Where did you find your fwb?

[FindingTheImpossible]

I have changed my user name for this.

Where does a woman find a fwb?

I have decided at 48, that I don't want a regular
relationship but I also don't want a sex only relationship.
What I'm looking for is a (male) friend who I have sex with. A man who doesn't only message when he is horny, who understands the friendship side is just as important as any benefits.

I have no one in my life who I could consider as a potential fwb, for various reasons.

Have tried fab swingers but no luck.

So any woman who has found a decent fwb (but not through fab swingers or someone you already knew) tell me how you did it.

Obviously there will be those who don't agree with fwb etc. you don't need to post as that is not what this thread is about.

@FindingTheImpossible why no luck on fab?

I found my bff's db!!

We married but divorced.
He was better as a fwb!!

@Changeofname12 one only used to contact me when he was horny. Another wanted to meet up more often than I could so was bombarded with messages.
One wanted to exchange 'pictures' after initial meeting (which was a drink to see if we get on)
Gave up after that

@Brollywasntneededafterall that is the main reason why I don't want a traditional relationship. Less expectations and more freedom

You can find a good one on fab, just take your time choosing, be selective. I had couple through Tinder - not reliable/mismatch similar to what you describe.

Then I found an absolute gem on fab, because I was very clear what I wanted from the outset and set the bar high

I agree with Fab. I found some lovely FWBs on there. Fell in love with the last one, and have been with him for 2 and a half years!

I got mine from Bumble.
We are honest with each other, meet for lunch, dinner etc and enjoy sex together. We are both 55 and don't want a full on relationship for a variety of reasons

I found mine at work. We are still friends, but now I have DP, I don't need the benefits any more.

Homebase

What you're describing just sounds like a good relationship! Hope you find what you're looking for.

Homebase

Bus stop!

I met one on no strings attached site. Not sure if it's still going. Lasted 5 year

Thank you for the replies

I shall be visiting a few Homebase stores this week.

Will also try fab again. Be more clear on what I am looking for as @MoneyMachine said earlier.

@Mysticguru

Homebase

Which aisle ? 😂

Fab here too, you can find exactly what you want on there as it's a buyer's market for women. Be absolutely ruthless

I found my then one on POF, met as friends but I knew nothing would happen long term so suited us to just have sex regularly and exclusively. Ended pre lockdown last year as couldn't physically see each other plus he had deeper feelings for me. I read loads of these threads and FAB seems to be the best place, keep trying there and be ruthless. I would do it again myself if it were to be exclusive and where I couldn't pick up feelings for them.

I met my last FWB after messaging him when I read a couple of intelligent, kind, well thought-out comments he wrote on a FB group. We immediately hit it off chatting for hours. met in person and quickly developed a strong friendship connection. And then found out we also had an amazing sexual connection. Pure luck, really.

Man here.
Homebase, sadly none near me.
B & Q? again, name the aisle please.
Sainsbury's?
Tesco....

I'm the same as @BatshitCrazyWoman (👋), I met my FWB on Fab and we're now in a relationship (2 years yesterday).

Prior to Fab I met a guy on Okcupid, its a very liberal dating site, people are more upfront about what they need and want and there are lots of options about sexuality, what you're looking for.

I've also had FB and FWB from Bumble and Plenty of Fish.
If you're profile is clear about what you want it shouldn't be hard to find FWB.

Good luck @FindingTheImpossible - there are certainly some good ones out there!

Thank you @MoneyMachine.
Fingers crossed I have better luck on fab this time round.

I don’t think I could ever sleep with a man unless I had deep, deep feelings for him. Sounds exciting having a FWB but I just couldn’t do it. What do you do if you fall in love with them? That’d be my problem!!

@CosmicUnicorn I think it can work well if you have your head screwed on about boundaries. My ex fwb was a mess psychologically so I knew it would never have a future. But I think if it were someone who I could realistically date, then I wouldn't be able to do it.

@CosmicUnicorn - I was like that. But I found fwb who was caring as well as hot in bed. We became really good friends.
If it’s someone you can see dating - make it clear to them early on and see what response you get. If not aligned you can get out early, before feelings get in the way