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Found Receipt for expensive Jewellery in car

328 replies

Forumqueen · 16/09/2021 10:56

Got the car cleaned this Morning, and came across a receipt for expensive jewellery.. The jewellery definitely isn’t for me. Jewellery really isn’t my thing, and there’s no special occasion for him to get me anything.

Only me and my husband use the car. Although we do pick up friends from time to time. The receipt is from a few weeks ago, and on this particular day he went in to work (he usually goes in once a week) I do believe he actually went into work this day but who knows what he did after.

The receipt is from around 5;40 pm when he would have finished work. I just don’t know what to expect. Has anyone been in a similar situation ….should I just ask him about it? I don’t want to spook him if he is cheating -so then he’s extra careful. then I’ll never find out the truth!

I just have a really terrible feeling in my gut that he is cheating. Although he hasn’t shown any signs that he is at all.

OP posts:
margotnotrobbie · 16/09/2021 13:01

"I doubt someone cleaning cars for a living can afford expensive jewellery and just happens to have the receipt with them."

Like are you serious. My other half used to clean cars and had a weekly take home pay higher than mine.

NigelSlatersXmasTaters · 16/09/2021 13:01

"He has form for NOT giving his real name for things like this"

What does this mean?

cutebutscary · 16/09/2021 13:02

This reminds me of the scene in love actually where the lovely Alan rickman is trying to sneakily buy jewellery for his potential bit on the side, except this is real life, how dreadful you must be feeling Thanks, I'm afraid it really doesn't look good, especially now you have told us about the communicating with a girl on holiday being explained away . I hope he's buying a secret surprise for you but do suspect otherwise . I think that leaving it back in the car is a great idea

shesellsseacats · 16/09/2021 13:02

[quote Forumqueen]@shesellsseacats he used to have his iPad connected to his phone! Until… he went on holiday and I could see he was talking to a girl through i message . I confronted him
About this when he got back and he said it was his younger brother (single) using his phone, which at the time was believable because there was some sort of issue with the signal while he was abroad. I didn’t think nothing of it- especially because he was calling / texting me right through the holiday. Even felt guilty for doubting him! This is what I mean though he is very smart and I feel he would have an answer for everything. He even wanted me to ring his brother there and then and ask.

This was a holiday with his brothers/ friends a couple years ago.[/quote]
You don't need to have any of your devices connected to use Google Timeline, they just need to use Google and log into it on them.

Try it with yours.

Open Chrome and go to timeline.google.com/

Unless you have location switched off, or you don't use Gmail or ever log into Google on your phone, you should see at least some history of your movements there.

This will work from any device, it doesn't need to be connected in any way, you just need to log into Google.

NigelSlatersXmasTaters · 16/09/2021 13:02

Has the car got a built in satnav? Try frequently visited places.

Original poster
Forumqueen · 16/09/2021 13:03

@Candleinthebreeze not necessarily buying things- but like if we go for bowling silly things like that.

OP posts:
FortunesFave · 16/09/2021 13:03

@margotnotrobbie

"I doubt someone cleaning cars for a living can afford expensive jewellery and just happens to have the receipt with them."

Like are you serious. My other half used to clean cars and had a weekly take home pay higher than mine.

Yes but are you a city banker or a shop assistant? No disrespect but it was a sensible comment...most people who clean cars for a living don't make that much money.
Gonnagetgoing · 16/09/2021 13:03

@Forumqueen

I have asked the friend I’m waiting for her to get back to me. I have ooked up the items and it’s a blingy ring and a horrible bracelet- One of the types that isn’t a full ring. And it was £150 for each.

And it wasn’t a work gift, we constantly update each other on what we are doing throughout the day so he would have mentioned this.

I think it’s likely he kept it in his pocket and it fell out.

On closer inspection of the receipt there is a “consumer name” which isn’t his name or anyone we know . He has form for NOT giving his real name for things like this. and it’s not pandora.

Bit dodgy re him NOT giving his real name for things like this.

