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Found Receipt for expensive Jewellery in car

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Forumqueen · 16/09/2021 10:56

Got the car cleaned this Morning, and came across a receipt for expensive jewellery.. The jewellery definitely isn’t for me. Jewellery really isn’t my thing, and there’s no special occasion for him to get me anything.

Only me and my husband use the car. Although we do pick up friends from time to time. The receipt is from a few weeks ago, and on this particular day he went in to work (he usually goes in once a week) I do believe he actually went into work this day but who knows what he did after.

The receipt is from around 5;40 pm when he would have finished work. I just don’t know what to expect. Has anyone been in a similar situation ….should I just ask him about it? I don’t want to spook him if he is cheating -so then he’s extra careful. then I’ll never find out the truth!

I just have a really terrible feeling in my gut that he is cheating. Although he hasn’t shown any signs that he is at all.

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Forumqueen · 16/09/2021 12:46

Thank you @HeartvsBrain honestly I could never take offence to a stage to on the internet. The comment was obviously made to get a reaction so I just ignored it.

I don’t wear Jewellry it’s just not my thing so any amount spent on Jewellry is probably too much for me Grin but I might spend more money on other items that certain individuals might think is too much.

Everyone is different. But as you said its about the intent and buying gifts for someone. I probably shouldn’t have put expensive in my title!

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Forumqueen · 16/09/2021 12:47

Stranger *

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NoSauce · 16/09/2021 12:48

Surely he wouldn’t have been so careless with the receipt for so long? If he had misplaced it, you’d have thought he would have retraced his steps back to the car and had it apart to look for it?

UniversalAunt · 16/09/2021 12:48

BTW, make sure that you don’t search on a browser that he uses or at least set the browser to private & make sure that close every window before you come out of private browsing.

Inertia · 16/09/2021 12:48

I would ask your friend first, to rule that out. When you do speak to DH, you want to be in the position where you are certain it cannot belong to anyone you’ve given a lift to- you being unsure would give h8m wriggle room.

turndownthevolume · 16/09/2021 12:49

Ah, sorry OP this sounds really upsetting. That is a lot of money to spend. I was hoping there was a reasonable explanation but the ipad story and something you mentioned earlier about his coming back late on the same day the jewellery was purchased does ring massive alarm bells I'm afraid.

Candleinthebreeze · 16/09/2021 12:49

@Inertia

I would ask your friend first, to rule that out. When you do speak to DH, you want to be in the position where you are certain it cannot belong to anyone you’ve given a lift to- you being unsure would give h8m wriggle room.
What if it’s her friend he’s having an affair with?

Just a thought

deleteasappropriate · 16/09/2021 12:49

@MyPatronusIsACat

I agree *@Forumqueen* you need to double check the receipt has his debit card number on it - (well it should have the last 4 digits on anyway.)

And keep a copy of it. (photograph it.) In case he tries to destroy it.

Remember though, this item COULD be for you.

Also, I didn't think the post by @HollowTalk was offensive and judgy and snobbish at all... Confused . Many people who do car valeting/cleaning are not very well paid, and struggle to get people to let them clean their cars..

Every time I go to the big shopping centre a few miles from my village, I get them coming up to me in the car park, asking me if I want my car washed...

And the woman who runs it was having a right go at 3 or 4 of the guys the other week, telling them they'd get no bloody pay this week if they didn't get a few more people in for car washing.

People really do love to make something out of nothing on here... Hmm Hollowtalk does not deserve the pile-on that they are getting on this thread.

I'm so sorry to interject on your thread OP but this is a message for @MyPatronusIsACat - what you saw at the shopping centre sounds like human trafficking. Here is a link which explains what to watch out for and how to report it - it even has a section in the video specifically about people working in a car wash. It's easy to report and you could save trafficked people from misery.

nationalcrimeagency.gov.uk/what-we-do/crime-threats/modern-slavery-and-human-trafficking

RogueV · 16/09/2021 12:50

So the plot thickens.
The iPad story makes me feel uneasy OP. You have been fooled

ColdAsMice · 16/09/2021 12:51

Hmm watching but if he's as smart as you say, I doubt he'd just drop that. My money's on it either being a team gift for someone that he's collected or it's someone you've given a lift to. Hopefully.

Blue4YOU · 16/09/2021 12:52

Hi OP
I hope it’s innocent too.
Surely, if he’s a typical bloke re jewellery purchases he would hardly be the choice in a leaving/birthday present purchase in the office..
And if he were the choice, if it were my DH he’d have to tell me how well/badly the gift went down because he’d be impressed with himself/embarrassed etc.
If it were a friend they’d probably be asking for the receipt at some point but worth checking.
Other than that, if it were me I’d be inclined to hand it to him and say I’m leaving and see what happened but I’m a bit gung ho about things

Gonnagetgoing · 16/09/2021 12:55

Ask your friend but the iPad story doesn’t look good either.

