things that give you relationship Envy

[BVP246]

i will start

couples who hold hands

Couples where the man organises stuff for them to do together, without being asked to.

Where the other partner does some of the cooking 😂

All of the above

I'll also add, genuinely asking how my day was at work and then listening.

When he knows how to take photos of her where she doesn’t look like an old potato

When couples can live together without needing to take years to introduce the change to DCs and work out finances.

When I see a man’s eyes light up at the sight of his wife/partner

Couples with seemingly long & happy marriages
Who still respect one another & communicate well
Like the Queen

When out socialising in a group or at a party etc. and he makes sure she is included in the conversation / not spoken over or ignored; and laughs at her jokes (even if nobody else does!).

sunnyzweibrucken, I’m with you on that.
I’d be happy with a few nice words.

Couples Christmas shopping for the kids together.

You never know what is going on in other people's lives. I have no relationship envy at all.
My partner is bloody useless at home and will only hold my hand on holiday and even then it's not for long but he is kind and has never shouted at me or called me names or criticised me or made me feel inadequate.
These things are not on display but they are there all the same.
He lets me have the window seat on the 'plane. Does that count ?

Money.

Love DH to pieces, but occasionally fantasise about how much easier life would be if we weren't frequently on the bones of out arses.

Nothing much wrong with the man or the marriage, but I envy couples planning exotic holidays or renovating their homes. Mine will be me slapping Wilko paint over the damp patch on the ceiling again.

@minipie

Couples where the man organises stuff for them to do together, without being asked to.

Yes! I had a friend who organised a trip to see the ballet, but he apologised to his wife that he couldn’t get ballet tickets so they were going to the opera instead….in Paris (from North America) set the bar pretty high I can tell you

So many of these. I see couples who just seem to get happier and happier as time goes by, I wonder how they do it. Maybe they’re just married to te right person

@Namechange1067949

When he knows how to take photos of her where she doesn’t look like an old potato

I've been with my husband 28 years and he's only taken my photograph once! You want to know the best part? He's a professional photographer!

Yes to organising dates.
Otherwise he's pretty good though and works so hard. So I'll keep him!

Can-do partners.
Non-depressed partners.
Partners who actively want to go places and do stuff as a family.

I can’t think of a single relationship amongst my wider friends and family that I envy. I know what happens behind the fascade; there isn’t much to be envious of.

Behind so many of these could be abusive partner.

Don't be fooled. What you see isn't always reality.

Sadly been there. Perfect husband to the dc outside world. Total cunt to me.

@Poolbridge

I can’t think of a single relationship amongst my wider friends and family that I envy. I know what happens behind the fascade; there isn’t much to be envious of.

This exactly. Dont be fooled

@PandasCatsWolves

Behind so many of these could be abusive partner.

Don't be fooled. What you see isn't always reality.

Sadly been there. Perfect husband to the dc outside world. Total cunt to me.

The dc in there is a typo.

Couples where the bloke is just as likely to pack the kid’s bag for a daytrip or holiday. Actually writes a list, knows where everything is or pops out to get what’s needed.

Only saw it once in the wild, he got it sorted (with the kid) across 10 very calm minutes. I was supposed to be chatting over a drink with his wife (my mate) but I was fixated on watching him do this seemingly-magical task.

Mostly I just see women stuck doing this (24/7) or blokes around with kids without jumpers/sunscreen/drinks, etc. It might not be like this in the wider world.

I just love the idea of sharing these niggly-but-crucial tasks. Not gonna happen in my marriage for sure. It’s the 10yo checking Dad’s got what he needs!

I envy so many of my friends who have long and seemingly happy marriages. I know that everything is not always as it seems but mine was destroyed by ExH having an affair I then had two bad relationships (one abused me financially and the other was a jealous, crazy, narcissist). Also envious of those couples who always seem to communicate so well.

Couples where they do things for each other without having to be reminded 2000000000 times.

Coupes doing things together. Even mundane chores like gardening.