Internet dating success stories please! Need inspiration.

[Heidi3333]

Hi ladies.
I'm on 2 dating sites and in the last few months have been left feeling hurt and disappointed by men I thought I had a connection with.

I've been ghosted, blocked, disappeared on etc.

I am weary and jaded already and close to coming off the sites but I don't meet men any other way!

Does anyone have any success stories to keep my hopes up?!

None.! I have nothing for you I'm sorry. I tried the dating apps and anytime I felt like me and someone were getting along, I would get ghosted or it would go left. It's fun to meet new people and go on dates but sometimes they just don't want more than that which sucks.

Met DP on tinder In 2018

Now have house, DS and are engaged :)

Like to add. I was ready to delete tinder that night as was sick of talking to men who just weren't that interested etc. (And I also got stalked lol)

Glad I didn't !

@Marauder1994 wow I'm jelly. I hate tinder lmao. I've always used bumble.

My mum found her partner on eHarmony. Have been together for years and very happy :) I tried tinder and got nowhere but in fairness I was 21 at the time and most guys my age on tinder were certified Lads who thought they were the Archbishop of Banterbury

I met DP on Tinder in 2015 and we now have a baby. I had done OLD for a couple of years prior to that, using POF and OK cupid and had a few short relationships but nothing lasting. I thought tinder wasn't the best but a friend convinced me it was worth a go. I don't think the choice of site made any difference ultimately and it was just luck really. Keep going, be aware you're looking for a needle in a haystack and remind yourself that each man that ghosts or blocks etc is doing you a favour in the long run as they aren't the right one. Try not to get over invested too soon and look at their behaviour - identify red flags (including being too full on too soon).

Also, I think it's good to remember it is going to be a bit of an emotional rollercoaster at times but I (mostly) tried to have fun with it and roll with the punches!

Do take regular breaks though when it all gets too much. I tried to think that at least I was getting to meet new people, some of whom were really interesting even if not right for me - one of them even helped me with a bit of work that was their area of expertise which was so useful. If you get used to talking to men and dating, my view is that it should help even if you met someone in real life.

Also, join the mumsnet OLD thread if you haven't already . It really really helps to get outside perspectives on the men you meet and just have that support.

I met my DH on Tinder, we met Christmas 2014, married Christmas 2017, have a DD and DS due this month. Never looked back.

I found nothing but weirdos on Plenty of Fish and match.com!

I tried online dating from 2015 onwards after a long marriage ended traumatically. I used the initial time dating to build my confidence, have fun and focus on discovering what I wanted rather than searching for the ideal partner. I met a guy online I would usually have avoided (due to his career…similar to my ex) we have been together now for 18 months and he is all I could have wished for. Online dating/dating in general is tough but use it your advantage, don’t put pressure on yourself to find ‘the one’ have fun and what you need will come along ❤️

I’m married with a family now, to my 10th ‘match’ from matchdotcom .

Numbers 1-9 varied from abject disaster to odd. By which point I just knew I’d always be single. Turns out I was wrong.

I don’t know how to make the experience easier for you. Understandable you would get jaded from the behaviour.

The right one won’t mess you around.

I think I got lucky. I was on line dating for about 8 months on and off. Had a few lovely dates - some mediocre ones but no awful ones. I did get ghosted once but apart from that the matches that didn't work out ended with a message to end things properly. Met one lovely guy on PoF whom I dated for about 2 months but that ended. Then few months after that met my now BF on Bumble. We've been together now 15/16 months. Was very fortunate that we met just before Covid and continued to speak during all the lockdowns etc. Met up when allowed and then formed a bubble so could continue to see each other.

Try not to take it too seriously - or too personally either. Matches are fickle things and there are as many reasons why it doesn't work as there are people on this planet! I would say persevere - but only if you're having fun - if you're beginning to hate it you wont be in the right frame of mind to meet someone anyway. I really think it's one of those thins that will only work if you're in the right frame of mind for it.

I met my bloke on okcupid (it was free then but I’ve heard you have to pay now)
I’d been on and off it for about 3 years
I was bored one night so signed up again and was amazed how many of the same faces from last time where on there
Got chatting to him and been together 6 years in Oct

Met my fella on Tinder - my first and only Tinder date - still together a year on. I’ve never met anybody so similar to me in my life (which has its drawbacks - I’m far from perfect!) and it’s the best LTR I have ever had (and I’ve had loads!)

