So much of this resonates - I am on three ( yes, I admit it!), dating websites and have been for nearly a year now. I wrote my profiles very carefully, to avoid the scripted, generic, formulaic rubbish which so many put and be a truthful representation of who I am, the good and the bad. Thus far I have received very few 'views', let alone 'likes' or messages. And very few people, to whom I have sent messages myself, have the common courtesy, or good manners,to respond, even if it is just "thanks, but no thanks".
Granted, I am not everyone's cup of tea, I am far from being the worlds best looking bloke, I am well aware of that, I am late fifties, never been married or had children and I am in a sparsely populated region - all things which make it more difficult. But I often feel like the invisible man! And it is demoralising!
I have, though, made three good new friends, we quickly established that we would not be compatible, from an emotional or romantic perspective, let alone geographically, but good friends they have become and I intend to meet them all, in real life, one day.
The nearest I have come to a real connection was with someone who I met several times, but it quickly became apparent that, although high functioning and, on the surface, we clicked well, she is alcohol dependent, a deal breaker for me - such a shame! And even that required a 150 mile round trip for me, as she doesn't drive (probably just as well!).
Hey ho! The search continues, there is no rush, it is not a race, but that feeling of wearing an invisibility cloak still lingers!
Goodness! That was cathartic!