Found Receipt for expensive Jewellery in car

[Forumqueen]

Got the car cleaned this Morning, and came across a receipt for expensive jewellery.. The jewellery definitely isn’t for me. Jewellery really isn’t my thing, and there’s no special occasion for him to get me anything.

Only me and my husband use the car. Although we do pick up friends from time to time. The receipt is from a few weeks ago, and on this particular day he went in to work (he usually goes in once a week) I do believe he actually went into work this day but who knows what he did after.

The receipt is from around 5;40 pm when he would have finished work. I just don’t know what to expect. Has anyone been in a similar situation ….should I just ask him about it? I don’t want to spook him if he is cheating -so then he’s extra careful. then I’ll never find out the truth!

I just have a really terrible feeling in my gut that he is cheating. Although he hasn’t shown any signs that he is at all.

@Biddie191 I have paid with my DH card in shops before and never been stopped (I am
Very clearly not a Middle Aged Man 😀)

@HollowTalk

How rude are you?! Omg.

There's a car valet place in my little town opened by 3 guys when they finished high school. Starting in a crappy little parking lot they rented space in, and now they've got their own building with a cafe and plenty space for the cars. There is a constant queue there, and those 3 men earn a lot more than average. They have staff but they still muck in and clean when it's very very busy.

You need to watch what you say, and adjust what you think of people.

Could it be that he bought the stuff on behalf of a male colleague/friend and the friend then gave him the cash? And asked him to hang on to the receipt in case it needed to be returned?

There could still be an innocent explanation.

@RedskyThisNight

I think most people are missing the key thing.

If I found a receipt for jewellery (I also don't wear jewellery) in the car, I'd assume that someone DH or I had given a lift to had dropped it.
I would not jump to OW.
I think OP needs to ask herself why she's jumped to that conclusion? I suspect it's because all is not well in other areas.

This is a good point and I would agree if it was something other than jewellery or another circumstance. But this is a brand new car- so I can count the amount of ppl on one had that have been In it. I think it’s very easy to say what you would have done until your in the situation yourself.

With chip and pin devices it’s highly likely the shop assistant wouldn’t even touch or look at the card

• I have paid with my DH card in shops before and never been stopped (I am Very clearly not a Middle Aged Man 😀)* But usually for this sort of purchase, where too much for chip and pin, they do check. Either that, or I look suspicious enough for them to check!

Op is he possessive of his phone?

Am amused at everyone getting outraged on behalf of all the high-earning car washers.

Especially the high-earning car washers who buy £300's worth of jewellery in the evening and take the receipt to work with them the next day and every day after that until they accidentally drop it in a client's car hmm

my ex husband was having an affair. He also used "other" names in various circumstances especially once the affair was serious. I think that kind of thing can very much be a sign of infidelity (see also secrecy)

He is not possessive over his phone but I don’t know his passcode ! Which is annoying.

He has form for NOT giving his real name for things like this

Er ... what?
Genuinely don't understand what you mean by this - but he sounds dodgier with every update.

& why would he give a different name for the receipt, when he's paid by card, which will have HIS NAME on it?

Why do you not phone him now and judge the reaction then you can be ready one way or another when he returns to day.

Good luck there still could be a simple explanation even after 10 pages of reasons or not!

Or phone him now and say you were hoping to buy something, but your cards been rejected, could you use his?

OP, does he have the opportunity to have an affair? Does he work away from home or is he often staying late at work?

I'd ring him on a with held number, put a fake voice on and say "hello this is candice from -insert shop name- can I speak to -insert name used on receipt- and see what he says

What a worry!

It’s so hard. I noticed in the Tesco ‘usual’ items some condoms, and I put it to the back of my mind. I was pregnant and we weren’t using them. Later found out he was cheating, and then wondered why I didn’t do anything about it at the time.

This is a red flag - but you don’t quite know it’s him yet. It’s not certain enough.

And like my Ex, he was, I thought a good husband and father. And I would never have thought he had it in him to cheat. He was ‘good man’ territory. So firstly I do think you can’t ignore it, and you are not being paranoid or insecure to think about this.

The other point is that I also get the wanting to investigate a bit. Most men, as I’ve found out on mumsnet, and like my Ex, will completely cover their tracks. If I had not done some investigating I would still be wondering if I was the ‘mad’ one. So unfortunately, as seedy as it seems, investigating before confronting is quite important.

Honestly? I’d investigate. And then also very carefully watch his movements for a couple of weeks. As unbearable as it will be. Go as far as you can go with fact finding - and if you don’t find anything, well then stop and ask him. Only then confront him.

Have you thought of contacting the store and asking for details?

They might help.

Ok, so it’s not the car cleaner, and you have the card number to check.
Do you have access to his phone? If not get access if you can.
If in the main he’s working from home, the evidence of any relationship will be in there.
Check all text message threads and don’t be fooled by a guys name or an initial and a surname as the addressee ... an old trick to throw you off course... Dave could easily really be Debbie!!
Check his pockets, wallets etc too.
I would do defo do a bit more digging whilst he’s off his guard before confronting him.

@Biddie191

With chip and pin devices it’s highly likely the shop assistant wouldn’t even touch or look at the card * I have paid with my DH card in shops before and never been stopped (I am Very clearly not a Middle Aged Man 😀)* But usually for this sort of purchase, where too much for chip and pin, they do check. Either that, or I look suspicious enough for them to check!

I’ve spent over £10000 in a transaction several times this year using chip and pin and it goes through just like buying a £5 item

@blissfulllife

I'd ring him on a with held number, put a fake voice on and say "hello this is candice from -insert shop name- can I speak to -insert name used on receipt- and see what he says

Or get a friend to do it.

Unless they have a very identifiable voice.

@ChargingBuck

He has form for NOT giving his real name for things like this

Er ... what?
Genuinely don't understand what you mean by this - but he sounds dodgier with every update.

& why would he give a different name for the receipt, when he's paid by card, which will have HIS NAME on it?

I don't think that's dodgy. I don't give my real name when I'm making a booking at a bar or restaurant. Partly because it's a difficult name and I'd have to spell it and partly because I don't want to give my real name alongside a phone number and an email address to a business that doesn't need it.

But then again, you can't have a fake name on your cc usually, so I'm not clear on why the receipt doesn't have his name if he paid for it.

I'd ring him on a with held number, put a fake voice on and say "hello this is candice from -insert shop name- can I speak to -insert name used on receipt- and see what he says

🤣...and then what is "Candice" going to say?

"Have you thought of contacting the store and asking for details?

They might help."

In this day and age of data protection I would be absolutely amazed if a shop entered into discussions with someone else about a/another customer.

@Bluesheep8

I'd ring him on a with held number, put a fake voice on and say "hello this is candice from -insert shop name- can I speak to -insert name used on receipt- and see what he says

🤣...and then what is "Candice" going to say?

I haven't thought that far ahead lol

@Bluesheep8

I'd ring him on a with held number, put a fake voice on and say "hello this is candice from -insert shop name- can I speak to -insert name used on receipt- and see what he says

🤣...and then what is "Candice" going to say?

I’ve been looking on mumsnet and you’ve been rumbled buddy

@Bluesheep8

I'd ring him on a with held number, put a fake voice on and say "hello this is candice from -insert shop name- can I speak to -insert name used on receipt- and see what he says

🤣...and then what is "Candice" going to say?

😂😂😂 my anxiety just lifted- thanks for all the laughs guys 😂😂