funny you should say that as I thought last night how nice it was that we can do stuff like go to the cinema together as friends. We're obviously fond of each other and we're talking about doing stuff in the future so it's not like either of us are going to disappear. He is also opening up to me so obviously feels comfortable talking to me about things (I don't pry about his divorce but from what he has told me I can see it going to court and I don't want to get caught up in that). I remember that first day we met and how we chatted the whole time (the cafe was closing when we left). Nothings changed we can still talk the hind legs off a donkey 🤣. Sometimes you meet someone you just click with and we did. It's nice, whatever it is. I just need to keep my anxiety under control and once I'm back at work and the gym properly it will be.

@SpringlikeBunk

Had another glance at bankers profile and definitely looks like he’s fishing for a hookup

(Too much on expensive lifestyle in profile, few standard questions and not really paying attention to answers, then pushing for late night drinks - MrHedgehog checked exactly what I wanted to do and apologised by text for feeling he talked too much)

So just blocked the banker on all fronts.

Sticking with my nice geeks even if nothing comes of it.

Yeah, he can sling his banking hook 🪝

Au revoir! Or more precisely, Adieu!

Brilliant update @SpringlikeBunk he sounds like a good one! Man who likes and appreciates little animals always a big plus in my book!

So, it's Thursday and I'm going to have a no messaging day or two. I feel like I've spent time enough on men this week.

I'm counselling MrItaly, flirting outrageously with MrActor, having a lovely low stress coffee with MrSardinia, keeping in low key contact with MrTattoo, flirting with two other irons.

I have two options for my childfree time, both of which could fall apart of course.

But for today and maybe tomorrow I'm checking out for a bit. Let's see what happens if I don't chase / look to confirm for a while!

The only thing I don't want to happen is to piss off the dog sitter who's my absolute rock!

It will be two weeks without my horse. Five weeks NC BeardFlake. 5 weeks since my divorce was finalised. 11 weeks since my accident. 3 weeks since my DS moved to uni. 2 years since I lost my brother. One year since my stalker was arrested.

A couple of quiet days won't hurt ...

@woah your life is like a film!... you must have the most amazing ' juggling/multi-tasking ability'
@SpringlikeBunk i didn't realise you were meeting the Deutscher! Sounds like it went really well. Tell him you have the 'schmetterling' feeling! Which is butterfly's! And maybe 'Freue mich sehr auf das nächstes mal mit dir' (und würde sehr gerne mit dir kuscheln und vielleicht eventuell landen wir zusammen in deinem oder in meinem Bett, wer weiss!)

@BelladiMamma enjoy your time out x

I have a second date with Mr Cars on Saturday and a first date cinema trip and drinks with Mr Sci-Fi on Tuesday, so that’s plenty for me!