Having one to one drinks with the opposite sex whilst in a relationship.

[Buttercup708]

Hi all,
Just a quick question. What are your thoughts about your other half going for drinks alone with a member of the opposite sex? Whether they're a new co-worker, housemate, old friend, an old friend with benefits.

[quote Shelddd]@Mushtullo

I don't think it's Saudi Arabian... It's the cultural norm for people in USA and Canada as well not to socialize (especially with alcohol) one on one with members of opposite sex when they're married...

Of course attitudes around alcohol are quite different in north america vs europe.[/quote]
I lived for years in the US, and had a good male friend I sometimes went out solo with — both married — and one of my closest friends is originally from Washington, married to a Vermonter, and we used to go out for dinner when we lived in the same place.

It's fine. If it turns out they are meeting to flirt or have a romantic or sexual relationship then it's best to find out as early as possible so you don't waste any more fine with them.

[quote Shelddd]@Mushtullo

I don't think it's Saudi Arabian... It's the cultural norm for people in USA and Canada as well not to socialize (especially with alcohol) one on one with members of opposite sex when they're married...

Of course attitudes around alcohol are quite different in north america vs europe.[/quote]
I’m friends with several people from the USA and this definitely isn’t the case with them… I’ve socialised with many of them one to one over a beer

Old friend or house mate with no sexual/ romantic history is fine for me.

I have a few good make friends and go out with them sometimes. I’ve known them for years and our spouses all know each other so it’s not an issue.

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