Met my fiancé on Bumble, in a few weeks we will celebrate 3 years together.
I think I got lucky as I met him relatively quickly, but honestly there are good people out there, I promise. Good luck x

A colleague of mine met her husband on Plenty of Fish and they got engaged within 5 weeks of meeting. They now have 2 children and have been together for over a decade - very happy by all accounts.

Met my partner nearly 6 years ago on match.com. Both been really happy just sold my house and we're heading to the Devon coast to live the dream

Thank you everyone.

Such inspiring stories!

I wish I was so lucky.

I might stay on the sites and dip into them occasionally but right now I'm very tired to them 😟

Met my wonderful husband on match 6 years ago. He was my second date. We have a lovely home and toddler. Good luck op

I met my DH on Bumble.

You will get there, just keep your self-esteem up. It's a difficult one, because it does take up a lot of time. But you also have to emotionally distance from it to protect yourself.

I met my current relationship on Bumble. Had been talking to loads of men, with varying degrees of success, but no dates. DP matches with me, and then asked me out within a few messages. I only agreed because I thought "why not?". I walked into the place we were meeting and literally got the gut punch. To the point where I forgot about how to greet anyone and stood there stuttering for a bit. Luckily the chemistry was reciprocal and we are very happy together (so far!)

Met DH on Tinder. We'd both signed up after disastrous 'offline' dates and had only been on there a couple of hours before he matched me and we spoke all that night/next day - we agreed to meet the next night (normally I had spoken to people for a few days at least beforehand) and by the second date two days later we'd deleted the apps.

We have DS (nearly 5) and a DSS (his first, 12), a lovely home, two cats and have been together 7 years this October.

I met DH on bumble, been together nearly 3 years now. We matched and didn't stop messaging for days then met up and he kind of never really left. He's wonderful. DD and I are lucky to have him in our lives.

I met mine on Fab of all places. We've been together over two years. Prior to meeting him, I had an 18 month relationship with someone I met on Plenty of Fish.

I've done a lot of OLD and in my experience, the same men are on all the sites! My advice is to not think you'll meet someone special the first person you match with. That's just luck. Don't chat for too long before meeting, and if they seem to be avoiding meeting up with you, then move on. Some people seem to enjoy endlessly chatting on the app or by text.

I met my DP on POF 12 months ago. I approached the chat as just that; not overly invested, wasn't desperate to meet anybody as I was quite content being on my own. My friend set up my profile & we just spent miss-placed evenings browsing the field.
As for dates, if I had no other plans, I'd 'rock up' & see how it went.
I did not expect to get swept off my feet by my DP .. corny, but he is absolutely my soul mate
Don't get too invested too early .. just enjoy meeting new people until you find the right one
Good luck .. there is love out there for everyone ❤️

My strategy was to swipe massively liberally, and message everyone I matched with. Partly this is because I am lucky enough to find lots of different types of men attractive - I know some people don’t. But also I just thought, looks aren’t everything and some people don’t photograph well, it’s only by chatting I’ll find out whether I could plausibly click with them.

My fella was more or less the first person I matched with and he messaged me back right away, and from the start his messages fascinated me, and it was clear we had some (quite quirky) things in common. And he suggested an actual meet-up within about 5 messages.

That said, I kept messaging other guys until our second date (when we slept together) - and lots of them seemed quirky and fun - but again, I am very open to different types (or as some might put it, have no standards! 🤣🤣🤣)

I would try and see the funny side if you can. I’ve had a look on some of the dating threads on here - those women seem good at laughing about it! I was living with my mom during the time I was Tindering and I remember countless times running to find her in hysterics (of laughter) because I had received some hilariously dreadful message from someone, been blocked by someone appalling for no reason, etc etc.

I do realise it must feel very relentless after a while, and I just happened to get lucky!

I met three men during my old. The first completely love bombed me (I’d never experienced it before, so didn’t see it coming) then switched off, literally overnight. The second was absolutely lovely but we had very different senses of humour and just didn’t laugh together. We’re still friends though. The third is currently sat next to me, planning what he’s cooking us for dinner. Been very happily married for a long time and he’s the best person I’ve ever met.