A fairly new employee at a workplace in my experience and usually not a man either would be tasked with buying a leaving gift gif a colleague in my experience.

I wouldn’t want to let onto him about it but would want to do more digging eg what form of payment and if it belonged to DH.

deleteasappropriate · 16/09/2021 12:56

@Forumqueen I'm the same as you - never wear jewellery (I only put my wedding rings on if we're going somewhere special), and to me £150 per item IS a lot. I'd be quietly suspicious too. Is his card linked to an Amazon account? If so you should be able to see the last 4 digits there. I'd definitely be on high alert with the brother/ipad scenario too - it's amazing how they can make something sound so innocuous!

Xtraincome · 16/09/2021 12:56

I think just ask him outright. There's no one he can say it's for as you have ruled out immediate female family members. If he says a colleague gift from the office it's easily checked. Just. Ask. Him!

RosiePosieDozy · 16/09/2021 12:56

Check if the receipt matches the card. If it does, I wouldn't confront him just yet but look out for more signs of an affair.

I hope it's innocent. Maybe he's bought you Christmas presents early. Does he know you categorically hate jewellery? Maybe he thinks that if he chooses you something, you'll like it because it's from him?

CoffeeRunner · 16/09/2021 12:57

I do think £300 in total (it was £150 per item?) falls within the possibilities of a leaving/birthday collection.

I hope that's all it turns out to be.

Beenheresincethebook · 16/09/2021 12:57

Is there any other receipts lying around that would have his 4 digits on it? In kitchen drawers or something maybe

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Forumqueen · 16/09/2021 12:57

I have asked the friend I’m waiting for her to get back to me. I have ooked up the items and it’s a blingy ring and a horrible bracelet- One of the types that isn’t a full ring. And it was £150 for each.

And it wasn’t a work gift, we constantly update each other on what we are doing throughout the day so he would have mentioned this.

I think it’s likely he kept it in his pocket and it fell out.

On closer inspection of the receipt there is a “consumer name” which isn’t his name or anyone we know . He has form for NOT giving his real name for things like this. and it’s not pandora.

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margotnotrobbie · 16/09/2021 12:58

Don't let him sell you the story of "I bought it on behalf of a friend so their OH would not know about the purchase as it's meant to be a surprise". He will probably try and make up some silly story.

Suzi888 · 16/09/2021 12:58

@Bluntness100

I doubt someone cleaning cars for a living can afford expensive jewellery and just happens to have the receipt with them

Wtaf 😂 what a horrible post, people who clean cars can get access to money for many reasons, gifts, inheritance, savings etc.

Yes- rude post. OP hope it’s an innocent explanation!
Sugarntailsnluvlyspicysnails · 16/09/2021 12:58

I think your plan of leaving it in the car to see if he makes it disappear is a good one. You have photos, so evidence of the purchase. Do you think if he thought you'd bought it he'd ask you about it?

Candleinthebreeze · 16/09/2021 13:00

@Forumqueen

I have asked the friend I’m waiting for her to get back to me. I have ooked up the items and it’s a blingy ring and a horrible bracelet- One of the types that isn’t a full ring. And it was £150 for each.

And it wasn’t a work gift, we constantly update each other on what we are doing throughout the day so he would have mentioned this.

I think it’s likely he kept it in his pocket and it fell out.

On closer inspection of the receipt there is a “consumer name” which isn’t his name or anyone we know . He has form for NOT giving his real name for things like this. and it’s not pandora.

What would he be buying that you know about where he wouldn’t use his real name?
MzHz · 16/09/2021 13:00

@Forumqueen

If I get confirmation that it was his card…I was think of telling him that I really want to buy some Jewellry from …..(name the store in question) and ask if he’s even been there before. That will probably scare him and make him paranoid but not enough to truly suspect I know anything. And then if there is a reasonable explanation he will just say he’s been there recently and why(highly doubtful)
No, be transparent here

You found the receipt- it’s the last 4 digits of his card, you’re not expecting a give or anything so what was it he bought there and for whom?

Biscuits1 · 16/09/2021 13:01

There is the chance that they are for you. But I would definitely do some digging first. Like checking his phone tonight when he is asleep. If you give the game away then he will just say he bought them for you and make sure there is no trace if there is anything untoward going on, so you will never know.

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Forumqueen · 16/09/2021 13:01

Yes he would definitely ask about it if he thought I bought it.

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