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Really rude thread but I need advice! Here goes ..................

137 replies

mummyvontummy · 24/11/2007 21:26

Have finally got together with someone I've been hankering after for MONTHS and everything is brilliant. Except for one thing. I have always been horrendous at, well, oral sex. And he is the first guy to not skip over the fact-in fact he said he thinks maybe I should talk to my friends about how they do it and maybe get some tips! Argh!!!! I'm so embarrassed! Does anyone have any tips? As I don't actually have any real friends. Well I do but I don't want to admit my weakness to them! Help! This will probably be thrown off here in 5 mins or I'll be barred, but I don't want to go trawling cyberspace because Google will pick up all sorts of scary stuff!!!

OP posts:
throatmanship · 13/10/2017 22:43

45 minutes!! Even with my username I'd have given up by then!

BreconBeBuggered · 13/10/2017 22:45

She's probably still going, poor woman.

fullofhope03 · 13/10/2017 22:47

Breacon You have just made wine come out of my nose I laughed so much! xx

winglesspegasus · 13/10/2017 22:48

zombie or not
POProcks

Offred · 13/10/2017 22:50

Several men have told me they don’t like blow jobs and then afterwards told me mine have converted them...

Honestly though I don’t think there’s really all that much more to say in terms of what you actually physically do in terms of motions/actions etc...

I think the biggest thing is being responsive to the guy’s body cues... This is different for different men just like women vary in what they like in terms of oral sex.

There are some general basics like trying to maintain sucking, plenty of fluid in your mouth, teasing beforehand to give your mouth a break (I like to keep edging with hand first)...

But the rest involves knowing both the man and the particular penis involved well enough to respond to the feedback you get IMO.

Sorry if that’s unhelpful but I do think a. If you aren’t comfortable you shouldn’t be making yourself uncomfortable and b. Your friends can’t tell you what he likes, only he can!

Offred · 13/10/2017 22:50

Ha ha ha! The hour is my only excuse. Not even had wine!

fullofhope03 · 13/10/2017 22:50

Breacon - Though wine still flowing (in and out) Oh help me! After a very shitty day you have really cheered me up xx

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 13/10/2017 22:52

I'm going to be checking this thread all night now
Yes, I'll bet you are.

fullofhope03 · 13/10/2017 22:54

Offred - You little minx! And btw, where are these men of whom you speak? Wink

MyDcAreMarvel · 13/10/2017 22:54

Sorry I was um looking up bj tips and found this thread. Didn't mean to post but it's been informative.

friendlycat · 13/10/2017 23:01

Oh God I've had such a laugh at this especially the comment from BreconBeBuggered.

Offred · 13/10/2017 23:02
Wink

At the moment I really don’t care where any kind of man is! I’d happily never set eyes on one ever again!!

Though I do have a rather funny story to tell about my drunken night out on Monday...

Walkacrossthesand · 13/10/2017 23:19

Well, offred? We're waiting...

LaLaLady2 · 13/10/2017 23:21

Wonder if she is still with him?

PortiaCastis · 13/10/2017 23:25

You need a feckin strepsil after 45mins, honey and lemon should give the sweet and sour

MammaTJ · 13/10/2017 23:31

MyDcAreMarvel why resurrect a ZOMBIE with ca? FFS!! It's not like you really had anything interesting to offer!!

MyDcAreMarvel · 13/10/2017 23:33

If you had rtft you would have noticed that I didn't mean to type anything!

cherrycola2004 · 13/10/2017 23:36

I’d like to know how to cope with the cum taste 🙃

Jellyheadbang · 13/10/2017 23:38

Only got to the end to realise it's a zombie thread. What a fucking cheeky bastard the original op's guy was. Hope she binned him off.

Offred · 13/10/2017 23:45

Ha ha! Just building the tension! Wink

For background; largish town, I have not really been single since 2008. Last time I went out drinking was 6 months ago. My friend who I went out with is nuts when she’s had a beer.

Monday night about 8 friends says ‘I’m coming to yours in a taxi, we are going out’

Friend arrives we go to a lovely craft beer shop for a quiet drink as i’m after a chat, a pint of mild and some people watching.

Friend is a LOT of fun. Friend gees me up and after closing we go to a club.

I spot a guy who I kind of like the look of and realise all of a sudden I am single so decide to have some fun flirting and trying things out.

Friend by this time is a lost cause, she’s dancing, telling everyone she’s having an after party, generally being wild and fun.

I decide this guys seems quite a bit too young for me but he says he is 29 (i’m 33) so I decide to test the water re how much he will put up with (drunk idiocy).

I keep telling him things like - ‘i’m on my period’ ‘I have four kids you know?’ ‘I’m 33’

There are shots, I stupidly decide to take man home. He lives miles away (big taxi fare). I tell him he is coming home with me...

We fall in at 4am... I shout at him that he needs to go to sleep because i’ve decided I don’t like him anymore, then I wake him up an hour and a half later, call a taxi tell him to do the walk of shame down my little culdesac of body neighbours and delete his number.

Then my friend and I have to go and sit in church for an hour long class mass at the school still in clothes from the night before reeling of booze...

It confirms that I am not good with ONS... poor bloke must have been so confused! Also in the light he looked like he was only about 20.

Offred · 13/10/2017 23:49

And I think he was expecting a blow job when I ordered him to my house after telling him I was on my period... Grin

He told me ‘there are other things we can do...’ and winked

Offred · 13/10/2017 23:52

(Oh and I should clarify my kids were with their dad, I just had to go to their class mass in the morning. I was hungover for 2 full days.)

Shittyshopping · 13/10/2017 23:58

Just bite it. That way he won't ask again.

EndofSummer · 14/10/2017 00:07

Find a gay male friend. Best advice!

ProseccoMamam · 14/10/2017 00:11

@BreconBeBuggered GrinGrin

This is a zombie but I really hope OP comes back and lets us know if she ever dumped this cunt lets just hope they aren’t married with kids now

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