He's cheating. I'm asking him to leave, what do I need

[Pleaseaddcaffine]

Long story short he's cheating, says not but caught him out in a web of lies about a woman. It is what it is and the lying alone is enough if that makes sense but I'm 99%sur eit more.
My house I own outright pre relationship. One joint child, 3 dsc.
Im asking him to leave, he has somewhere to go to namely family. But I'm prepared to give him 28 days to get something sorted.
What do I need now... sort Internet (only thing in his name). What else? Childcare? Cms?
He's going to likely fight me on him leaving but knows its what I want. I desperately wnat to keep things okay and civil for our joint child plus to ensure his relationship with half siblings is okay.

And I'm speaking as someone whose dickhead ex demanded a divorce days before my dissertation was due in.

Three fucking years of work - and he deliberately picked a time to try and scupper that.

I got a First.

You are doing so well.

Well done for respecting yourself and being a great role model for both your DC and your DSC.

It may not feel like it now, but in the future this moment will help your children expect an honest and respectful relationship as you are showing them that is what they have the right to.

Honestly, you have done brilliantly. I'm in awe of your strength.

You are an amazing woman you have carried him and his 3 DC for years.

Block him, contact your tutor and focus on your studies.

I agree... focus on YOU lady.. block and focus on your exams 🌸

Thanks. Was having a good morning but now my brains running mad with questions... Not knowing for sure.... Questions.
Im sure it would be easier if I knew for certain, even though I do pretty much, as then I wouldn't have to think about it and wonder why and what if.
Cheers for the sensible advice. He's blocked till after exams Friday but sod this is hard.

Good luck with your exams 💐

Yes, good luck with your exams! This is so tough but we're all willing you on - look after yourself and . You can do it.

First one done and it was awful. I auve failed I think. Shitty man

Just do your best to keep calm, one day at a time

You've done so well this far. Just get through the exams as best u can, you can always resit if needs be.

Don't second guess yourself now. He's lied becos he has something to hide. He may never admit it so don't think of taking him back or hearing his side just becos you think you'll get closure.

Is there anyway you could speak to the people running the course @Pleaseaddcaffine? Explain

I have informed work who are checking. It would jsut be re sits. Work based law qualification they are paying for.

That’s something, at least @Pleaseaddcaffine.

I really admire you for keeping going. Really couldn’t have been a worse time for this to happen.

I know how bad it feel inside though 💐

Put it out your head. That exam is done.

Focus on the next one. Good luck!

Deep breaths. Just keep swimming and focus on the next exam. You can get through this.

You're a better woman that me I wouldn't give him 28 days just throw him out. He should've thought of the consequences before cheating. Well done on getting rid of the waste of space and congratulations on your new life xxx

He's been doing drugs and money and loads of shit. I just found out. Yey... More crap. I've told him supervised contact only u till clear drugs tests. Shit and I've told his exw as not fair else

I'm sadly not surprised. What is his "hobby"?

He never deserved you and your lovely DS deserves so much more. Thank goodness you never moved or started an extension for his DC.

Keep on keeping on

Blimey @Pleaseaddcaffine you've had a lucky escape there. Be kind to yourself and good luck with your exams x

Motorsport won't say which type

Urghhhhh

I knew Sean Emmett's ex-wife hmmmm they are a certain "type" for sure...

Yep eventually I'll be fine. But right now I can eat, can't sleep, feel like I'm having a panic attack or something all the time. I just wnat to curl into a ball n sleep.

We're all routing for you @pleasesendcaffine

You're being so brave xxxx

Continue to protect yourself OP.

You had a home and he had three children to house.
No doubt you were targeted for your home and childcare.

He is a user.

Learn from this.
Protect yourself better in future.

You deserve better that to be used.