Just found out. Gutted

[Newgirlontheblock]

Hi I am new to Mumsnet but have read bits and bobs here and there.

I have just found out my partner has been lying about getting divorced and is in fact very much married.

I feel absolutely sick to my stomach.

I need help in figuring out how to handle this.

Please help.

They could even be together.

He works away, she got fed up, decided to split but they are trying to make it work.

Having a family holiday with the kids. They could be sharing a bed/room.

You just don’t know. You will never find out. Unless you ask her.

I’d move out of his place and never speak to the lying Twat again!

@Butterfly44 he lied not because I’d take it badly but because he lied about it previously and swore he would be completely upfront about what he is doing. He is keeping everyone in the dark and he lied about the type of relationship he has with her. That is the issue. He has minimised everything and is angry at my objections. If I had any idea of what the actual situation was I’d have run a mile.

@Ohanaa yes the could, you’re right I have absolutely no idea about anything.

My DP divorced when I was 8 but my dad continued to come on family holidays with us even when I was teenager, despite him having a new relationship. One year his girlfriend even came on holiday with us too!

My dad died about 8 years ago now, but right up until his death he carried on seeing my mum regularly. My mum remarried about 30 years ago and my stepdad would often be there when dad went round. Quite often he'd be out at work though and dad would go round in the day for a few hours. They were terrible in a relationship together but still got on as friends. My dad used to do stuff in the garden/house etc that needed to be fixed as he was quite practical and my stepdad is rubbish at stuff like that.

Now as an adult I can appreciate how bloody great this set up was. It's absolutely possible for two people to have a platonic relationship, especially when there's shared children. It may not be the norm but as I and many other posters here have commented, it does happen. The soon to be ex-wife going on holiday may be totally insignificant.

OP, you seem like you're raging at everything and it feels like you've jumped to a whole range of conclusions (about him and his DC) which may or may not be true. If that's how you feel then just walk away, no one needs to put themselves through this level of dramatics.