To want more children...

[MillenialMumma]

I'm 31 years old and I have 3 beautiful babies (11 yo daughter and 6 yo twins - boy/girl) and when people randomly ask me if I want anymore I wholeheartedly, without hesitation say YES. To which these people then ask me, "are you crazy?" 😑 I've been pleading and negotiating with my husband to have a 4th, my children are dying for a baby, but my husband says no and gives me the ultimatum of either getting onto contraception or him get a vasectomy. I'm heartbroken. I didn't want him getting a vasectomy because I'm praying he'll come around, so I'm now on contraception. Just wanted to know if I'm asking for something ludicrous or if my husband and others are being bumholes :) I believe having children already doesn't mean I don't have the right to want another. Thanks MumsNet fam xx

@MrsTerryPratchett

www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/all-about-sex/201703/teen-pregnancies-fall-school-sex-ed-doesn-t-work-huh

Why parents should talk about sex with their children.

Thanks for the link, so kind of you to go out of your way to send it through xx

OP I can't say i fully understand your worldview, but you're an absolute hoot

Agreed! (About the hoot part) Again so witty!

@Grimsknee

OP I can't say i fully understand your worldview, but you're an absolute hoot

@Grimsknee @Jesskir89 Imagine we all had the same worldview, how dull would that be?! Thank you for all your lovely words, I'm so grateful ❤

You will be so stretched with the children you've got when they are teenagers.

I get it OP I really do. I’ve 3 also (fraternal twins 7 and a 14 month old) I would love another one but when my husband and I sat down and looked at the pros and cons it turns out it isn’t the right thing for us. My husband was in the no camp from the outset but when we actually sat down and discussed it as a partnership in detail and from each other’s viewpoint, I gained so much clarity about the situation. It hasn’t stopped the yearning at times but that has been easier to manage since we came to a collective decision together. It’s no longer overwhelming. Perhaps something you can both do together?

You know what @Ginmonkey84, we haven't even been able to do this because whenever I used to want to talk about it he'd just disregard my attempts to open the topic and shut me out completely.
Well, he got what he wanted in the end because I know I can't force him to want something so huge and that's fine. I just don't think it was fair. I yearn all the time, I hope I can be as strong as you and I hope it gets easier 😔
Thank you so much for your compassion, your children and hubby are lucky to have you ❤

You are doing your 11 year old no favours.

"so she can rip the nuts off said boys"
Seriously- all due respect OP, she first needs education about what and where the nuts are :-)