Found Receipt for expensive Jewellery in car

[Forumqueen]

Got the car cleaned this Morning, and came across a receipt for expensive jewellery.. The jewellery definitely isn’t for me. Jewellery really isn’t my thing, and there’s no special occasion for him to get me anything.

Only me and my husband use the car. Although we do pick up friends from time to time. The receipt is from a few weeks ago, and on this particular day he went in to work (he usually goes in once a week) I do believe he actually went into work this day but who knows what he did after.

The receipt is from around 5;40 pm when he would have finished work. I just don’t know what to expect. Has anyone been in a similar situation ….should I just ask him about it? I don’t want to spook him if he is cheating -so then he’s extra careful. then I’ll never find out the truth!

I just have a really terrible feeling in my gut that he is cheating. Although he hasn’t shown any signs that he is at all.

[quote HollowTalk]@Bluntness100 not a horrible post at all.[/quote]
It actually was, you firstly assumed car washers are low paid (most aren't, I know a few), and secondly you assumed low paid workers couldn't afford to buy expensive things.
You have heard of a thing called saving, even low paid workers can save money for larger purchases

I wouldn’t confront him yet. You need to play your cards close to your chest.

Definitely check the card number as suggested and try and do some more digging.

The iPad chat is implausible… I’m sorry he sounds like he’s up to no good.

OP has said he'd ask if he thought she bought it, so I doubt he'd just throw it away. That probably means that if he doesn't ask about it then he knows about it. No more or less, but a step forward. He's already under suspicion, random jewellery receipts would make most people wonder.

The ipad thing is weird. I would 100% be able to tell it was my DP who was messaging someone. You can just tell can't you? People write and message in such different ways? For example my DP never uses xx but always a kiss emoji. My mum always puts multiple xxxx. My sister never ever uses capital letters even at the start of her sentences. My best friendnever ever uses emojis or shortens her words in text messages etc.

Did you believe you reading messages between your DH and this girl before he explained it away?

If he's having an affair he will be doing other things. So far the OP has not outlined any timeline where is is unexplainably missing.

She could try going to the shop with the card receipt, tell them she's lost the proper receipt and would like a copy as till receipts tend to 'fade'. She might find more information on a proper receipt, rather than a credit card receipt.

Hope you get some answers

His reaction should tell you everything

Don't confront him, if it is what it's likely to be then he will lie and it will get messy. Then you won't know what to believe.

Try and find the truth of the matter independently, so that if it's the worst case scenario you have time to process it and you can't be lied at.

@Forumqueen

I like the idea of just leaving it in the car and seeing what he does with it. I have taken pictures already. We drop the little one to school together in the morning so I can just leave it in between the passenger and drivers seat, in the envelope. If he’s innocent will pick it up Innocently surely and ask who’s this is as it looks like a very important letter! If he’s guilty I guess he will hide it from me.

I think this is also believable as being innocent from my end as the car has been cleaned which he is aware of. So he knows there’s always random crap turning up.

But if he finds it and throws it away what then? You'll have to show him the photos, he'll know you planted it and make out you're crazy.

You need to be there and 'find it' yourself, don't open it just hold it out to him (so he can easily snatch it off you) and ask 'do you know what this is?' See how he reacts to that.

People really need to drop the car wash drama - it is hardly helping the OP 🙄
OP I would Google the name he gave to see if it comes up.

The consumer name is male. So I think we can rule out my friends although I will still wait for her to reply.

I really wish I could remember whether he took the car that day! I don’t think he did. But I don’t think that matters.

I don’t know what I will do if those numbers match. I can’t find any receipts , and we only do online statements. I’ll just have to wait till this evening when he is back

@Candleinthebreeze sounds like you know some stick up people

[quote Forumqueen]@Candleinthebreeze not necessarily buying things- but like if we go for bowling silly things like that.[/quote]
That's really strange why would he do that?

Googled the consumer name doesnt give anything at all- it doesn’t sound like a real name

I hope there is an innocent explanation OP

Does he not keep any hard copies of bank statements, or keep them in a file on his laptop?

Have you checked his laptop more generally for anything untoward?

I think most people are missing the key thing.

If I found a receipt for jewellery (I also don't wear jewellery) in the car, I'd assume that someone DH or I had given a lift to had dropped it.
I would not jump to OW.
I think OP needs to ask herself why she's jumped to that conclusion? I suspect it's because all is not well in other areas.

Surely if he was cheating he'd have more sense than to leave the receipt in the car for you to find?

The more you post about him the worse he sounds tbh. If you already are thinking you can't ask him this simple question because he's too intelligent with a wonderful pokerface then I think you have bigger problems that this mystery jewellery.

You're starting from a point where you already don't trust him to be honest.

I hope you find out either way because something like this will fester in a relationship.

Is this a bad idea, for you to settle down with a glass of wine in a cosy way, and have a 'what if' type conversation, where after a few generic questions, you ask 'what would you do if I was having an affair'? And see what his reaction would be? Spin the tables around and watch his reaction?
It sounds like you have a good relationship, he's a good husband (on paper), so this sort of chat would be innocent and not viewed with suspicion?

Might there be other receipts lying around - home office? pockets of jackets? Old bags? You just need to try and establish if he has a card number ending xxxx. when he gets in ask him if he has a spare tenner in his wallet for something, try and get his wallet & take it to the loo and have a good look

@Tal45 that’s a great idea!! Finding it myself In front of him shouldn’t arouse any suspicion, then I can see a more organic reaction.

Well jewellery is a pretty cliché OW gift. If it was a receipt for athlete's foot cream from Boots I doubt any suspicions would be raised!!

Surely if the customer name isn't his, he couldn't have paid on his credit / debit card, as the names wouldn't match, so the shop wouldn't accept the card?

This would either mean he has a card in a false name (which would be very iffy), it's not his receipt, he got someone else to collect it / pay for it, or something?
I'd start by googling the name, as previously suggested, as that may give you a bit more info.

@Biddie191

Surely if the customer name isn't his, he couldn't have paid on his credit / debit card, as the names wouldn't match, so the shop wouldn't accept the card? This would either mean he has a card in a false name (which would be very iffy), it's not his receipt, he got someone else to collect it / pay for it, or something? I'd start by googling the name, as previously suggested, as that may give you a bit more info.

With chip and pin devices it’s highly likely the shop assistant wouldn’t even touch or look at the card

Sorry it doesn’t sound good

£300 on jewellery that is unlikely for you as you don’t wear it