DP who won’t compromise on anything!

[roarrlikeadinosaur]

Wondering if anyone else has this problem.

DP is lovely, kind and generous but without even realising he sort of dictates how life goes and I have to go along.

These examples are petty but things like decor - his house is done to his taste - pets (doesn’t like cats or dogs so that’s that) and when buying a house it just has to have the things he wants.

He doesn’t demand this in a bullish way or anything but it does leave me feeling a bit like I’m not living my best life to use an Instagram phrase!

Well he must be another obtuse, sensitive, baffled soul, who doesn't somehow know that a resting person would find it really annoying to have their rest disturbed by someone rubbing their foot🙄

Yea, he is just confused.

Like the men who somehow ALWAYS wake their partner when THEY have to get up.

It's all just so accidental.

Poor pets are just confused🙄.........no one ever, ever taught them basic consideration.....🙄

@roarrlikeadinosaur

Thanks *@picklemewalnuts*, I think you’re right. I think he’s just been so used to thinking about him he doesn’t always extend it to me and ds very well. That’s not to say he’s deliberately selfish but he can be inconsiderate without wanting or meaning to be.

You think he's selfish and inconsiderate but he doesn't mean it. How do you think that could happen to a man, that he's missed out on basic consideration for other people?

But I think I do sometimes worry that if I verbalised everything I found annoying I would never stop. I don’t honestly know why I shy away from being firm with DP. Earlier today ds fell asleep on the bed with me and he came in and just sat on the bed stroking my foot. I just wanted a bit of quiet and personal space

Honestly OP you're so far in denial you'll be sending us a postcard from Tanzania next.

Start being firm, telling him how you want things, then come back and tell us how he reacts.

My money's on he wants he gets.

I expect things have been ticking along because you never make a fuss, and you've told us you choose to not make a fuss. So, make a fuss. See if things continue to tick along.

Envisage yourself asking him to stop stroking your foot. How does it make you feel? What would be your best guess at his reaction?