Re Amazon - I was recently gifted for my birthday quite a nice kind of blingy but pretty Swarovski bracelet which Amazon stupidly sent me the order details (but not price luckily!) of. This could easily be the sort of gift for an OW. Sorry.

CustardySergeant · 16/09/2021 13:04

@Sugarntailsnluvlyspicysnails

I think your plan of leaving it in the car to see if he makes it disappear is a good one. You have photos, so evidence of the purchase. Do you think if he thought you'd bought it he'd ask you about it?
So he will be under suspicion if he:-
  1. Finds it and throws it away because he assumes it's unwanted by whoever dropped it

and also if he

2 ) Finds it and puts it in his pocket in case it's needed by whoever he gave a lift to - and was dropped by mistake - so he's going to ask them?

FortunesFave · 16/09/2021 13:05

it was £150 for each. That's not expensive jewelry OP and could certainly be bought by someone who cleans cars for a living.

Original poster
Forumqueen · 16/09/2021 13:05

@NigelSlatersXmasTaters

"He has form for NOT giving his real name for things like this"

What does this mean?

Ha! I now realise how silly this sounds- I mean when asked in a hospitality setting- eg when bowling. (Name on the board for eg)
OP posts:
Original poster
Forumqueen · 16/09/2021 13:07

It defiantly want the person washing the car as I asked him-(I have said this several times)

OP posts:
ArrrMeHearties · 16/09/2021 13:07

Hope you get the answers your looking for forumqueen

Ashitaka · 16/09/2021 13:07

@FortunesFave

it was £150 for each. That's not expensive jewelry OP and could certainly be bought by someone who cleans cars for a living.
expensive is relative
Twentypast · 16/09/2021 13:07

If it was found in the back seat I would have thought it's more likely to have been dropped by a passenger.

Flowers500 · 16/09/2021 13:08

Is the consumer name male? In which case it's definitely not your friend?

Unsure33 · 16/09/2021 13:09

It’s probably your friend . Drama over

DressBitch · 16/09/2021 13:09

Start calling him by the other name!

Lua · 16/09/2021 13:10

have you searched the name that shows as the "consumer name" see if it is someone that exists?

Or ask your DH if he knows someone by this name?

SeaShoreGalore · 16/09/2021 13:10

You would have to be such a nob to question what 'expensive' means in this instance!

DoubleEx · 16/09/2021 13:10

[quote Forumqueen]@Candleinthebreeze not necessarily buying things- but like if we go for bowling silly things like that.[/quote]
That's very strange behaviour.

Almost like being secretive and lying is habitual for him...?

Flowers500 · 16/09/2021 13:11

I'm guessing something like Swarovski, screams mistress material...

Indoctro · 16/09/2021 13:12

I hope it's innocent but if it's not have you thought about what you are going to do.?

Are you going to keep quiet if the 4 numbers match , and look for further evidence or just confront him now

Usernameismyname01 · 16/09/2021 13:12

Maybe he gave someone a lift on that night when he was out till 9.30pm and this belongs to them?

TatianaBis · 16/09/2021 13:13

he used to have his iPad connected to his phone! Until… he went on holiday and I could see he was talking to a girl through i message . I confronted him

About this when he got back and he said it was his younger brother (single) using his phone, which at the time was believable because there was some sort of issue with the signal while he was abroad. I didn’t think nothing of it- especially because he was calling / texting me right through the holiday. Even felt guilty for doubting him! This is what I mean though he is very smart and I feel he would have an answer for everything. He even wanted me to ring his brother there and then and ask.

So when you said you’d never had reason to question his fidelity before that’s not strictly true. The above incident you caught him messaging a woman on his phone. Except he said it was his brother.

If it had been a signal issue surely it would have affected both or neither phone? To affect one but not the other would be unusual, tho not impossible. Would you really send iMessages to a woman from someone else’ phone? Email is one thing, but iMessage is not private.

Are you 100% sure he was on holiday with his brother, not another woman?

Until I read the above post, I thought the jewellery may be for you. Now, I’m not so sure.