He's cheating. I'm asking him to leave, what do I need

[Pleaseaddcaffine]

Long story short he's cheating, says not but caught him out in a web of lies about a woman. It is what it is and the lying alone is enough if that makes sense but I'm 99%sur eit more.
My house I own outright pre relationship. One joint child, 3 dsc.
Im asking him to leave, he has somewhere to go to namely family. But I'm prepared to give him 28 days to get something sorted.
What do I need now... sort Internet (only thing in his name). What else? Childcare? Cms?
He's going to likely fight me on him leaving but knows its what I want. I desperately wnat to keep things okay and civil for our joint child plus to ensure his relationship with half siblings is okay.

Key question -- are you married and for how long? If so, may not be quite so clear it is "your" house.

Are you married?

He has the other children/ where do they live?

It sounds like you only have to worry about closing down joint bank accounts and the childcare.
After he leaves, change locks, just child tax credits, council tax, and any insurances/ car finance/ phone contracts if you have any on your names.
You may end up in court for the divorce. I hope not. It only ends with both parties handing all the money that should go into making a nice life to their children to the solicitors.
Best luck. You have already taken the hardest step.

Are you married?

Like everyone is saying - are you married? It's a vital piece of information.

Not married hence dp, no joint assets

Sorry just realised didn't say dp, apologies its been a very long and upsetting day x

That makes it much easier for you. You can get rid without too much problem.

Start your CMS application today. From the day he leaves. They can't back date.

Excellent. If you're not married and he's not named on the mortgage or deeds then call a locksmith out on Monday and tell him he no longer lives there.

Are you able to pack up his belongings?

It's very easy, and he can't fight you on leaving! He is living in your house as your bf and you have every right to tell him to go. Point out to him that the police will remove him if he refuses.

I think 28 days is too long - tell him to pack his bags and go by next weekend. It sounds like you only need to put in for CM.

He doesn't need 28 days. I'd be giving him 24 hours..

But I'm prepared to give him 28 days to get something sorted.

NOPE. Do not do this. If you want him gone, make him leave now. Dragging it out is never a good idea and will only make things miserable for everyone. Where he goes is not your problem.

Sorry it's a shitter of a time for you. Thank goodness you're not married to him.

28 days is quite a long time, and if he drags his heels it's turn into 6 weeks, 3 months quite easily...

If he has family to go to I would get him out to theirs much sooner. In fact I would tearfully insist he goes and stays with his mum or whoever for a night "while you think about if you can forgive him" and have his main belongings in black binbags on the doorstep and a locksmith booked, by the morning.

He can't fight you on leaving. You can give him time to move out as a courtesy, but make it clear that there is no debate about him staying. CMS application, change locks, make sure he takes all his stuff
Close any joint accounts, make sure everything bills wise is in your name. Civilized discussion - hopefully - about access to your joint child.
But for now, just try to rest a bit and come to terms with what has happened. I'm sorry, its horrible

And you need to flick a switch in your brain to being utterly entirely focussed on what is best for YOU and your children. Things are likely to get ugly and you need to be starting from a strong position, not thinking in terms of being fair to the man you once loved. He's not that man any more, and very soon he's going to complete his transformation into 100% arsehole.

28 days is mental frankly OP.

7 days is generous. 28 days living with an angry liar is foolish especially when you have a child.

Cms, Internet I can do. I wnat a civil discussion ref contact and to ensure dsc are okay and see half sibling our child. They are close. He can't move that fast as 3 kids worth of stuff plus his own.
Aware he will be a knob or more likely beg to stay

Do not give him 28 days. It gives him far too many opportunities to manipulate the situation. Tell him to leave tomorrow.

Also he's with her all weekend till Monday... Its painfully laughable...so nothing can be done this weekend.

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Also he's with her all weekend till Monday... Its painfully laughable...so nothing can be done this weekend.

So he’s with her right now yet expects to stay living at yours house? Get a locksmith out and arrange a time for him to collect his stuff. He can’t use your house as a hotel

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Also he's with her all weekend till Monday... Its painfully laughable...so nothing can be done this weekend.

Then it's even more mad to give him 28 days OP!!! He's mugging you right off if you offer him that, please don't!

Do the DSC live with you too?

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Also he's with her all weekend till Monday... Its painfully laughable...so nothing can be done this weekend.

Text him now and say As you are spending the weekend with OW I assume you have moved out of my house. Our relationship is obviously over and you can collect your stuff on Tuesday (day to suit you, OP) at X o'clock. I will be in touch later about suitable access arrangements for our child.

It will fuck his happy weekend plans.